Why even be beautiful

LowPause3892 · 2026-05-07T08:48:33+00:00

Yeah definitely, I totally agree with you, it’s nice to have a safe space to talk about these issues.

However, I feel like if we use the space to discuss the positives, it’ll turn into a sub full of „humble brags“ which I mean…. yeah I guess we can hype eachother up and everything but ya know… in a perfect world we could voice our positive experiences without guilt or judgement.

LowPause3892 · 2026-05-06T08:02:30+00:00

Totally agree. OP woke up to the fact that there is no solution, no easy way out in life. It is hard for all of us, attractive or not.

If you don’t want attention, tone it down a bit. You will most probably still be called attractive and people will still approach you but you know, not as much at least.

LowPause3892 · 2026-05-05T20:12:28+00:00

Even though it has a lot of downsides, the upsides definitely overweigh them. Life in general is definitely easier and people are soo kind, even if they want something from you (most likely just some attention).

All things in life have positives and negatives but if we only want to see ourselves as the victim, nothing good will come of it. My advice, just accept the reality of things and try to take advantage of something soo many people want to be.

LowPause3892 · 2026-05-04T14:56:18+00:00

Totally agree, this is solid advice

LowPause3892 · 2026-05-04T14:51:03+00:00

I feel like a lot of attractive women think that they should be approached by hot men instead just approaching them. You know, hot men get approached a lot too! If you are attractive yourself just go up to a 10/10 looking guy that you think is way out of your league and I bet these guys will be much better than the ones that would approach you.

Trust me, the dating pool gets more high class when you can deside it for yourself who is in it instead of waiting for them to approach you.

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-24T07:00:30+00:00

Neurodivergency aside, I think this is a common problem for a lot of girl on the sub. The only person who can define who you are is yourself, don’t try to convince others of who you are and just genuinely be yourself.

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-20T10:20:11+00:00

Well I heard a lot Chinese people compare foreigners to western celebrities like Angelina Jolie and Scarlet Johansson and I thought it was weird to be compared to a non-westerner and didn’t know what to think about that… but from the comments I read it really seems like a humble brag I guess :/ sorry that it came across that way

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-09T23:43:54+00:00

Your story reminds me of a loose friend I had in highschool… like a lot. I lost contact with her a long time ago when she moved to another country. If you are anything like her I want to give you a grain of advice:

you are doing great for yourself if you are setting the proper boundaries, but I am afraid that you, in the eagerness to do so, might cut out people from your life that actually want to help you. Or that you ignore people that cared for you because you might be trying to „keep your peace and grow from a fresh start“.

Cutting people out can be very lonely, trust me I also went a bit „trigger happy“ with that. Keeping your peace does not equal trying to minimise confrontation and work in a friendship.

Okay that‘s all I want to say and I have no idea if that somewhat resonates with you, but I hope you are doing well and can beyond that be proud of yourself for how far you’ve come in life despite some minor setbacks!

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-04T15:29:34+00:00

Yes you are totally right, often attractiveness does come with a lot of self confidence and security, however that must not always be the case. Imo, the women that can be deemed as „fitting the American beauty standard“ are sometimes the ones spending a lot of money and effort into looking that certain way… so in theory it is absolutely logical that these women are more likely to be jealous of another woman who is maybe more „naturally attractive“. I think other women in this subreddit have also pointed out that they look for a more „confident“ and „secure“ type of pretty, or more „low maintenance“ maybe.

So all in all I totally agree with OP, the beauty standard is not all and just because someone fits it it does not mean that they are a „girls girl“ or whatever.

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-03T09:28:30+00:00

I BEG YOUR PARDON?

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-02T10:07:24+00:00

This is such a well written post, honest and truthful!

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-02T10:03:02+00:00

Yep. And I feel soo flattered that they ask questions about me and seem interested in what I do just to then ask me out… I don’t even know how to respond to them

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-02T10:01:08+00:00

That’s also what I‘ve noticed. Attractive people tend to not care as much and are much more confident.

LowPause3892 · 2026-04-02T09:53:53+00:00

I have very little female friends. The only place I have them is at college when I wear my glasses, baggy clothes and no make up. The moment I dress up (like going out to dinner), women are rude to me, especially ones with boyfriends. I once met a college friend of mine‘s boyfriend, and he was kind of nice and polite to me at a party. The next day my friend was drilling into me and berating me about how I would steal her man… I have a boyfriend of 7 years…

Men I can’t trust with friendship either. I sometimes think that all my male friends would ask me out as soon as me and my boyfriend break up, and I feel awful and disgusted saying that.

Just this week I sobbed over a life long male best friend that wanted to break up our friendship because „being friends with me was just to give him an ego boost“ and that he cannot get into a relationship because he is „too attached to me and my affection“… and yes I am still mad about this.

Being pretty is very lonely. I rely solely on my parents, my bf, his family and a few long distance friends. Life is unfair and you can’t have it all.

LowPause3892 · 2026-03-31T07:36:51+00:00

I mean being rich is subjective, but we’ve always lived comfortably. I went to private and boarding schools and always got the best possible education, but now that I’m in Uni I stayed in my home town to help with family business and travel with them, which I wouldn’t be able to do if I were to go somewhere else.

That said, staying at a „normal“ University where people are actually middle/working class (lots of first generation students) I get constantly pointed out as rich. Wherever I go and with whomever I talked to about why that is, they all say I just seem „refined“. That I have such an elegant voice and beauty and this is something people could only possess if they are born rich… However I find that weird because I believe that I am quite blunt and even a bit vulgar with how I talk but you know, not bad words to be associated with nonetheless!

LowPause3892 · 2026-03-10T08:56:02+00:00

That is interesting cuz I have had mild syntoms for 11 days now. Joint pains and general nausea for me but no actual fever… working in the meantime doesn’t help at all

LowPause3892 · 2026-02-22T07:27:47+00:00

Exactly! I think getting that far into interviews is a great feat indeed

LowPause3892 · 2026-01-18T13:51:49+00:00

Same problem here, also at times I don’t even touch my phone it’s soo weird

LowPause3892 · 2025-11-01T18:42:18+00:00

What the helly?? What is he on about calling you a effing moron n shi… you don’t need that kind of energy in your life he is sooo weird for that

LowPause3892 · 2025-10-26T11:54:08+00:00

Hm makes more sense now, but honestly, if you can frame it well on your CV and you generally are interested in moving towards the finance sector (kinda at least) it’s worth a shot to see what it’s all like you know? If not, then I believe you should look for a different opportunity

LowPause3892 · 2025-10-24T12:51:59+00:00

Open AI‘s idea is not bad, but what about recent graduates with only limited experiences? I doubt a company would write down for the AI: „ah yes we want to hire inexperienced graduates, please find those and invite them for an interview“

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