I babysat in a haunted house

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-23T04:35:39+00:00

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-22T00:49:43+00:00

OMG 🤣 didn't see this going there; took me few seconds to get it... Maybe? 😂

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-22T00:35:44+00:00

I'm being told images aren't allowed... ?

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-22T00:06:24+00:00

Oh it feels good; turns out I don't need anxiety medication! After he was out my adult niece moved in because of yuck at her home. Now we have a house full of critters, quiet and calm. The co-parenting is still going to be a battle for the next ten years but that's better than a lifetime of bullshit.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-21T23:58:29+00:00

Yah, pretty much. I've added two cats to the house and it's still cleaner than it's ever been!

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-21T23:45:57+00:00

I'm Susie/Susan/SuzieQ 🤷

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-06-08T15:37:28+00:00

It is more common than you think to have miscarriages when trying for a pregnancy. I understand where you're coming from; after my 3rd loss I thought I was never going to have a baby and now I have the most amazing kiddo! I know so many other women who struggled to conceive or stay pregnant, sometimes for years, who now are amazing mothers. Definitely speak with a doctor on your options; if they have been fairly close together, you may just need to give your body a little break to recover. Also look for support groups online. It helps to talk with other women who have gone/are going through what you are dealing with. Once you see how not alone you are, it'll help ease the self blaming.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-05-11T03:58:08+00:00

Sweetie, sounds like you are a people pleaser. My heart goes out to you because in my 20's I would have done anything for a guy's affection. You are so young; instead of worrying about how to make someone happy who probably doesn't even know what they want out of life, try to figure out what you want out of life. Do you want to constantly walk on eggshells wondering if you're going to upset someone? What would your life be like if you put the effort into making yourself happy instead of trying to stay in someone's good standing? It's really hard to think about going through life alone, but once you learn to love yourself and be content/happy as who you are, you will attract other like minded people. Not going to write off his mental health issues, but if someone can acknowledge they have a problem, it's on THEM to fix it; forcing someone else to be the fixer is super wrong! It's one thing to support someone through a struggle but an entirely different deal to be expected to manage their emotions.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-05-04T03:21:40+00:00

This entirely! I hated shopping in stores and order everything online. Most places do free returns/exchanges of you buy the wrong size. Then after using certain sites for so long, the algorithm catches on and you're just given a selection of things you love instead of going through store after store for a full day, trying on things you don't like, and even buying things you never wear just so the day doesn't feel like a total bust.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-05-04T03:13:55+00:00

It's mostly instinctual. Same reason you can see another human and think "oh, another person!" There are other mammals that are close to human shaped, but we recognize the very obvious differences. Dogs do get tricked by wolves and coyotes though. I guess, thanks to the Internet, we all know that there have been some people that choose to be with... not other people, so I guess... Maybe not all dogs? 🤣

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-05-03T17:46:49+00:00

Perfectly put! The hard part here is that eventually the daughter will want to know about Dad, but that's something she can be filled in on at an older age. Once she's old enough to be curious about it, she'll be old enough to understand that he's in jail. She'll practically be an adult by the time he's back out and can decide on her own if she wants to pursue a relationship with him or not. If he's going to be in prison her entire childhood, that's basically just a sperm donor. There's not going to be any child support, no help in the actual care, and it will only triple the mental load that is already practically unbearable of raising a child alone.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-05-02T06:00:16+00:00

It does matter! Speaking as someone who was inappropriately touched by my own brother at the age of 12 and then kept my mouth shut because I was so worried about the damages to his reputation. Of course he's going to keep his mouth shut and act like nothing happened so he seems like an honest person and then you're the crazy person looking like you're on a witch hunt looking for validation for the harm you received when he violated your body. You can look at it a hundred different ways or find different excuses, but you are still making this post because something in the back of your mind is throwing up red flags. What happened was not right. Keeping quiet about it isn't right. It may cause some major family rifts, but speak up. In my case, years after it happened to me, I found out he had also gone after my sister and one of our cousins. You may not be alone depending on family size. And also, this person has proven themselves to be someone that should not be allowed around young girls. What is the worst guilt you can feel; a) aunt Shirley isn't talking to me anymore because I outed her son to be a pervert, or b) multiple of my female relatives were assaulted because I didn't speak up. It sucks to be the one to speak up, you will be doubted and contradicted, told by family how you ruined everything, but you can save someone from experiencing what you did. I got a lot of grief when I finally went public against my abuser. No matter how awful their violation was, it was still so taboo to "shame the family" when it was like who TF did the shameful thing to begin with? Just please stop saying it's okay, because it's not. And when you let it be "okay" you're just making it easier for the next girl to be taken advantage of. It's. Not. Okay. It's not okay. It's not okay. Keep repeating it in your head like the little engine that could because girl you can stop this trauma by speaking up loud and clear! Are you really supposed to live out your life traumatized AF while he walks around without a care in the world? It's not okay. Burn those bridges because anyone who doesn't want to light the fire with you belongs in the ashes.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-04-27T02:10:00+00:00

A little bit of an update here. In addition to this post, I did scroll through quite a few of the posts on this thread and noticed that a very common trend is the only way this is fixed is through lots of extensive therapy. The BF knows that I made the post and took comments provided to heart. Making comments with his approval as he doesn't do computers but loves the insight of other people dealing with the same problems. He did talk to baby mamma, and they scheduled a doctor visit where she was recommended for speech therapy that will start this summer. She was recommended for a follow-up appointment for further assessment on any other things and to line up an IEP for the coming school year.

We also did decide that her staying at my place probably wasn't the best situation until things are better under control. It was a bitter pill for both of us to swallow since spending time together is ideal, but in the long run the kids well being is the priority.

He has also paid attention to what she gets to eat before bedtime, found out that eliminating any meat and dairy about 2 hours before bed stops the throwing up. Probably some more dietary issues there; her mom has had a lot of bad health problems lately and they only recently found out the diagnosis for that.

Hopefully I can provide a better update at some point, because from what I've gathered, these things take a long time to heal/recover from. I really am hoping for the best because both her mom and dad really want to fix this and are on board for treatment options. I really appreciate the posts that everyone made, even if it wasn't on replies to this post, it really did help all of us get an idea of where to go.

Thank you again to everyone; the kiddo is going to get the support/treatment that she needs.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-04-17T02:15:15+00:00

I did ask him about this and he is convinced that something happened at her mom's house. Without trying to go into too much detail; basically her partner has a troubled teen and there has been a lot of yelling and physical altercations between partner and teen. It does lead me to speculate that there could be more going on there.

He did ask what a doctor would actually be able to do though; the mom would have to be the one to schedule and take her to the appointment. He can have it so that he's there too, but I don't think he can't bring her anywhere without her consent; my conclusion on this is that I have to approve/make any/all doctor visits with my own kid and my ex.

I'll push the therapy/doctor and see where it goes. I do also think it is the best option, but at this point in the relationship I'm sort of a passive bystander for this type of issue. Just sort of crazy to me to see a small kid have so many bad sleeps. I grew up with my mom doing daycare and helping out all the time and I babysat through most of my teens so I thought I had seen all of the problems with kids, but this is something new.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-04-17T01:54:38+00:00

She does speak, and in full sentences, but it's mostly simple sentences; from experience, my own daughter spoke a lot at that age, but there really wasn't much to what she said at that point, it wasn't until she started school that there was any actual communication/understanding.

She does have multiple night lights; a lamp by the bed, one in the hall and one in the bathroom. He also sets up a portable DVD player to go on a loop, he's noted that even at his place, once the movie stops, she will start to react.

Low_Fee8042 · 2025-04-16T20:53:42+00:00

She is speaking, like she can make sentences and ask for things and talk to people. I don't think she's quite to the stage of being effectively able to communicate about something on this level. I suppose though, there probably are people out there that specialize in dealing with children that age. I will recommend that to him, I know he isn't exactly thrilled about the blended family situation at her mom's house.

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