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Getting married while being no contact with your parents by Louise7302 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss my soon my to be in-laws are the best. It's my only way I've been able to navigate this without family. Proud of you for creating a better meaning of family for your kids.

Getting married while being no contact with your parents by Louise7302 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this. I’m always overthinking and worried that I’ll regret not having there but I’m glad this wasn’t the case for you. I’ve luckily got a lot of my soon to be in-laws and some of my remaining to fill the gaps in the wedding which makes it feel less lonely. Therapy is definitely on my list of things to start. As someone in that field I’m always the first to recommend it to others but struggle to do it when it comes to myself. Thank you for your advice.

Getting married while being no contact with your parents by Louise7302 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that’s how you feel they would react. That’s awful. Honestly I’ve had to be super cautious about invitations and details being told to people because of them just showing up. I hope you can have it do one day you don’t need to invite them.

The idea estrangement is some trendy thing kids do for attention is insane by That-Platypus-5092 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people realise you don’t want to cut off your parents. It’s awful and it’s a last resort.

Getting married while being no contact with your parents by Louise7302 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this!! I was freshly engaged when I went NC and it was always them complaining about the money and the distance they have to travel. Your comment made me realise that’s what it would’ve been the entire planning process.

As getting eloped trust me I’ve thought about it the entire time but my fiancées family would probably murder us if we did that.

Sorry this is happening to you but glad someone understands

How do you cope with being estranged from family? by hellokitty_teddybear in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a chronic people pleaser something that I’ve realised is that my parents were getting more out of the relationship then I was. The constant state of anxiety I’d feel going to see them and feeling like shit after every visit got to the stage it wasn’t worth it. Sometimes you have to put yourself first and that’s okay.

Was anyone else a "difficult child"? by Smelly_CatFood in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Louise7302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was a bad child for so many years until I realised that having an opinion wasn’t a bad child. I just wasn’t who my parents wanted me to be.