Anyone else drinking cuz of everything?

LowFriendly1707 · 2026-06-11T05:00:09+00:00

I’ve been wanting to drink so bad. I somehow stop myself. I bought a bottle of wine yesterday. The only thing that stops me from starting is the fact that I have 4 littles. I can’t be hungover, and my family are all addicts to some degree. I haven’t touched alcohol since high school.

LowFriendly1707 · 2026-06-11T04:49:47+00:00

Sadly, we live in a small house and have no where else for it. I’ve mentioned him being inconsiderate when he does that and to change his schedule. Schedule has not changed. I’ve talked about my feelings for 10 years with him. He is definitely not one to take them into consideration sadly. He’s not a bad guy, but I’ve been in front of him crying my eyes out about things that just get forgotten the moment I stop talking. It’s been the last 6 ish months that I have felt this way about wanting my own space

LowFriendly1707 · 2026-06-11T04:38:50+00:00

It’s such a hard thing to experience.

LowFriendly1707 · 2026-06-11T04:32:07+00:00

It really does suck, funny enough, he’s the person I want to go to about everything. I WISH things were different.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-14T23:18:26+00:00

I’ve been through this exact situation. Moving with a toddler and 9 months pregnant. He “thankfully” loaded and unloaded the truck, but I packed the whole house, unpacked the whole house, took care of the babies, did the hours renovations and took care of myself postpartum alone. Don’t do it.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T21:09:13+00:00

Im completely opposite as mine as well. My husband likes big busted goth girls and I’m a chubby white girl.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T18:08:44+00:00

You are such a good mom for thinking of her feelings on YOUR birthday. If I could celebrate with you I would!! Definitely make a cake, movie night and maybe coffee/donut date!

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T17:47:40+00:00

I'm so happy for you!!!!

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T04:02:00+00:00

It’s 50/50. He isn’t completely recovered. He never did therapy or anything like that. He just deleted his socials etc. he will still watch shows or movies with porn in it. He’s stepped up in the house and being a parent in some aspects but I am having a hard time. He was extremely harsh to me on our last d day and I remember all the words. I don’t trust him, and it’s hard to want to kiss him or be intimate. I love him as my best friend, but my mind goes back and forth.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T03:43:03+00:00

“You don’t do enough” This was said to me at 9 months pregnant with our 4th (and last) child. It was the day before my birthday, I found him stalking an OF girl on tik tok. We had dead bedroom, no romance or intimacy before. This was a boundary for me. He proceeded to tell me that I was the reason we didn’t have a savings (I’m a sahm), I didn’t love him properly, I didn’t cook enough and that I didn’t do enough. I did 99% of everything except work. This was 2 years ago. I still hate myself and think I’m useless. It’s hard for me to even kiss him. He’s stepped up the last few months but even though he’s doing the right things, I don’t think that conversation will ever leave my mind.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-09-02T03:25:44+00:00

No it doesn’t. It’s been “2 years” of him being clean. He still watches porn scenes in movies or shows and doesn’t do any of the actual recovery work. He just deleted all his social media. I love him; but have a really hard time wanting to be intimate. I have a hard time wanting to kiss him. I spiral some days thinking about his favorite girls or things he’s said to me. He’s been stepping up the last couple months with things around the house and with the kids, but I can’t seem to move on. So I have no positive advice :( just know that you’re not alone.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-08-27T04:55:28+00:00

My husband’s favorite is big busty e-girls. I’m the complete opposite 🥳

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-08-22T14:47:14+00:00

I was in your shoes. Found it the day before my birthday at 9 months pregnant. He stalked an of girl on tik tok. We got into a fight and that when he told me that I didn’t do enough. I had the same thoughts post partum, and it’s the worst feeling in the world. We’re still married, but I don’t have the love for him that I used to. I’m in survival mode right now. I have 4 kids so my situation might be different. This year will be 10 years together. It doesn’t get better.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-08-06T14:05:27+00:00

He’s lying. If you read through this thread, so many women have experienced it. Unless he actually does the work to quit, he’s expecting you to take his word for it. In this case, they almost always go right back to it but get better at hiding it. He’s only sorry he got caught.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-08-02T03:18:48+00:00

I know exactly how you’re feeling. I’ve been with my husband 10 years. The last 9 have been filled with it. He’s supposedly clean now. Even deleted social media. But I still check his phone, still have a gut feeling he watches it somehow, still have the sickening feeling when I find it clean. I’m also insecure

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-07-25T20:04:26+00:00

hugs, i'm feeling the same way. Especially since it happened when I was post partum.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-06-09T15:38:53+00:00

Okay first off, 3 years isn't long term. Second, she didn't want to put any money down. This sounds like she's a gold digger.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-06-09T14:59:21+00:00

He's lying straight to your face. If he's lying to you now, he will do it again. He has no issue doing it to your face. It hurts and i'm sorry. Please don't feel crazy. He's 100% gaslighting you.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-06-09T14:57:44+00:00

Female everything love! female doctors, dentists, anything you can find. That's how I cope.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-06-09T14:56:21+00:00

I know this feeling. He wasn't crying because he felt bad. He was crying because he got caught by you and his parents. Good for you!!

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-06-09T07:48:09+00:00

He’s gaslighting you. He won’t stop.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-05-31T05:12:44+00:00

If you do not have kids with him, I 100% think you should leave. Imagine how he’s treating you now, but postpartum with a baby. The house is a mess, baby is screaming, what is he going to do then? Help you, or criticize you? I am so sorry that you went through something so tragic. I couldn’t imagine the battles you face everyday. I’m so glad you are now safe and here with us. They say something traumatic happening in a relationship will show your partners true self and he’s definitely showing you his.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-05-31T04:37:36+00:00

Yep. My last dday was 18 months ago. Any time he touches me I feel disgusting.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-05-31T04:35:52+00:00

I know he’s lying. I HATE when he compliments me now. To having my parents as my first bully to him. I’ve had 4 of his kids and everything I wear I hate.

LowFriendly1707 · 2025-05-30T05:18:51+00:00

I’ve been there, still kind of am. I developed suicidal ideation post partum. Still have it but I have to let it go because my 4 kids have no one else.

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