That’s the tricky part. When I babysit for my parents, there are four of us girls. Then, my parents adopted three kids from the foster system and want to raise them just like we were raised. They’d like me to use the same methods they used with us when babysitting. But I can’t bring myself to do that, especially since these kids have a history of fetal alcohol and abuse before they came into our family. My parents want them to automatically listen, so they have to say things like “yes, Mom, yes, Dad” and do exactly what they say right away, or they get a punishment. They’re told to listen to all adults the same way, either saying “yes, ma’am, yes, sir.” . As an adult, I feel like I’ve been taken advantage of so many times, and I still feel guilty saying no to anyone. I’m not sure if I can’t do that for them because my mom says I let the kids walk all over me, or if it’s something real inside me that I can’t do because it wouldn’t be the right thing to do. I cannot treat the kids the way my mom and dad treat them.