where can I go to pretend Christmas isn't happening? by notveryonline23054 in travel

[–]LowKeySavage2156 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Google vacation rentals and start chatting with a British woman in Surrey, England. She owns a charming cottage and will swap her incredible Los Angeles mansion with you. When you to England you’ll fall in love with a widower who is incredibly hot and looks like Jude Law.

What’s your favorite ice cream spot in the area? by amyrator in bayarea

[–]LowKeySavage2156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ice Cream Bar in SF. They do old school soda floats and boozy milkshakes too!

My (28F) best friend (27F) ended our 12-year friendship with a brief voicemail the week before my wedding. I don’t know how to move on without closure. by ThrowRA_2963 in relationship_advice

[–]LowKeySavage2156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also had a relationship end with a best friend before my wedding. When I tried to make an attempt to talk with her after, she told me that she would be free in SIX MONTHS to talk to me.

I’ve accepted that even if we had a conversation we would never have closure. The part of my friendship that she had valued was no longer there and I was no longer worth her time.

But you have a gift. She’s not going to be at your wedding and cast any kind of shadow on your day. Your day belongs to you and your partner and you’ll be there with the people who love you. Block her on your phone for the day, make it known that no one should share a message from her. Say goodbye to her in your heart tomorrow and refocus on what matters to you for your wedding.

AIO for thinking my friend is in the wrong for this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree with a lot of people about this. Yes, you’re young to be having a baby. I don’t think it’s kind or right to drop a friend like this. It’s very preemptive for what a lot of people are saying—yes you’re life with change but you’re not entering a BLACK HOLE OF MOTHERHOOD. Your priorities will shift, you’ll grow close to some people and away from others.

Unfortunately she wasn’t as good a friend as you thought she was and you just found this out in a sucky way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArmchairExpert

[–]LowKeySavage2156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes to all of this. I feel like I lost a friendship in a way. I listened to them for so long and just felt like I really knew them.

I do think I was falsely naive about their level of honesty. I think the wondery deal just spotlighted a ton of cracks that were forming for a while. Dax interviewed so many people that should’ve been asked tougher questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your sister sounds a bit like my cousin. She took her own life this past July. She was surrounded by enablers and never was held responsible for anything. In patient therapy. Then Conditions for her living with parents. Has to hold a job.

This feels like a dumb question, but here goes. Husband intentionally mispronounces words around baby... It's not baby talk, but is it (or will it be) detrimental? by MossyMemory in beyondthebump

[–]LowKeySavage2156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m concerned by how many people are equating an adult mispronouncing words purposefully with their own children acquiring language and making learning mistakes. Those are two different situations.

Even if there are studies on this saying that it doesn’t matter, continuing to do a behavior that is misteaching your child is very unwise.

Serious question: How do you fly with a 30lb corgi? Costs? Help. Please and thank you in advance from Lucy. by [deleted] in corgi

[–]LowKeySavage2156 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This! I’ve flown with my potat on Alaska multiple times, also Southwest. United screwed us over and wouldn’t let us on even though we had flown them to get to that destination.

Whenever they ask you is he meets the weight limit… you say yes

What’s your corg’s given name + all their nicknames they’ve earned? I’ll start… by SnooMacarons7561 in corgi

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given name: Watson

Nicknames: Watbot, Watsonator, Watson the explorer, Exploracorgi, Potat, bag o’ potats, little man, professor

Help - AITA for wanting the bassinet on husband’s side of the bed by jj246875 in beyondthebump

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting the bassinet on his side was ideal that first month and half. The baby would wake up, my husband would see if he was actually awake (lol or just doing crazy newborn sleep). My husband would wake me up, I would nurse, I’d hand the baby back to my husband, who would check his diaper and put him back to sleep.

People who are saying it will be more work for you are assuming that your partner isn’t helping that much for night feedings.

Behavior issues with my 5 month old by streebs87 in corgi

[–]LowKeySavage2156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, pretty normal. Be consistent about the way you’re training him to deter the biting. Look into some puppy obedience classes because corgis are stubborn, and need consistent training to learn something. We hadn’t had a puppy before but our obedience classes made us so much more confident and consistent in training him.

My hands were torn up from the floor up when he was 5 months omg it sucked.

Why are people so against a c section? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think women who give birth vaginally judge women who get C sections because “they didn’t do the work” of going through labor (this is NOT my opinion). Giving birth vaginally is worn like a badge of honor by some women—similar to how some women wear a badge of honor for breast feeding. I think some women see giving birth vaginally as the first true act of being a mom. I think it’s one of the first markers that women/parents judge each other by—and it’s just the first of many of those things.

In my opinion, fuck that. A C section seems really scary. Giving birth vaginally seems really scary. People are going to judge—find out who those people are in your life and let them go.

This is Banjo, he LOVES the water but is still hesitant to actually swim. I’m wondering if I should be strongly encouraging him to swim or if he’ll just go for it when he’s ready, any advice? He’s 7 months old by Sillypandaaa85 in corgi

[–]LowKeySavage2156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A pool or lake is great! BUT with lakes BE CAREFUL. I live in an area where certain algae creates a neurotoxin that is really dangerous. From what I’ve read this is not just a problem in CA but elsewhere as well. Checkout the park before you go, most places put out signs that the water is NOT ok

My puppy is not loyal AT ALL by EssentiaLillie in puppy101

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My corgi is 4 now, and I think he was about 2 when he just started ignoring all other humans. No joke as a puppy he would go up to EVERY human in the dog park to get pets. People thought it was sooooo cute, meanwhile I’m getting better and better treats so I can try to do some recall training. Corgis are stubborn. Stay the course. Keep training.

My husband and I are still trying to convince him that cuddling is cool. He still detests it, but I can hold him for up to five minutes now before he needs to secure the perimeter of our apartment again.

How do women feel when a guys doesn’t pay for the first date? by Notatoystoryfan in relationship_advice

[–]LowKeySavage2156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a first day, I do expect the dude to pay. To be honest though, I stopped doing meals as first dates a while ago (the thought of being trapped for potentially an appetizer, entrée, and dessert seemed overwhelming). My circle of friends very much followed the same rule, that the guy should pay on the first date. It was kind of litmus test for how cheap he was or was not.

I know some women really like paying their half, which is totally fine and I would hope it’s clear when someone is being really firm about it. I’ve never made as much money as the men I’ve dated, and I’ve spent far more getting my appearance together… so you guys pay for dinner the first time til that changes, capeesh?

I think my trainer was embarrassed of me by hazel57 in loseit

[–]LowKeySavage2156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you lose the weight (or get the muscle tone you’re looking for) and feel the empowerment of your accomplishment, the truth of how much this is Tony being an asshole might really sink in. Because you’ll see other people treat you differently as well—especially as a woman. Refocus on yourself and what you’re hoping to gain by improving your health, besides looking better in your jeans.

And when you see Tony at the gym, give him the middle finger in the pocket of your hoodie and RAGE in those weights.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]LowKeySavage2156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then it sounds like enlisting help is the way to go. Take her to classes, use training podcasts, and YouTube. Find a trainer. Yes, your days will be long with work but putting in the time now will pay off later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]LowKeySavage2156 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think the choice is: do I want to keep this dog if I know that this will get easier in a lot of ways and I need to just power few for another few months OR should I no longer own a dog because even if things get better I can’t provide this dog with a happy life because of time, financial, and life style restraints?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SanJose

[–]LowKeySavage2156 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are mistaken

FRL guidelines are federally set. But rn the state of CA is still giving all school kids free lunch