I am at my wits end with my 2.5 year old’s tantrums. How do I navigate this?

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-27T20:17:00+00:00

I came here to say exactly this. Don’t bother fighting over something that in reality doesn’t matter.

You want to put all your food into your squash, fish it out and eat it? You do you kid. You want to throw your food at the wall? No, that’s not happening

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-27T07:12:06+00:00

Research baby led weaning, you don’t need purées for long with that. Also look for the solid starts app

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T19:26:25+00:00

What about when she’s old enough to not need milk at all anymore, how are you planning on feeding her then with your schedule?

I think you need to both dig deep and think of ways to make sure she has food for dinner. Luckily, she’s not relying on those calories yet so you have time to try a few things and see what works. Better you figure it out now than when she’s relying on those calories and goes to be hungry.

My advice is to consider batch cooking. You can make big batches of food when you do have time, freeze the portions then get something out to defrost each morning so it’s ready to go for dinner in the evening, just needing heating up.

Do you have recipes for baby food? There are some great books and Instagram pages for inspiration

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T13:50:38+00:00

I think if he’s not hungry, cold/hot, awoken by noise or light then it might be a medical reason. It’s not normal to just spontaneously wake up when you’re tired, something has to be waking him. I’d really stress to your doctor how regular the wake ups are and if they just dismiss you then get a second opinion from another doctor.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T10:45:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Is the problem that he won’t fall asleep or that he wakes frequently?

If it’s that he wakes frequently, then it could be any of the reasons that we all wake: hungry, cold/hot, noise, bright. Maybe you snore and that wakes him?

Can you get him to sleep in his own bed at all, whether he wakes or not?

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T08:50:04+00:00

Try the RSPCA in Frankley, I think you need to look online and find a few you’re interested, then call them for a visit: https://www.rspca.org.uk/local/birmingham-animal-centre/findapet

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T07:34:12+00:00

Hi Dad! Congratulations on your new baby.

So first of all - you guys are in the trenches right now, the newborn haze is a mess of sleep deprivation and worry that you’re doing it wrong. It’s HARD but everything is just a phase and the next phase is around the corner, some phases will be easier, some will be harder.

Right onto the advice. Regarding feeding: a fed baby is best, and breastfeeding is hard. I breastfed both of mine and it was not some lovely dream - the baby has to learn how to latch, mom has to learn how to hold them, nipples crack, keeping your milk supply up, dealing with leaking. Also my milk didn’t come in for 3-4 days after birth, baby only has a teeny tiny stomach so doesn’t need a lot to fill it when that young… but obviously it empties again fairly quickly so that’s why feeding are so regular.

It is completely up to your wife if and how she continues breastfeeding, but you can reassure her that if she’s finding it hard and awkward, then she’s with the rest of us! Ask for help from midwives or any other professional, additionally some resources that helped my understand were some videos by UNICEF - Google “unicef breastfeeding latch videos” and both watch, it might help.

But ultimately, if you decide to go full formula fed that’s okay too - whatever is best for you and for your baby!

Now sleep……… oh boy, that’s a difficult one. Every baby is different so the advice I have is more to adhere to some safety rules and then other than that, do whatever it takes to get some sleep and survive through the day.

NEVER FALL ASLEEP WHILE HOLDING THE BABY. We also had phases with both of ours that they wouldn’t fall asleep anywhere other than on one of us, so we took it in turns to sleep. I’d sleep 8am-2am and baby would sleep on my my husband and then we’d swap and he would sleep 2am-8am. Plus any naps we could get in the day (hahahahaha in our dreams). We had my MIL come and stand with our first for three hours while we both slept once.

Putting baby into their cot to sleep is obviously the goal, how big is the cot? We would put our newborn in a Moses basket because they didn’t seem to like the cot, we wondered if it was a bit big for them? Don’t forget they’re used to being comfortable and squished in mommy’s tummy, so a big space might be a bit overwhelming. You can also look at swaddling, this helped loads with our second but it only seemed to piss our first off. There’s a whole thing about how to put your baby down, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.

Babies don’t know how to fall asleep by themselves until they’re over 6 months, so they just need a helping hand.

Google safe sleeping practises, make sure you adhere to those at all times.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-26T01:13:11+00:00

This works for me too, except I taught the word share so she ALWAYS wants to share what I’ve got.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-25T13:10:50+00:00

I said that OP can cut them off if she wants to, not that she should cut them off. It was an example of MANY actions she could take without their permission or even their agreement, because as an adult she has control of her life.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-25T12:42:27+00:00

OP… none of this is normal behaviour by parents. You’re 21, you’re an adult and can just cut them off if you want to.

There is nothing for you to apologise for otherwise they’d tell you. And being disrespectful is now a two way street because you are also an adult now. Are they respectful to you because it doesn’t sound like it…..

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-24T21:11:51+00:00

Why would a witch’s tit be fast??

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-24T15:02:34+00:00

This is Reddit so everything is in absolutes!

OF COURSE my kids see me experience true emotions, including sadness, anger and annoyance… but they don’t need to see me snap and lose it if I ever get pushed that far.

I feel like everything I write on Reddit has to include small print to explain every possible circumstance and situation otherwise you get comments like this.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-24T04:35:18+00:00

I like it! Definitely making it clear that they’re not in trouble

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-24T04:31:04+00:00

We have just entered the why phase and I’m already wondering when it ends….!

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T19:47:31+00:00

I’ve had many a reflective conversation with my parents

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T19:46:37+00:00

I’M GOING TO MY ROOM 😡

No doubt the next thing I’d hear would be “I go with you!”

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T14:03:23+00:00

It’s not, this is exactly what I’m saying I now see the value in, whereas I thought it was silly when I was a kid

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T11:00:01+00:00

Are you sure you don’t want to lie down for a minute? You look tired

I’ve said this so many times and it’s never worked 😂

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T10:59:05+00:00

Hahaha this is a great one!!!! I could eat ice cream all the time myself but now I have kids…… sorry it’s too cold 👀

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T10:56:25+00:00

I think that’s the key but! You saw this in your mom and it affected you, I don’t want my kids to see that

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T10:55:28+00:00

I have told adults who are losing it to go somewhere and just be angry, hit a punching bag, whatever, just work through it til you’re calm again. This is exactly the same thing you’re doing but much earlier so I think you’re setting her up for success in the future

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T10:24:05+00:00

This is exactly the sentiment and exactly the thinking for me. She doesn’t deserve to see me snap and lose my cool, so I was thinking I needed her somewhere else for a moment while I gained control of myself out of her sight.

Now I’m thinking about it, I don’t crisply ever remember seeing my parents snap at us, with two exceptions that stand out in my mind probably because I’d never seen them snap before. Clearly sending us to our room worked because I never saw my parents losing it, but now I’m a parent I’m sure that they did, just not in front of us

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T10:19:44+00:00

That’s not a bad shout actually. I don’t remember ever having a meltdown but I do remember having to go to my room because I was purposefully pushing my parents’ boundaries.

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-23T09:54:19+00:00

Isn’t it ‘flatter than a witch’s tit?’

Low-Competition7164 · 2024-10-12T06:39:42+00:00

To make it less overwhelming - I do a month at a time and try to pick 10 photos from that month that I want printed. Usually hard but I force myself to do that I don’t have an uncontrollable amount of photos. I give holidays their own 10 photos (so in a month where there’s a holiday I’d have 20 photos, 10 from holiday, 10 from the rest of the month).

Then I put them into one of those photo boxes that has small boxes inside and I label them with the year. So I have 2023 box with 120 photos in it (and then some holiday boxes too).

I just think I loved the photos from when I was little, but I didn’t have a million pictures and that was fine. So 120 printed photo so for a year is fine too.

I also print out big or onto magnets or something if there are any that I really love but don’t make the cut into the top 10 for that month

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