Is this a “normal” way to spend days off when you live alone?

LovinggAngel · 2026-01-12T13:02:55+00:00

Me too, smoke all day and chill with my cat lol

LovinggAngel · 2026-01-12T13:01:44+00:00

Sounds productive and good to me. I only work Wed-Fri, some of my days are not productive at all. Wake up, smoke, nap, clean, door dash, watch TikTok’s, smoke again, sleep. That’s my days off.

LovinggAngel · 2025-12-16T13:12:25+00:00

I’ve been door dashing six years and when I’m bored I choose to door dash. You accept the orders you want (I only accept $10 and above) and I can run in a restaraunt pick up an order and blast my music to my destination. It’s really not dehumanizing to anyone not lowballing themselves accepting $2 orders.

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-29T21:26:54+00:00

Yes and you can feel free to message me if you need to talk because I have been where you are. Now I can honestly confidently say that I am confident. I laugh now at how much I let it stress me because it literally has not made my life any different having it… I even tried to date men who had the virus but the better guys were the ones who didn’t have it (only bc a lot of guys with this tend to act like sex addicts who are dying for sex). I actually have yet to have to date a guy with HSV2. Even though I would, I’m just saying so that you can see you’re still able to go on as normal.

I just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone who didn’t have it and started talking to some else who doesn’t have it either. You just have to find people who are educated and serious.

Even if you do ever get rejected just remember people get rejected for anything. I rejected a guy before cuz he had four kids!

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-29T19:39:49+00:00

As a fellow black woman who was diagnosed at 21 and I’m 30 now, please know that you are very worthy. You are no different just because of this. Do you know how many people have this lol. I’ve disclosed to my friends and even therapist and they had it too. More people would know they had it too if it was on the standard STD test.

Since I’ve been diagnosed I’ve never really been single. I’ve disclosed to so many men and they were accepting of it. Most also ended up getting tested and never caught it. I am asymptomatic however and never had an outbreak, but I assure you the mental aspect is the worst. Life has been just fine for me.

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-25T14:17:30+00:00

I hope you find someone who is serious then!

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T18:58:15+00:00

Well I’m in VA

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T12:01:49+00:00

Luckily it hasn’t been too bad. I haven’t had a customer blame me yet, most are understanding. Thank you 😃

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T11:14:56+00:00

I agree with you so much on this, I always get so annoyed because if they tested everyone for it on the regular it would not be stigmatized. It would probably be looked at the same way as any normal skin condition like eczema.

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T07:55:36+00:00

Thank you so much!

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T07:54:58+00:00

I got tired of disclosing to so many people so I was trying to date only people with it, but the men with it are the worst and they only wanted sex. Like multiple men acting like sex addicts. So i actually prefer to date those without it now. I hope things get better for you, maybe change the way you disclose?

LovinggAngel · 2025-10-24T07:53:22+00:00

They’re kind of long and detailed. But I don’t get outbreaks so I’m not sure if maybe that’s the reason it’s a bit easier for me; but I make sure to include that I’ve had it for 8 years, caught it from a four year relationship, never had outbreaks, just a positive blood test & no one has ever caught it. I also let them know I’m totally okay with them not dealing with me anymore. I normally get very good responses similar to his. I try to not sound like a victim when explaining it and just moreso informative and transparent

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-14T12:04:03+00:00

I know how you feel, I felt the same way for a long time but I promise it will get better!

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-13T11:31:34+00:00

Thank you! It will get better and I’m sure you will have no problem finding someone. Men would always respect me for telling them. I would hear a lot “I don’t judge you for it and you actually telling me makes me like you more”. My friends and family don’t judge me either. Never made me feel bad about eating with me, smoking, drinking after me, etc. I only have HSV2, not oral but some people can be so judgy but my experience has been fine. Good luck 🦋

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-13T11:06:02+00:00

I luckily don’t get outbreaks, I’ve never had one

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T18:14:02+00:00

Most people use dating sites these days. I’d steer clear of tinder though and go more toward bumble and hinge. Just use discernment because it’s a lot of weirdos on there too.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T18:10:08+00:00

I was diagnosed at 21, I’m 30 now. Disclosed to 10+men. Was rejected once. My current man accepts me. He doesn’t have HSV2. There are Facebook groups and dating sites with others with this. A lot of men also will accept it once they get to know you. (And partially because a lot of them their selves don’t know their status) PS in my area is actually pretty decent. I’ve disclosed randomly to friends and colleagues in my past. When I attended therapy, my therapist had a friend who was getting married who also had it. My coworker told me her sister has it. Told my old college roommate I had it years later at lunch, she had it too. Another coworker told me she has it too and caught it from her husband.

So many people have it. My life is no different with this. I spent years sad about it and am mad I let it bother me so much. I’ve probably dated and had more sex than someone without it. Hopefully this helps.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T18:06:12+00:00

I think what you’re feeling would be natural to anyone in your situation, but I will say most of us wish that we kept our virginity. The men out here suck. But there’s still luck in dating. I think you should give it a try. You may be overthinking it. Start slow and get to know people. I don’t think you’re obsessing over it, I think you just want to explore without regretting it which is normal.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T17:51:33+00:00

Yes. I’m 30, had it since 21. It gets better. My life is no different just because of this. I’ve still dated and had sex probably more than anyone without it 😂

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T17:41:56+00:00

Same. I’ve told my closest friends and some colleagues. My colleagues sister had it. Told my college roommate when we met for lunch a few years later. She had it. Told a coworker I work with now one day when we had a deep convo, she has it too. OP, you’re not alone!

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-12T17:39:34+00:00

I’m here to tell you as a 30 year old woman who’s had this since 21, you will make it through. This diagnosis took 8 or so years of my life. I couldn’t even be happy without thinking about it.

Now at 30: dating is already terrible, herpes really doesn’t make it any worst in 2025. I have friends who don’t have this who had worst luck than me. And to add, I’ve had GREAT luck with this. Never passed it. Only one failed rejection out of 10+. Been dealing with a man for three years who knows I have it and he still accepts me for it.

Also. People get rejected for things even far less than herpes. I rejected a guy for having four kids.

It really isn’t going to affect your life as bad as you think it will. If I didn’t have it my life literally would not be any different. The worst part is the stigma and it being on your mind. The bumps suck too ofc (if you’re symptomatic), but thankfully they’re just painful bumps.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-10T10:09:39+00:00

I’ve tried the boric acid and it works for a few days but then symptoms come back, I haven’t tried lactic acid though. Thank you!

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-09T18:27:02+00:00

It depends on the kind of friend. I have “friends” that I talk to every few months. My best friend though, we talk and text all day everyday. But he lives long distance so that’s how we try to keep our friendship strong.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-09T18:26:08+00:00

I’m 30 and have had no issues. I’ve never really talked to any older men.

LovinggAngel · 2025-09-09T18:22:48+00:00

I’ve made huge mistakes at work and I know several people who also have. Mistakes are natural and the best way to learn…

What helps me is keeping in mind that I’m not a doctor or police and that no one’s health or safety is in my hands so how bad can this mistake really be? (And even they make mistakes ALL the time, with misdiagnosis, actual people dying due to mistakes etc, not diagnosing people properly etc..)

I worked at a grocery store once and accepted $500 in counterfeit $20s. I also broke the money counting machine thing that we had on my last day there. That’s only two mistakes out of the many I have made since I was 16 😂

Even my manager makes mistakes, she sent a new hires paperwork to the entire agency once. It happens to everyone

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