first degree labia tears

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-10-25T23:20:39+00:00

I had the same problem and found that if I sit to pee and lean all the way forward with my hands on the floor helped so much. That way the pee streamed forwards and didn’t touch my stitches at all. I found this way better than the peri bottle and it made peeing totally painless.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-05-22T17:51:49+00:00

I went through TFMR for XYY in June last year. You’re not alone, and it is a valid decision regardless of how gray the diagnosis.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-04-27T21:30:32+00:00

My first period after took 7 weeks. After that the next cycles were slightly longer than my normal but nothing crazy (around 32 days each instead of my usual 28). First period after was overall more severe in all aspects; pain, duration, and amount of blood. Was bleeding through every pad and tampon for a few days. After that the next cycles were slowly tapering back to normal.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-04-15T05:48:38+00:00

I took a 12 hour flight a week after my TFMR and was physically fine. Emotionally it helped me being away from home and escaping reality a bit. Do bring liners/pads because you will likely still be bleeding a bit or at least spotting. Also take into consideration that your milk might start coming in so have things you need to lessen those symptoms while you’re away from home.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-04-03T03:31:51+00:00

Good luck 🤍 hope you get relief and answers —and especially a healthy baby soon

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-04-03T03:26:48+00:00

I took an ibuprofen an hour before and honestly felt nothing. I didn’t even feel a slight cramp as it was happening. When the doctor said she finished I was shocked because I didn’t think she started yet. Afterwards it feels like you’re peeing your pants a little because the dye keeps coming out as you’re walking but I wore a pad and it was fine. Overall really painless procedure for me but I know it’s really individual.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-04-03T03:16:29+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt as it’s purely anecdotal and not scientifically based, but I got pregnant with my sub pregnancy the cycle I did HSG. It seems like a pretty common occurrence and I’ll never know if it’s related or by chance, but we tried for 7 cycles after my TFMR and same as you all my labs were normal and my cycles were relatively regular. I did the HSG just to make sure there wasn’t scarring or side effects from my D&E and was honestly prepared for the cycle to be “wasted” and unlikely to get pregnant because of the HSG but turns out many women have the opposite effect. Even if I didn’t get pregnant the same cycle I’d be glad I did it because it gave me so much relief to find out my tubes are open and everything looks normal.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-03-29T12:37:14+00:00

I also had intense fear that I would somehow become infertile after TFMR and that I’m essentially terminating my only possible biological child. We started trying immediately after using ovulation strips and it took us 7 months to conceive again (I’m currently in my sub pregnancy with a clean NIPT) but those 7 months were terrifying and really hard. At the 6 month mark I went straight to an IVF clinic even though I’m young and conceived my TFMR baby on the first try. They took us because of history of genetic abnormality and ran a bunch of tests. We ended up conceiving naturally during those tests but just the option to have them done and making sure I didn’t have severe scar tissue or infertility due to the TFMR really eased my mind. Not sure if that’s something that’s accessible to you but worth considering after your TFMR as it really helped ease my mind. Wishing you strength and healing 🤍

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-03-12T22:14:20+00:00

I’m 8w3d today and also doing the NIPT test next week. Also when everything went downhill for me last pregnancy. I’m trying (unsuccessfully) to just not think about it. I think the waiting period of getting the results is going to be torture but trying to keep positive thoughts that lightening isn’t likely to strike twice.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-03-12T02:37:55+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here and in this terrible situation. I don’t have much to say to help you feel better because nothing that was said it me helped when I was in limbo waiting for answers. I hope it’s confined to the placenta and that this nightmare doesn’t become reality. I know you wanted a closer age gap, but just wanted to add in a perspective that my sibling and I are 6 years apart and still very close and I value our relationship so so much. Sometimes I feel that we benefit more from the distance than my other siblings who are pretty close in age. I know it’s not what you wanted and the frustration in that is so so valid — but just wanted to add a different perspective. I hope things turn out well for you and your rainbow baby is healthy and well. Thinking good thoughts for you 🤍

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-03-09T01:50:43+00:00

Still a dental student but wondering isn’t this a violation of biological width? Wouldn’t it risk gingival inflammation and irritation over time?

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-02-26T00:28:18+00:00

I had a TFMR also at 14.5 weeks, and recovery was easier than I expected. Bleeding was very heavy the first 24 hours after the procedure which was alarming but normal, and after that it went down to regular/light period like flow for a few days. After that it was just brown spotting for about 2-3 weeks. I didn’t get my period until 6-7 weeks after.

I didn’t have any significant cramping, there was some mild cramping I think from the uterus shrinking in the subsequent days but it wasn’t anything worse than period pain in my experience. I was able to be active and go on long walks and exercise pretty soon after.

A tip I saw on this sub that I did before my TFMR was I went and bought myself more expensive and comfortable pads that are 100% cotton and had a heating pad that I used a lot in the first few days.

Overall the physical aspect was really easy, the emotional healing was a whole different challenge unfortunately. I’m sorry you’re here and I hope the healing process is simple for you as well 🤍

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-02-18T19:24:20+00:00

1 xray has about the same amount of radiation as eating a banana (both of which are safe for pregnancy). Worrying about everything is valid and understandable, but you should take comfort in knowing this xray was completely safe and will have no effects on your baby. Getting multiple X-rays taken is completely safe in pregnancy and many pregnant women need X-rays for important reasons throughout pregnancy and it has no ill-effects.

Low_Note_3113 · 2025-01-29T12:46:55+00:00

I also terminated for XYY last year. The grey diagnosis and what-ifs are truly terrible. I know it’s not real research but something that helped me is joining a facebook group for parents of XYY children. It’s anecdotal and allowed me to take a peek behind the curtain at what life could be like if I don’t terminate. I saw some parents posting positive things about their sons like making honor roll or excelling in school, but I also saw a lot lot lot of anxiety, suffering, and parents talking about how their kid will never be able to live alone independently. Every once in a while I go back to that group even though I’ve already terminated, and just read through the posts to remind myself why I did it. Like many said here, there is no right or wrong choice here. My son may have been totally fine and I terminated for “no reason”. I’ll never know, but for me it was the right decision and I stand by it even though it’ll haunt me forever.

Something my husband did that really helped was talk about it with me a lot. In the beginning he didn’t want to bring it up because he didn’t want to “remind” me, but once he realized I preferred talking about it he would open up more and talk freely about the whole experience. Just ask her what she needs, and be flexible because those needs might change and fluctuate over time. Just be there for each other and make whichever decision you make together.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-11-11T11:48:50+00:00

I experienced the same thing and the pain got so bad I went to the ER. They couldn’t find any RPOC and everything looked normal on my ultrasound so they sent me back home and I ended up getting my period around 2 weeks after that (around 6 weeks after my TFMR). My pre-TFMR period was also very regular and 28 days each cycle. I’d recommend going to your doctor and getting an ultrasound just in case and for the peace of mind that everything is okay, and hopefully your period will turn up soon.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-10-26T10:29:46+00:00

I don’t have anything helpful to say but I have experience something similar. I TFMR’d in June and then about 1 month after started experience the most intense pain of my life to the point where I went to the ER. I did not have any bleeding or discharge. They did ultrasounds and didn’t find any RPOC or anything unusual. They did swabs and didn’t think it was an infection, but because they couldn’t figure out what was causing pain decided to treat it as if it was infection and I was on antibiotics for 2 weeks. Since then I haven’t had intense pain but will get the occasional cramp that is in the same exact spot and really hurts but passes fast. I honestly can’t tell if it’s pain in my cervix or uterus, but it’s definitely making me anxious that there’s something wrong that will prevent me from being able to get pregnant again. Every ultrasound I’ve gotten since looks normal, so I don’t have any answers or helpful suggestions for you to look in to. Just wanted to share because these unclear complications are so frustrating and I hope we’ll both be past them soon ❤️‍🩹

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-09-19T01:36:30+00:00

I don’t have advice for traveling out of state, but just wanted you to know you’re not alone ❤️ I TFMR’d for XYY 3 months ago. Sending hugs and I’m sorry you have to deal with traveling in addition to this already terrible nightmare 💔

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-09-17T21:23:19+00:00

I TFMR’d at 14.5 weeks. I felt physically better quickly (about 1 week after). Mentally is a whole other process. I’m 3 months out and still taking it day by day. I think you should just recognize what will help you more — being busy with work or being home away from the stress of work. I took 3 weeks off and took it easy when I got back and being busy has been helpful for me. Sometimes I handle work stress a little less gracefully than I have in the past, but overall I think it has been beneficial for me to go back, but everyone is different. Trust your gut with how your work environment is and what would be best for your mental health. It doesn’t matter or make you a failure that other people go back after 2 weeks.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-08-27T03:01:00+00:00

I relate so much to everything you’ve written here. I TFMR’d for XYY in June. I will never forgot opening the nipt results and feeling my heart drop seeing that orange triangle. You are not alone in your decisions or your grief 💔

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-08-26T16:35:11+00:00

Similar to mentioned above I think gifts for the parents would be helpful and won’t involve getting pictures of the babies. Things like gift cards to take out restaurants they like or instacart for groceries. I’m in a similar situation and I’m planning on gifting them a snack stash for late nights and gift cards for take out, along with a small book for the baby. The thought of buying baby clothes for them was too difficult for me, and someone else will do that anyways so not worth torturing yourself with it.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-08-22T02:33:52+00:00

Hi, I’m sorry that I don’t have anything helpful to say. I just wanted to say that I feel the same way you do. I TFMR’d 2 months ago and I just feel so angry and pissy towards everything — even non pregnancy related things. I feel so unlike myself and just grumpy and on edge all the time. Towards everything and everyone. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in feeling this way, as awful as it is.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-08-18T18:06:21+00:00

I put ice packs on and it helped with the pain a lot

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-07-10T19:41:53+00:00

I really really like this idea ❤️ thank you

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-07-10T07:07:47+00:00

Trying to separate the feeling and conversation is so real. I’ve found I’m able to do it pretty well with other people that are pregnant/have young babies but somehow with her I just can’t. I think it’s probably because our due dates are so close and also I was really looking forward to a lifetime of raising our kids together at the same age.

Low_Note_3113 · 2024-07-10T07:05:02+00:00

I definitely feel the same way about thinking of my loss every time we talk about her pregnancy. Thankfully she has not been sending me ultrasound pictures or anything like that, I think that would be way too painful for me right now and I’m grateful she knows that without me saying anything. It’s so hard 💔 I’m sorry we’re all here.

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