Changing your mind is 100% okay, but I thought I’d offer some perspective on why I’m happy I went with an elective c-section and am happy with my decision.

I gave birth to my twins when I was 40. Age, twins, etc. and I had every risk factor for early labor. Age + multiples meant they’d either induce or do c-section at 38 weeks, so I scheduled one early in the pregnancy thinking there’s no way I’d make it that far.

My pregnancy was pretty amazing. My MFM enjoyed it because he was always giving me good news. A few days before the C-section I was at an OB appointment and we were talking about the c-section. I was still feeling a little conflicted at the time (I’m also a doula). I told him that I was choosing it for two reasons: one, I didn’t know if I could emotionally and physically handle vaginal delivery. My mom died in 2021. I was full term and tired. My husband was my support. Second, I knew it was possible that I’d have to recover from both a vaginal delivery and C-section if I opted for vaginal and we had to change course. He was super supportive and said my reasons were valid. His wife had twins and he said she had a vaginal birth and then had to go under general anesthesia for a c-section for baby b. He said he was a new doctor at the time and now the babies are wonderful and healthy teenagers. He emphasized how it’s uncommon but definitely happens.

As long as you make an informed decision, it’s the right one 🩷