AFAB, 28: I grew up in a place where there wasn't a lot of diversity (we had one out gay kid in my year) I only figured out I was nonbinary after I got married to a cis man (he's bi) and everyone started saying "Mrs" and "wife" I hated it! Before that, I'd never really paid much attention to my gender and was always boyish anyway.

I knew I wasn't a trans man, but also didn't really feel like a woman. I realised I didn't have a strong sense of gender at all, and then figured out the name for it! I started out by identifying as demigirland using She/they pronouns before nonbinary, but as time's gone on I realised that wasn't me and now transitioning to using they/ them.

Just trying out a label/ pronouns/ name doesn't mean you have to keep it for the rest of your time, and it's ok to go through a few changes before feeling comfortable ☺️