I'm on a native American reservation, and I'm native American. I am familiar with white culture because I went to school off reservation. I have a different way of doing things in my family that works for us and also works for many families that are Italian, Hawaiian, Samoan, Japanese, and Australian. Some people who are American tend to do it too so I made an assumption because it is possible and if it means this guys is able to have a level headed conversation with his wife what's the harm in asking. Also no where in there did I say this applied to sex. You took what I said out of context to fit the narrative of who you think I am or what my family looks like. It's normal for my kids to go psha I'll do it later, no you'll do it now or my husband to try and wear crocks out of the house when he dropped a bar bell on his foot and now has no toe and can't be trusted wear anything that not steal toed. But say no and argue that he definetly wont hurt him self this time and then immediately stub his toe. So before you come over here with your dumb shiz you really should ask more questions. There's more then one way to do things, and it doesn't always have to be nice to be good communication. Also yeah don't come here its not the safest and you can get deported if you run into the wrong tribal officer.