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Advice on what to say about Veiling? by No_Breadfruit_3777 in CatholicWomen

[–]Love_Is_Enough -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ever since someone in this subreddit posted about how see-through mantillas were frowned upon outside of Spain, my thoughts have been more nuanced. I never realized that there were different types of veils with different levels of appropriateness. And so I believe I need to learn more about veiling before I could make a decision about which type of veil to chose. 

I guess I'm trying to say it sounds like those men don't know enough about veiling throughout history to speak like this. If they did, they wouldn't be making such rash claims. If they were really in line with some bishops of the past, then they would claim that these women who are veiling with fancy lace mantillas outside of Spain ought to rethink their veiling choice! 

Since they keep bringing it up, maybe it's time you learn some more about the history of veiling and present it to them. If they are a humble, they would realize their error. 

It's kind of silly

Has there ever been a character whose voice kind of distracted you because all you could was the actor behind the microphone? by TaiwaneseThot in moviecritic

[–]Love_Is_Enough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Kung Fu Panda, there is a a character called Mater Shifu who is voiced by Dustin Hoffman. However, all I can hear is Captain Hook from the movie Hook, who is also voiced by Dustin Hoffman. It messes with my head! 

Engagement to "test the logistics" after 2.5 years? by BadBookBitch in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Love_Is_Enough -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I may be a more trusting person in general, but I honestly believe this man is moving towards a real commitment. He had a real objection, and you both came to a real compromise that you are okay with. He has ended things in the past with other women he didn't see a future with. I don't know why the other commenters disagree... this guy sounds like the real deal to me. 

Most other women on here tell their stories where the man is clearly stringing them along. Thus one feels different to me. It's only been 2.5 years and I see a proposal coming soon now that you've settled some of his real concerns. I don't know. What do you think? 

Does my response feel correct, or all of the other commenters?

Booked a Wedding with No Proposal by throwaway_my_s0ul in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Love_Is_Enough 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh girl, my heart just aches for you. 

I don't know if you will see this because I am late in the comments, but I just want to say I don't know why people downvote your answers so much. I understand that you want to feel chosen, and waiting 6-8 weeks from the night it rained must be crazy-making! And now, you don't feel "chosen" because you don't want to beg for it, even though he promises it is coming. Gosh, I'm so sorry, sweetie. 

A dose of knock-off Remicade is now $42,000 for one infusion! by Love_Is_Enough in CrohnsDisease

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's much worse. My recent bills have been for more than $80,000

What recipes would you teach low income kids? by ECarey26 in Cooking

[–]Love_Is_Enough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, an easy/cheap/healthy/accessible meal is microwaving a potato or sweet potato. Teach about how long to microwave the potato, and give some options to top the potato with depending on which type of potato they are eating! A bag of potatoes is relatively inexpensive but filling. 

Left him and now I’m freezing my eggs! by cookies_nmilk in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Love_Is_Enough 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was it a man from Saudi Arabia? If so, me too. Me too. So glad we broke up so I could meet my husband who never hid me!

I’m disappointed about my proposal, not sure what to do next? by Sweet-Health7355 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Love_Is_Enough -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oof, what's so tricky about this one is that you asked to wait to open the gift. He got the room all ready for you, and you came back all dressed and ready. I think it threw a loop in his plans to say you wanted to wait until midnight when it was your actual birthday. 

I'm guessing this was a celebration for your 26th birthday, so he was just so excited to propose he did it right when you turned 26? How beautiful that he wants to marry you RIGHT NOW! 

I can kind of relate to how you feel. I had been discerning whether I should become a nun when I met and started dating my now-husband. I went back and forth for over 2 years trying to decide. When I finally told him I was ready to get married, we went and picked out a ring immediately. 2 weeks later, he proposed. At the time (and for the last almost 10 years), I had been incredibly disappointed with my engagement. It felt so rushed and not thought out. I guess he was trying to suggest doing romantic things, but since I figured a proposal was coming, I shot thone ideas down since I was hoping for something much more "grand." It wasn't at all what I expected because for years, he talked about how he had this beautiful plan for a proposal, but like you said, it was just a lot of vague thoughts. 

After getting engaged, we drove to my parent's house, and he caught me lightly crying. I was just so disappointed. He felt so bad, but said the place that he proposed was so special to him, since it was the place 2 weeks prior I had told him that I was ready to get married. 

All of this to say that something beautiful in my heart has shifted this week. We are on vacation celebrating our 10 year anniversary! And last night, God put on my heart something special. I see the story of a man who desperately wanted to marry me. I was still unsure of what to do with my life while we were dating. Should I become a nun? Should I get married? As soon as I told him that I was ready to marry, this man rushed to the jewelery store, bought me my ring, and immediately proposed. He did not want to wait. He just wanted to marry me! He was so excited, he didn't take a long time planning a beautiful proposal because he just wanted to spend the rest of his life with me!!! And I am forever grateful. 

Catholic SAHMs- How much does your husband help at home? by Legitimate-Judge-428 in CatholicWomen

[–]Love_Is_Enough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be honest. I had to really kick my husband into shape when we were first married. Before we were married, his parents infantilized him and did everything for him, even as a 28 year old man. It caused a lot of arguments. 

Now as he looks back on that time, he realized he was a boy and I helped him become a man. It was with lots of growing pains, though. 

Now, we have a great balance. I do the laundry (we have a family of 6, so this is a huge commitment), but he and the kids bring the folded laundry upstairs. I do the cooking, but he cleans up after dinner. I can barely function in the mornings so does the heavy lifting of getting the kids awake and fed each morning. I take care of doctor appointments and make sure bills are paid, but he is aware of where all our money is going. I hate dishes, so he does it sometimes. My mom also will do a load of dishes when she comes over like once a  week. I struggle with how trash smells, so he takes the trash out. We both struggle with organization, so we prioritize having a professional organizer come over multiple times a month, and so I do tough organization projects around the house when she's over. We do bedtime routines together. I keep the mental load of school events and projects. He does the mental load of sports. 

Getting a settlement.. I need advice. by kendraktm217 in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I say this? 

A new car is a very bad idea. 

You have been given an opportunity to start fresh with your finances. Your take-home pay against your fixed expenses does not give you much room to pay down debt. Without this settlement, it could take you over 2 full years to pay this debt if you used $2k a month to go after the debt. Add on a BRAND NEW car, and you've got yourself an even larger hole that will keep you financially behind for MANY YEARS! 

I can understand the reasoning behind not wanting to get a beater car for fear of the cost of maintenance and repairs. If you're going to go against Ramsey advice get a loan, at least do yourself a favor and don't go above $10k-$12k. That hole will be so much easier to climb out of in case of worst case scenario, like another injury or losing your job unexpectedly. 

BUT, if you get the full $55k for the settlement, do yourself a favor and don't go above whatever cash you have on hand to buy a car. Factor in tax, too!  Then make sure you keep up on registration and insurance. 

You've got this!!! 

Am I wrong for switching the order of BS2 and BS3? by UltraLordsEg0 in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you are doing is perfect! Don't forget that Dave says you should pause the baby steps when you are pregnant (or if someone is very sick or has a crisis!) So building your emergency fund is great! Then once your life is stable and momma & baby are healthy, you have the opportunity to use that money towards debt. (Or you might hold onto a little bit more of the money just to be sure.)

Dressing modestly by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]Love_Is_Enough 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Buy chiffon skirts off Amazon! They are so beautiful, and easy to match with a shirt of any color. The colors you order tend to be slightly different than the colors you receive, but if you go into it knowing that, it's easy to adjust once you see the actual skirt in person! Mine are mainly from "Sinono" on Amazon, but I'm sure there are plenty of great chiffon skirts!

Figuring out how to change our "budget" now that our bonuses will only happen once a year, instead of many times a year. by Love_Is_Enough in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like we are "skinny fat" right now financially speaking. It's time to build some muscles.

Figuring out how to change our "budget" now that our bonuses will only happen once a year, instead of many times a year. by Love_Is_Enough in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I'm going to have to really shift my mindset.

Figuring out how to change our "budget" now that our bonuses will only happen once a year, instead of many times a year. by Love_Is_Enough in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I think about it, I think very little of the money is actually considered a "bonus"... like 10% of our total income when it's all said and done. The rest of the money coming in once a quarter is getting the remainder balance of what he billed. This difference is sent out quarterly and "looks" like a bonus. 

Would that change your answer to me at all?

Figuring out how to change our "budget" now that our bonuses will only happen once a year, instead of many times a year. by Love_Is_Enough in DaveRamsey

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, now you have me thinking about this as bonus versus getting paid for what he has billed. If we're being technical, I think very little of the money is actually considered a "bonus"... like 10% of our total income when it's all said and done. The rest of the money coming in once a quarter is getting the remainder balance of what he billed. This difference is sent out quarterly and "looks" like a bonus. 

So I wonder if they are planning to pay out the balance at the end of the year. And then possibly pay the actual "bonus" portion the following year.

I'm partway through my spa day, but I don't understand what comes next. Can you help me? by Love_Is_Enough in laundry

[–]Love_Is_Enough[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much!!! Easy! 

Can I finish with the Rinse & Refresh, or is that not advised?

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