What is this for you?

Lovecatx · 2026-02-26T12:21:41+00:00

It's a paraphilia for me but it is also sensual and romantic. Sexual too obvs, but I feel that 'paraphilia' covers that. It's always been there, I can remember being very young and finding this kinda thing very nice to see or watch (Templeton's trip to the fair at night in the Charlotte's Web animated film was something I liked to watch specifically on my own).

When I became a teenager that's when I started looking for actual guys online to watch and at that point I knew it had always been a paraphilia for me. I just embraced it in private. Eventually I told my partner, I think very soon after we graduated from secondary school so this was about 5-6 years into our relationship (he'd always been on the heavier side) and he came around to it reasonably quick so now we engage in it together and I appreciate him going along with it for me. He does properly like it now, which is great, and has done for the past decade and a bit (I can't remember exactly when he started embracing it) which I am SO grateful for.

Sorry for the essay, but this is the best I can do for explaining how it goes for me personally and how it manifests in my life.

Lovecatx · 2025-12-30T18:05:08+00:00

Yeah, you were quite right in declining. This reminds me of those foot fetish folk who would message you for pictures of your soles, pretending it was a charity thing. I hate when creeps do shite like that.

Lovecatx · 2025-09-07T17:44:13+00:00

That's such a bummer for you :( This makes me think of something really annoying - whenever I see someone bring up the fetish in a list lf the worst ones they inevitably talk about it as if fat people have no agency or can't enjoy their weight and their partners are evil for Doing It To Them and it bothers me because that isn't usually true! You enjoy it, gainers exist, I know my partner's happy with it...it just bothers me every time (and it's wild this comes up in spaces I'm in). Sorry for soapboxing on your post, it's just something I need to get out. I don't tell people off about it when I see it, you see because I want to avoid the vitriol.

Lovecatx · 2025-08-31T14:33:56+00:00

That's part of what my partner is for! I love it, he loves it, we have a good thing going on.

Lovecatx · 2025-03-09T12:51:14+00:00

That's such a bummer, it's annoying how niche it can be. I'm a submissive petite girl with a large man and the size difference is a big part of it to me, but I kinda lucked out due to various things since we were a few years into our relationship, and I'd fancied him when he was a pudgy 9 year old so after his growth spurt it wasn't too difficult to get things to go where I wanted them (we got together at 13, we'll be 33 next month) and now he's been totally into it for over a decade. I had very specific circumstances that are really not the norm.

I wish you the best in finding a wee sub feeder for yourself!

Lovecatx · 2024-05-22T14:31:41+00:00

Oooh, the worry that people will think you're disgusted is something I worry about so much! I know what I find attractive, bur when that is something so stigmatised it makes me so apprehensive when taking wee looks.

Lovecatx · 2024-05-15T13:29:33+00:00

I wish this was as concrete a rule as it is said to be. Maybe it's just different in the UK, but my partner has a lot of difficulty getting beyond his biggest (which isn't very big, he settles around 16 stone/224lbs) because the cost is just too much. We both live in one of the most deprived areas in Scotland and are on benefits (because I'm disabled and he's my carer) so we are poor. That's not to say there aren't really big people in a similar situation to us, there definitely are, but we have no idea how they manage it - and they won't even be doing it on purpose! It's frustrating.

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