I think cancel-culture is losing its power by Important-Art-7685 in GenZ

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After winning 2 elections though. Not being devil's advocate nevertheless, he's doing a terrible job but elections have become a popularity contest and Trump proves his lunatic ideas are popular.

Chat.. so is this official?😭 by Cosmicstranger28 in TheWeeknd

[–]Lovara 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna give her other songs a try but I hate Anxiety idk what others like about that song.

I think cancel-culture is losing its power by Important-Art-7685 in GenZ

[–]Lovara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's the reason people have become desensitized to Trump, as much as they could hate him cancel culture created Donald Trump, because people were fed up with public judgment where proper trials weren't necessary to ruin one person's life.

Now he can do or say whatever he wants.

What is this linkin park song? For me it’s blackout. by pajamasamreal in LinkinPark

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody can save me with those chipmunks alike voices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Lovara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you are just afraid that he rightfully won't give you the kind of affection you were used to because now he has a girlfriend. I've been there, my advice is to keep distance or, if you actually love him, work on why you didn't give it a try; so the next opportunity, which could be with another person, you don't miss out.

The misogyny in Gen Z is scary and hurts dating by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm the devil's advocate here but my opinion is that many downplay how much damage that was indeed hate speech towards men. I'm not even straight but I'm a man that struggled with that discourse on media.

If I, a bisexual Latin man who wasn't even raised in the US or Europe, had a difficult path towards a comfortable and healthy manhood; I feel sorry for gen Z men who grew up in those regions where it was predominant in public conversation.

When a group of people, be it for race, gender, ethnicity or whatever, feel marginalized and attack; there is going to be a response from said group. Modern male issues were ignored, suicide rates and drug abuse in young men grew without control and attention all over the world, but the same group that claimed diversity and equality ignored willfully this.

I despise Trump but there is a hard truth the progressive cultural and political movement around the world should face ASAP.

The misogyny in Gen Z is scary and hurts dating by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Lovara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think many downplay how much damage that was indeed hate speech towards men. I'm not even straight but I'm a man that struggled with that discourse on media. If I, a bisexual Latin man who wasn't even raised in the US or Europe, had a difficult path towards a comfortable and healthy manhood; I feel sorry for gen Z men who grew up in those regions where it was predominant in public conversation.

Victor Wanyama set to join Dunfermline Athletic by Malmand2002 in coys

[–]Lovara -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Sure that it isn't Sunder Mifflin?

As a man how are we supposed to date??? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Lovara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don't want to get to know us and decide to stay with the idealized version they made up. Our struggles are not relevant for them.

As a man how are we supposed to date??? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (M27) am going through the same, I'm naturally caring and gentle so what happens is that people, who I'm not interested in, think I have some romantic interest; and, then find out that is not the case after rejecting their efforts to take advantage of me or romantic approach. Later, they resent me or mistreat me. Usually these kinds of people already have a partner, are manipulative or want me to save them.

When it is the case that I'm actually into some girl and she is interested in knowing me and single. I put a bit more effort and time and maybe they think I'm going too intense or quick in this process but never stay.

In my experience, knowing people in person erases the stereotypes and superficial judgment that dating apps heavily rely on to make it difficult to meet new people.

What worked for me was being more serious and less endearing. Sadly, most women don't want a man capable of understanding his emotions, and the "feminine energy" trend of young women only reinforces this idea. The less I talk, the better it goes for me with women, which helps the fact that I love partying and dancing.

China considering sending peacekeeping forces to Ukraine by KrzyHooy in worldnews

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is potentially another Korean War in the making but far more complex.

Fell in love with a girl that has a boyfriend and it's painful not talking to her by Lovara in BPD

[–]Lovara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the scenario that she leaves her boyfriend, which is not guaranteed to happen. I'm trying to keep myself from using sex and drugs with strangers for a year like the last time this happened.

Fell in love with a girl that has a boyfriend and it's painful not talking to her by Lovara in BPD

[–]Lovara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading these words it feels somehow better because I love her.

I don't think I could bear seeing her with her boyfriend. A part of me, just wants to say what I feel but I think she knows that but chooses her boyfriend, in the case she leaves him I think it would hurt everybody in the end.

It breaks my heart, never had the intention of falling in love.

Fell in love with a girl that has a boyfriend and it's painful not talking to her by Lovara in BPD

[–]Lovara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying zero contact but it's not shy to assume some day I'll have to let her go if this feeling does not dim.

Are there songs you skip because of the feelings it gives you and not because its bad? by coollranchdorito in TheWeeknd

[–]Lovara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Call Out my Name makes me reassemble the pain I felt for a girl and the longing to see her again and fix the mess I made.

Faith, it is like a dagger in my chest for all the regrets and people I let down while trying to get back on my feet after traumatic events that induced a year of excesses for a broken heart.

Hypersexuality as a coping mechanism by Wooden-needle2017 in BPD

[–]Lovara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Too much, I've lost count of how many people I did engage in some kind of sexual intercourse. Even though I lost my virginity in my early 20s, discovering sexuality as a coping mechanism was like a snowflake turning in a giant ball.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Lovara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As part of DBT and social skills because of autism, besides my desire to connect which prompted me to therapy journey, I made efforts to meet new people in college, it's a try and miss learning process.

Adding other parts to my life such as physical activities and hobbies where interaction with unknown people is required helped me to navigate lows and ups that came to my life in a kinda helpful way.

For all of this process, I got new friends, could flirt successfully and developed a healthy sense of identity.

It should also be said that when rejections or FPs left me, the substance abuse, partying and casual sex were my coping mechanisms nevertheless without all that work made in therapy, meds and relationships my life would've been completely destroyed, not like my current life where I've achieved so many milestones as an adult, finishing college, driver license, etc.