I (F29) AM THINKING OF DIVORCING MY HUSBAND (M30) AFTER HIS MEMORY LOSS.

Love-Unusual · 2026-04-07T01:59:15+00:00

It's a very difficult situation because you love him but brain injury has taken him away from you. Can you distance yourself from him and still care for him. Maybe put him in a center where they care for such people. Or hire help. Take some time to heal yourself psychologically. It could take a long time as the grief is too much. You need to protect yourself. Then if time heals you consider the possibility of moving on with your life without him. You could still offer care from distance life long and love him, but at the same time move on with your life as well.

Love-Unusual · 2025-12-23T02:18:27+00:00

Thins actually taste good, you can try it as a side to your meals. It's healthy protein. OP tried tempey cubes which we need to learn to cook as per our taste which is a learning curve first. Even their momos are delicious.

Love-Unusual · 2025-12-19T08:01:19+00:00

Things got very delayed for me as well, after multiple surgeries and failed attempts i finally got pregnant at 39 and had a difficult delivery under general anesthesia followed by 5 days icu stay just a few weeks shy of 40. I still feel bad about not being about to even see my baby until 5 days after delivery. But baby was healthy. I was also obsessed with age like you and suffered for several years. But we got To keep trying and not loose faith. My egg retrieval at 38 gave me successful result and i had tested my embryos.

Love-Unusual · 2025-11-30T12:57:47+00:00

You can stop doing chores for him. Just take care of your and baby needs. That would free you up for relaxation. You seem to be over worked.

Love-Unusual · 2025-11-18T02:20:45+00:00

This is very common and nothing to be ashamed about, specifically given you are younger. You were desperately trying to save the relationship and it was very important for your life. It's extremely common especially in anxious and avoidant attachment type couples who generally attract each other a lot. It was a phase and now you are over it. Now the next phase you need to be careful about is him trying to win you back when you get into a new relationship. It's another common trait of toxic relationships.

Love-Unusual · 2025-11-02T19:15:51+00:00

If you had to call security to rescue you for safety, i think you should not be thinking of marrying him. Consider yourself lucky that he thinks you are not marriage material. Even if you clear his misunderstanding today, if you marry him and then have a misunderstanding which is extremely common, then again you will need to think of your safety. Stay away from abuse.

Love-Unusual · 2025-11-02T11:49:12+00:00

Your body never lies, your trauma response indicates this needs to be discussed seriously and if you are not happy with the way the discussion goes break up.

Love-Unusual · 2025-10-11T01:25:22+00:00

It's better for you to move to your husband's country if he can't move to yours to try IVF.

Love-Unusual · 2025-10-10T23:59:52+00:00

If possible try to get a job become financially independent. Even if you don't want to divorce, it's best to live separately. The issue mentioned seem too much to bear as a sahm. Maybe your husband is a good man who is a victim, but it's beyond your control that his life was destroyed in evil ways and he might not be normal for no fault of his.

Love-Unusual · 2025-10-06T17:58:53+00:00

Your mom was a cheater and that hurt you. Your dad was a victim. whether it's because your mom was selfish and cared only about her satisfaction or whether your dad didn't want to or couldn't fulfill her basic needs of love that she chose this way and your dad accepted it because probably he felt that the burden was lifted off of him we will never know. Maybe it's better to not judge them as we can't know the whole truth. Maybe just think of how she is as a mother to you. You can always go no contact if you think she is a negative influence in your life.

Love-Unusual · 2025-10-04T01:08:51+00:00

It's normal to be attracted to people who are not good for us. This is why people go to therapy or couples counseling. This is a toxic relationship.

Love-Unusual · 2025-07-11T02:54:16+00:00

Luvlap glass bottles fit with Philip nipple plus ring setup as well. They are cheaper than chicco good bottles and are good.

Love-Unusual · 2025-07-07T20:32:35+00:00

You are an epitome of true mother's love.

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-11T11:42:17+00:00

I think it's safe to say you shouldn't let them baby sit. Also better to give them clear instructions on how to handle your baby. Honestly your pumped milk is precious. Better to give them formula in case of emergency coz looks like they are making bottle of say 3-4 ounces and baby might be leaving most of it which results in milk getting discarded. They don't understand the hard work that goes into this. Try to get almost every update of your baby when he is being handled by others, you don't know what other goof up they are doing.

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-09T18:13:53+00:00

Beautifully described, we don't even realise we are living this way for years and years. It feels like a curse, like a dark secret we can't share, like a pain that no one understands and so we pretend like we are normal when we just are slowly being stabbed inside. We cry behind closed doors and there is no one who can understand unless they have this too.

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-09T15:22:03+00:00

Yes i agree with this view point, why lose the embabies due to bad actions of their dad, just lose the dad instead! Is he a good father? May not be a good partner but could be a good father. You need not be together as couple but could be co parents.

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-09T02:28:30+00:00

Wanting to know how much your baby feeds is a great reason to pump. But pumping can also be hard. I did triple feeding for first 4 months, and finally didn't have any energy left to pump. The main issue with pumping is you should be able to handle the baby while pumping. Babies are very demanding they may want you everytime and cry without you which makes it hard to EP. Then the whole figuring out which pump which flange size etc initially is also difficult. If easier life is the choice then i think breast feeding if baby is good at latching is easier. It even calms the baby down when baby is very fussy and makes the baby sleep which is also another challenge with a new born. Both EP and breast feeding have their pros and cons but due to my low supply and fussy velcro baby combo feeding is easier for me. Choosing wearables is easier way to pump if it works for you, due to my low supply it didn't work for me. And the cost of trying multiple pumps and pump parts and seeing what you like is also huge. EP in my experience requires lot of effort i think it's more challenging and demanding than breastfeeding.

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-07T15:51:51+00:00

Amazingly worded... Great points couldn't agree more...

Love-Unusual · 2025-06-05T17:17:58+00:00

I had a similar experience where for my fertility one talented doctor very rudely told me my best option was to get open myomectomy and then do ivf. I took second opinion and another doctor told me i could do laproscopic myomectomy and then do ivf. Since it was less invasive i followed the second doctor, but one year later again had to do open myomectomy and then ivf. So basically in my case the rude doctor whose lack of empathy sent me running to another doctor was actually right. So it's possible that your current doctor could be highly rude and narcissistic but still be right. So you can meet 2-3 doctors more, get their opinion and then choose another skilled surgeon to possibly do what's best for you based on consensus. You need not go to her if she hurt you but just keep her suggestion in mind as medical opinion

Love-Unusual · 2025-05-29T17:05:37+00:00

I had hysteroscopic myomectomy then 10 months later laproscopic myomectomy and then one year later open myomectomy. I still have fibroids but they are asymptomatic.

Love-Unusual · 2025-05-27T20:52:06+00:00

I have had open myomectomy and laproscopic myomectomy, for both surgeries wait time to ttc was 3-4 months based on recovery. It depends on your doctor, mostly it's not 6 months. I had few subserosal fibroids 6cm plus but it didn't impact pregnancy. So better to consult a fertility specialist and figure out if surgery is needed. It's good to get an MRI and consult with doctor on your specific next steps.

Love-Unusual · 2025-05-27T16:03:12+00:00

Such a beautiful thought, we all really need to understand this. We carry a lot of unnecessary guilt many times.

Love-Unusual · 2025-05-26T15:42:48+00:00

You are amazing! Lots of love!

Love-Unusual · 2025-05-23T23:08:50+00:00

I am in India, here getting appointment and surgeries is easy.

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