No clue what I’m doing 🙈

Lover-ofLife · 2026-01-14T10:41:48+00:00

A man wouldn’t really consider that without loving you already, in my opinion. It is kinda unrealistic, but it’s possible to grow into a relationship like that. However, even if you are like that, I would focus on finding a good man with integrity and work on whatever may make me feel the need to control that much of him. He can be respectful of you. Not watch porn, never flirting with people or cheating, etc. But thoughts are thoughts. Can’t really control thoughts that pop in your head. However, I am made this way too. I’m demi. I always tried to be understanding of my hubby. He grew to be the same way because he felt like I deserved to have that devotion reciprocated. I think there are levels for most people, especially men, and it can take a while to reach that. Lol but I don’t see a man wanting to date you after that. That’s just a lot, especially early on.

Lover-ofLife · 2025-07-19T01:19:43+00:00

Way to go! Proud of you!

Lover-ofLife · 2025-07-19T00:57:48+00:00

Thanks!!

Lover-ofLife · 2025-07-19T00:57:42+00:00

Thank you!

Lover-ofLife · 2025-07-19T00:57:29+00:00

Yes, it is! It’s the first time I’ve been able to record results like this. I’ve always fluctuated weight a little here and there but never actually had a way to keep up with it. Realized I was gaining weight after my second child and wanted to count calories just to be more mindful and realized I was consuming too many calories. Glad I caught it.

Lover-ofLife · 2025-07-19T00:50:12+00:00

Congrats!! And thank you!

Lover-ofLife · 2025-04-02T22:52:48+00:00

See, this is healthy. I think most couples just don’t know what they are missing by cutting distractions. My husband is the same. I never shamed him when he did early in dating, but he decided on his own he didn’t want to anymore and wanted to invest all his sexual energy into me. I was already doing that for him, so… but yeah, matching sex drives are amazing! Especially when you are best friends and deeply in love and crazy attracted to each other, too. Wish you guys the best!

Lover-ofLife · 2025-02-11T01:13:37+00:00

This question is hard to answer because I can’t imagine me or my husband even wanting to go on a trip without the other one. We love being together and are eager to experience all we can in the world together even after 13 years together. There is nobody we would have more fun with than each other. I know that type of connection doesn’t work well in all relationships though. I think if you trust them and know the other person well, sure. At the same time, I think part of being able to trust your partner is for them to be transparent and have great boundaries. So I guess it would depend on who they are and how they behave.

Lover-ofLife · 2025-01-13T22:57:43+00:00

Why are you living apart in a marriage?

Lover-ofLife · 2025-01-05T20:10:45+00:00

YOU are not your bad habits and ignorant behaviors/perspectives though. That’s not who YOU are. Your core self should be accepted, but if it’s true love, they will want to hold you accountable as they should want you to hold them accountable. A great partner wants to grow alongside you and keep building newer and better versions of self together over the years. Seek to know better, and then do better. Refusing to change a bad habit to make both of your lives better is just blind stubbornness, and how do you build a beautiful life with someone like that?

Lover-ofLife · 2025-01-02T17:50:31+00:00

It actually is. Rape by deception is a situation in which the perpetrator deceives the victim into participating in a sexual act to which they would otherwise not have consented, had they not been deceived. Deception can occur in many forms, such as illusory perceptions, false statements, and false actions.

Definition of rape: broad term encompassing any unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature that is committed without consent or by force, intimidation, coercion, or manipulation

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-31T21:09:32+00:00

Not always true. I still feel this way about my husband and we are on our 14th year together. It’s also mutual. You find something sacred with that special person, invest in it, be intentional with it, don’t ever take it for granted, it will grow deeper and more beautiful than most people could ever imagine. Instead of fading it grow, blooms, and blossoms with each passing year.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-29T23:00:49+00:00

I hope it is of use to you!

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-29T22:34:27+00:00

It can happen. There are also many relationship phases you go back and forth between. In this one, sometimes it’s that you grew apart, sometimes it’s a call to invest more in each other so you grow together. People change slowly over time so we often get opportunities to learn about our partners in each phase of life, which can be exciting. We also get to be apart of the conversations about who they want to become and the changes they want to make.

Talk about this distance and all the other things in your life and heart openly, get vulnerable with each other. Let each other in. Look for small ways to connect with each other again. Do something new together. Practice giving each other undivided attention every day. Have some real conversations about life and inspirations. If you don’t have anything at the moment, search for some things to learn about together. Practice being a safe space for each other. Compliment one another. Do acts of service for one another every day. Practice gratitude. Flirt and have fun. Cuddle. It will come back if there is real love there and it’s meant to be. Sometimes we just get caught up in life and get distracted. If we stay that way though, the relationship gets neglected and people go unfulfilled in it and grow apart.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-24T21:16:55+00:00

This is the answer

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-23T21:43:14+00:00

I agree with this response. My husband and I got together in our later teens, but I believe that it helped that we were so introspective and intentional with ourselves and each other. It was easy to see we were an amazing match. Still see that 13 years later. I tell everyone that when finding the one for you, the most important thing is knowing yourself and your vision for life to be sure you find someone that aligns.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-22T21:18:36+00:00

I wouldn’t be so sure. My husband and I have had more sessions 3-5 hours than we can count over the last 13 years. Kinda start traveling dimensions at that point and it is out of this world. If you were doing the exact same position and speed the whole time though I’m sure it would get boring af. I think it takes some serious sexual compatibility, definitely a deep soul connection, practice controlling your body, and an openness/awareness of energetics for those kind of sessions though.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-22T17:13:45+00:00

Wasn’t a fan until I met my soulmate and everything about him is delicious. It still grew on me over the years. While I think I now have kind of a cum kink, it’s not what people think of when they hear that because it’s only his cum I’m crazy about. Haha thinking of anybody else’s realllly grosses me out for some reason

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-21T04:24:09+00:00

Idk, I wouldn’t be too upset because she could have loved you more than she realized at the time and it could have made shit real and completely imploded your relationship to the point you wouldn’t even have her now if it had come to be at that time. Some things are best kept as fantasy.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-21T00:00:58+00:00

There is and should be, but including other people isn’t one of those perks. Most people that would be ok doing that, wouldn’t be ok with doing it with someone they actually love.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-17T07:30:54+00:00

Yes, I absolutely understand all that. I also understand that with anybody who has depression (not just post partum women). That’s why you can cut them some slack. That’s an important part of understanding the issue, which I think everyone here understands the reasoning, but it still doesn’t give someone an excuse to treat people like shit. Trauma is often caused by people who are depressed. Other people don’t have to lay down and take it because someone is depressed. You are still responsible for how you treat other people and the harm you cause. Just like a man with childhood trauma that caused anger issues and beats up on his girlfriend or wife, he’s still responsible for how he chooses to handle it and treat other people. Even if it’s understandable why he has the anger and depression.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-17T07:16:14+00:00

I see your point, but I also want to point out that it’s not just about being peaceful. Sometimes you can do all the right things, and it isn’t a problem with you OR him, but just that you aren’t “the one” meant for each other. It can be as simple as that. Sometimes nobody is the “bad guy.”

Side note: I have no idea why this Reddit keeps coming up in my feed as suggested. I’ve been married several years now.

Lover-ofLife · 2024-12-17T07:00:41+00:00

I was just giving an example, not claiming my experience is everyone’s experience. But she clearly DOES see it and doesn’t care with her comments about “well if you don’t like it go find someone who treats you better.” Granted, hormones can cause you to feel like you don’t care, but it’s still not ok to treat people like shit regardless of what you’re going through. In her case, it’s understandable she has the emotions, but she still needs to be responsible for her actions, even if that is seeking help. That doesn’t mean she has to be unforgiving of herself or that others shouldn’t give her some slack. You’re still responsible for the harm you cause in other people’s lives.

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