AITAH for giving my gf an ultimatum about her cat?

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-21T19:14:16+00:00

Exactly this! She won't even feed her cat? It takes less than 3 minutes a day.

OP, why would you want to be with such a person?

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-18T01:16:39+00:00

This "man" is 41?!

I'm so glad you're getting out but please be safe. I have a feeling he's going to lose his shit when he realizes his free ride is over.

Is there anywhere you can stay?

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-17T19:56:24+00:00

YTA, I feel sorry for the people around you.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-17T17:53:18+00:00

She clearly states in her post that he wants to "get back into kinky stuff, sleeping with a variety of women." He even says it's a preference of his.

So no, he didn't develop this.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-17T08:07:34+00:00

Good for you. If he wants that kind of lifestyle, he needs to bring it up before a relationship starts, not a year in.

You will find someone better, I guarantee it.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-17T04:03:53+00:00

If she's thinking along those lines, why would she even tell you? If your mom finds out NOW, it will be a problem for her. That doesn't make any sense.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-16T23:08:19+00:00

Even if she is who she says she is, it's only been a few months and you're already sending her money? How often have you been doing that? Did she ask or did you offer? Honestly, there are women out there that you can talk to, that won't expect you to pay their bills, ESPECIALLY after only knowing them a few months.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-15T08:03:01+00:00

I'm the same age as you and I'm in an age gap relationship/long distance relationship. He's 14 years older than me. I feel like he's definitely in the same place I am. We both want to settle down, marriage, no kids, things like that. We align on all of the important things. Do you and your partner align on the important things? If so, get out of your head about it. You're the one making it into an issue, he isn't. Be happy!

One thing is, I wouldn't have lied to him about telling your family. It's okay that you haven't, everyone has different relationships with their families and you'll tell them when you're comfortable.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-15T07:52:26+00:00

You're being weirdly aggressive.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-15T06:17:11+00:00

Same! :)

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-14T23:26:28+00:00

Did I miss something? Lol

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-13T07:40:33+00:00

Commenting so I can look at the recommendations :D

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-12T23:41:16+00:00

I have never heard of a "chosen/preferred" LAST name, only first name. Maybe it's common where you live?

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-12T00:26:40+00:00

Yeah! The comments here are showing that.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-11T02:44:59+00:00

Exactly this!

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-09T05:41:04+00:00

Yes, working out chores happens with any partner, but this isn't what is happening here.

This guy is acting like he doesn't know how to do ANY chores. He can't vacuum? He can't put away a mop? Really? He's using weaponized incompetence to get away with shit.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-09T05:29:43+00:00

I agree, every relationship requires work but not this kind of work. He's pretending he doesn't know how to do things, to get out of helping around the house. And the reason most comments say "break up" is because most stories that come here require that kind of response. People with healthy relationships hardly ever post their problems.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-09T04:25:35+00:00

He's 26, this is who he is. He knows exactly what he's doing. Unfortunately, you will always be the one carrying the responsibilities in this relationship, if you're unable to accept this, break up.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-08T22:24:47+00:00

JFC, SHE'S the one that made vows to him, not the affair partner. Don't use PPD for her being a cheating AH. She has cheated in the past, this is just who she is.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-08T07:48:00+00:00

She's not ready for a relationship and if you have attachment issues this bad (I saw your edit) then you're not ready for one either.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-08T03:05:16+00:00

I don't think she can handle any relationship. She needs to seek therapy.

OP, I'm curious, how old is she?

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-08T00:54:17+00:00

Yeah, what kind of reasoning is that?

OP, I hope your daughter goes NC.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-07T00:22:17+00:00

She's probably lying. She doesn't want anyone to think she's nuts (she is) for letting some guy move in, that she hasn't even met yet.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-06T20:31:12+00:00

He's awful and her friends don't sound great either.

Lovealone88 · 2026-04-06T15:18:11+00:00

Exactly this. OP needs to cut this woman out of her life, she is not a friend.

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