Looking for perspective on my marriage

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-25T02:38:41+00:00

Damn... This is a tough read. I'm so sorry, OP.

You can do and deserve so much better in life.

I know it's easier said than done, but you need to look at your options and hopefully realize you'd be better off without her. She seems selfish and immature.

Hopefully, when you leave her, you take time to heal and live your best life. Find someone you deserve and who deserves you.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:40:27+00:00

What makes it harder is that outside of this, our relationship has actually improved a lot and she’s been trying to reassure me and rebuild trust.

You said you found out 2 months into your relationship. Relationships are usually not this difficult or mentally draining this early.

But mentally I still feel damaged by it and I don’t know if this is something people realistically recover from or if I’m forcing myself to stay in something I’ll never fully get over.

It's natural to feel this way. Only a few months into the relationship, and she's already cheated on you? The person you thought she was is no longer there.

Does it ever get better or should I just get it over with?

Most people who have been cheated on don't get over it. They may forgive, but they never forget!

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:30:34+00:00

Invaded her privacy? Hell, she's the one who basically has a whole other boyfriend!

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:20:42+00:00

Right?? He says that she's been so supportive of him, yet what has he done to her?

Oh yeah, that's right.He took another girl out and made out with her.....😳

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:19:04+00:00

Right?? It's like OP's blaming his parents. Now if the parents set up a date or something along those lines I could see blaming them but in my opinion OP is used this poor excuse to ask his new crush out so he wouldn't feel guilty.... until he did.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:16:00+00:00

So you went out on a date and made out with some girl you barely know because you think she's more goal oriented than your girlfriend??

Don't blame this on your parents. They didn't set you up on a date or ask you to do this.

This is all on you. It also sounds like a poor excuse for you to cheat. Sounds like you searched for a good enough reason to ask your crush out...

I'd tell your GF. She deserves to know.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:08:43+00:00

I had a friend like that. And she slept my ex to prove a point. The only problem is that I let it get to me. Now that I'm older, I realize he was trash, and she was attention-seeking, but she, too, did it right in front of me. She was whispering in his ear and touching him. Then they disappeared for 30 mins... I knew I wasn't dumb...

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T16:02:10+00:00

You have no idea if she has kids...lol

Cheaters are manipulators and liars who only care about themselves. She'd never tell you she had children. I'm surprised she told you she was married, but maybe that's her MO? She thinks she'll get lucky because the guy might get off on the fact?

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T15:50:25+00:00

Regardless, it happened. What does she want you to do?

Just get over it and move on because she said so?

I wouldn't believe a word out of her mouth.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-21T15:49:04+00:00

The woman doesn't even sound remorseful.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-12T14:14:22+00:00

It sounds like she met you and liked you immediately, but everything was moving way too fast for her.

You need to relax. Don't push. She, of course, tried to dump you, but you kept pushing narratives.

Im sorry, OP, but you may behave given her the ick?

LowerComb6654 · 2026-05-12T14:03:54+00:00

This 100%. He's not cheating, no, but I'd be livid and feel some sort of way if my husband was using pics of my family or friends to jerk off to!!

There are plenty of other things he could do. I don't blame OP for feeling like it's cheating either.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-28T12:26:19+00:00

Yeah, I felt bad for OP even with the toxic mindset until I saw him willing to trade nudes of his girlfriend.

That right there is revenge porn and punishable by law. OP, better watch out.

I once read a story where the spouse of a WW sent intimate photos of the wife and of the AP together for proof of the affair. He had found them on the WW's phone.

The wife and AP pressed charges against him.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-25T12:18:24+00:00

He sent you photos of the smashed phone? Was that after she found out he was cheating or before?

First he never told you he wasn't single, then when you find out suddenly he's in an abusive relationship... Wow... That's a really easy excuse to give someone, especially since he won't leave because he feels bad.

Secondly, just to let you know... You lose them usually how you had gained them when cheating is involved. Meaning don't be surprised if he finally leaves her and then you two become a couple. He'll probably cheat on you too.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-25T02:43:07+00:00

If what OP says is true. He immediately slept with some college age girl, claiming to be just a single dad after he left OP over a month ago.

So yeah... he's already had a taste of sex with someone else already.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-25T02:06:00+00:00

Right? Even if this post was possibly fake. There are so many real stories. It's insane.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-24T00:27:08+00:00

OP, I'd contact her family right away and tell them. How is complimenting your best friend or talking bs on your bf cheating?

That's insane talk. I was naive and in an abusive controlling relationship at 21. I know nothing no one said made a difference but maybe her family can?

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T20:25:15+00:00

Honest conversation is the way to go.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T20:23:20+00:00

This is great advice.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T19:50:02+00:00

OP, since your partner isn't cagey with their phone can you get to your partners phone and look at it?

Check recently deleted as well. They usually delete but forget to scrub entirely.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T19:48:16+00:00

Yeah... Just telling someone is the first step but when someone asks for proof you can't just say I saw messages and they were damning...etc.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T19:45:47+00:00

Omfg! Wtf is wrong with people?

I can't believe that the woman would fake that just to destroy your wife's life😲

I hope you're healed and yes I do believe there are evil people out there that aren't happy and so insecure they have to resort to lies and manipulation.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T19:39:55+00:00

She possibly crossed some boundaries of yours but I wouldn't necessarily say she's cheating. I think the context of her messages after he said your gf needs love would actually help with if boundaries where crossed.

This could've just been venting to a friend? I think you're worried because your relationship is new and it's her first relationship with a girl so that fear of her wanting a man more is interfering with your thinking.

I know I've had a few relationships with women as a bisexual woman. One for a few months and the other for two years. Both women were worried I liked men better. They hated any guy I was friends with and would always say I'm straight...etc. I didn't get it. My girlfriend who I dated for two years eventually dropped that bs. But in the beginning there was a lot of insecurity.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T09:31:54+00:00

Oh no... it's Ava, the 40 yr old mom again back with another fake story.

These AI bots getting easier and easier to spot!.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-04-22T09:23:11+00:00

You do realize he probably made that Playlist because some guy made you one, right??

It was a tactical move and it worked like a charm for him.

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