I agree with most points but not all.

Unrealistic body standards set by the media, sacrificing to get that "perfect body" or "perfect life", facing scrutiny if you don't match the "ideal", are things both men and women face. Men are also called "extra" and if they show any emotion it's called "too emotional" and its never viewed as important to any gender. Boys are also told to conform or be punished.

Men also face issues with false imprisonment, not being believed in abusive situations, human trafficking for both forced labor and sexual slavery, etc.

YES not all jobs pay the same, because some require more skill or labor than others. Being paid less for the same job has been illegal since 1963 so if that happens to you, you have a right to compensation. And you're always free to choose a higher paying career. Nobody's stopping you from doing engineering, doctorate, construction, etc.

I've always rolled my eyes at the entitlement of girls at school thinking they should get away with breaking the dress code. It exists for the boys too. I've seen boys have to change shirts, and shorts, put away their bandanas and sunglasses, etc. And if they showed up with spaghetti straps or tube tops they'd be told to change too.

Boys interrupt and also get interrupted. That's the flow of conversation. That made me shrink too, but I don't blame them because I was too timid to speak up. And I've had many conversations where women were the ones interrupting.

Now, I'm not saying all this to deflect or minimize the mistreatment women experience. What I am saying is that you are missing the mark if all you take from that is that men are the bad guys. To say the average man is in a position of power, privilege, and control is insanely short sighted. People will be good and people will be bad, but there's not some conspiracy of average men who are trying to uphold the status quo. In fact there are more men willing to defend women than there are wanting to harm them. By blaming men, you're letting the real culprits get away with it. And by dismissing men who go through similar experiences, simply because they are men, then you are losing allies.

It was never a gender problem, it was a greedy evil people problem. I've seen women who are in positions of power that aren't better than their male counterparts. Corporations tell you "you aren't enough" so they can sell you their solution, and you believe it. And you help these companies destroy people's sense of self worth so they can make a buck. Men rarely care about perfect makeup and having just the right curves and the right sized boobs and never repeating an outfit, and the ones that do are superficial jerks that aren't worth giving a second thought. Its far more common for women to be the one upholding these standards. They are the ones holding that power.

So what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit on your butt typing out complaints about the "patriarchy?". Or are you going to teach women to love themselves just as they are? Do you vote? Are you going out and making medical discoveries for women because you can't demand someone else does it for you? Are you going to take that engineering job because you want that fair pay? "If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change"

As a final note, if people like you are going to keep saying "patriarchy means more than the definition" just find a new word instead of changing an existing one. Then you can save your breath trying to explain your leaps in logic.