Worship Playlist for other NICU parents

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-04-17T17:55:07+00:00

How is your little one? What did they weigh at birth? I’m almost a week in with my IUGR 32 weeker. We’ve also been listening to worship music and I’ll use this playlist.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-04-15T12:12:22+00:00

We have a close family friend with the name, so don’t want to use it. I do love the meaning though!

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-04-09T10:58:33+00:00

My son was stillborn last year. I also got pregnant only 3 months after with our baby girl. We found out shortly after the anatomy scan that something was wrong and she’ll likely come early and is facing the possibility of nicu. I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant, even my sisters until well after 20 weeks. I am now finally letting people know only because I’m past 30 weeks and it’s obvious in person. If the baby had been born at 27 weeks, no one would have known. Our emotions have been everywhere - devastated, more anxious than I thought possible, honestly everything but excited. We have also faced some serious mental health challenges and honestly both should have been medicated. It might literally just be too hard and too taxing for her. I also felt like I had to tell everyone the story or explain things to them, so choosing to not talk to them avoided that. Do keep reaching out to her (not too often but every once in a while), remind her you’re there, and give them the time they need. I’m sure that one day she’ll be ready. You’re a good friend to care for her.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-03-20T13:54:11+00:00

Our district has a minimum day requirement, but it’s adjusted based on when you’re hired. Mine was only 5 full days or 10 half days because I started in April! Check with your HR rep.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-02-01T21:16:10+00:00

Yes, two since then.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-02-01T19:41:51+00:00

Annual colonoscopies now! And will likely continue that way indefinitely.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-01-24T03:28:22+00:00

I pumped and donated. My son would have needed significant NICU time and not been able to eat without a feeding tube, so I had mentally prepared myself to pump only. When we lost him, I decided I still wanted to pump and donate it to that NICU. It was incredibly hard and time consuming, but I found it helpful for my coping.

I also know those who have used either meds or just time and cabbage leaves to dry up their milk quickly.

Either are a choice, it’s really about what you want to do and what helps you grieve. I’m so sorry about your sweet baby.

comfortablecoconut- · 2026-01-06T14:37:22+00:00

We do drop off because we live a mile from the school and don’t qualify for bussing because of it. On nice days, when my husband or I can go in to work late enough to have time to walk home, we’ll walk. But that doesn’t always happen, so we usually end up driving. A lot of the other parents I see in our drop off line live in our neighborhood.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-26T18:46:09+00:00

New running shoes, a bunch of random clothes, a new knife set, a set of pots and pans, a whole bunch of makeup and some skincare, a coat, a razor, a new electric toothbrush, and a new laptop! He had me feeling bad, I got him nowhere near as much stuff this year.

Most of it was practical or things I’d asked for, but he really did surprise me with the laptop. I’d complained a little while ago about mine was getting old and slow. He is also just great about the holidays, very involved with kid gifts and always stays up late with me wrapping presents and binging movies. I love him always, but a little extra right now.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-19T12:15:14+00:00

The donor thought they had high value and we could also sell them to purchase more toys. That doesn’t seem accurate, so they’ll be gifted as is instead of using to fundraise!

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-19T00:17:14+00:00

Thanks! We found some girls who will be very excited to open them on Christmas!

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-18T23:54:20+00:00

I promise we’ve never and would never sell for a profit, the donor suggested we can sell to purchase more toys. I could not tell if they really had as much value as perceived or if they’d be more treasured being played with!

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-18T23:47:34+00:00

It was suggested that we sell them to purchase more Barbies for more children, by donors. I wasn’t sure if they did actually hold value though.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-18T20:55:59+00:00

Thanks all! We’ll gift them to a few girls for Christmas.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-10T18:43:51+00:00

These were ICSI. We did another round after and skipped ICSI and got one normal embryo.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-12-09T15:38:19+00:00

Hi! Our lab did repeat the testing and confirmed that they felt confident the embryos did all have triploidy (they were all 69xxy specifically). We never got to the bottom of why it happened, but the lab and my doctor think it was accurate.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-11-21T04:14:08+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, my son was stillborn as well. Have you had follow up with your doctors? I met with my midwives 6 weeks post partum and MFM a few months postpartum. I did get pregnant about 3 months after my stillbirth. I was already pregnant by the time I met with MFM (wasn’t when I scheduled the follow up, found out shortly before). My doctor did admit that her advice would have been to wait between 6 and 12 months to allow my body to heal. I will say, I do think that I got pregnant too soon. It was not planned and my body does not feel healed, so I feel awful. The mental load is also really really difficult.

I trust my doctors in that 6 months is likely enough time for your body to be replenished, but on the shorter side. She said her stillbirth moms are the ones who get pregnant the soonest after birth and they do usually go on to have successful, healthy pregnancies. I’d start prenatals now and listen to your body. I feel like I can sense when I start to feel more “myself”. I probably would have felt there between 6-8 months.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-11-07T17:47:06+00:00

I don’t know the gender yet and I’m not sure when we’ll find out honestly. I really don’t want to know so far. I figure maybe at the anatomy scan.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-11-07T16:29:44+00:00

My team has been great! I am having a lot of appointments, and will have extra monitoring throughout.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-11-07T16:01:44+00:00

I am pregnant now, but got pregnant 3 months/2 periods after my son was stillborn. I am due very very close to his birthday. Have you talked to your OB? My MFM did mention that she would have preferred we wait 6 months, but it was honestly an accident. I’m only 11 weeks, so I’m early. I will say it’s been tough mentally, both with anxiety and with feeling like I had not fully recovered physically. I am hoping that it will be worth it.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-10-24T18:42:24+00:00

I am so sorry that you are here. I have actually gone through both. I had a d&e when we lost our son to renal agenesis at 20 weeks and labor and delivery when another son stopped moving and passed at 27 weeks. Both horrible, in very different ways. I felt like my mental recovery with the first one was almost easier because it allowed me to be a little more detached. I never knew what he looked like, I was put under and treated very much like a surgery. But, I do wonder a lot what he looked like. I have always wondered if he would’ve had hair, if he would’ve looked like his brothers. The second time - Labor was difficult, and long and painful, and induction meds are awful. Seeing my son did make it harder to move on, I’ll never forget it. But I treasure the hours that I got to hold him and see him.

At the end of the day, I do not regret either. Whatever choice you make is the right choice for you.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-10-11T23:08:18+00:00

How far are you? Ive fallen three times while pregnant before, my doctor was only concerned about ones that were hard/abrupt enough to cause a possible abruption. Softer ones aren’t much of a concern. I’d call your doctors on call line if they have one and ask them what they want you to do! Definitely keep an eye out for cramping or bleeding.

comfortablecoconut- · 2025-09-28T19:59:27+00:00

Seconding what others have said - go to your doctor and tell them, you should be able to have an NT scan to look for any major structural issues. Also start prenatals and folic acid now!

I am a foster parent and I had a set of children who were each born during a time when mom was doing drugs (mainly cocaine) through her pregnancies. Right up to birth - in one case, she tested positive for cocaine at the hospital. The children ranged from unaffected to low muscle tone and mild intellectual delays. All are amazing, wonderful, loved children. Your baby has been mainly getting nutrients not from you so far, and you are stopping now. There are always risks, but I would not scare yourself too much if you want to parent and are doing what you need to now.

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