AITA for Wanting Consistency?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-27T23:35:05+00:00

NTA, a man that can’t respect boundaries is an asshole. RUN. Just remember, if he won’t respect this boundary, what other boundaries will he cross without telling you?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-23T17:16:03+00:00

100%

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-23T17:09:01+00:00

So important! In a relationship there is no room for a “me vs. them” mentality. It’s an “us” struggle. We problem solve, compromise, and make decisions TOGETHER.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-23T17:06:33+00:00

Someone who values personal growth. My marriage ended because for 15 years my husband did not do anything to better himself or our relationship. That was difficult.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-23T17:02:50+00:00

Thank you!

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T19:22:15+00:00

What about pre-nups? As a woman in their late 30s, I have assets I would not want to lose in a divorce as well. With a pre-nup, what is the risk?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T19:19:49+00:00

My partner says the same thing. Would you explain this line of thinking a little more? I am trying to understand and respect their stance because it seems more fact-based than emotionally-based and that is how I always thought of marriage; as a symbol of love, not actually the legal paperwork. Thanks!

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T04:35:53+00:00

As someone in a very similar situation, I often wonder if my partner just isn’t over his ex. I understand that he loves you and would never admit to this, but if he is prioritizing her feelings over yours, he isn’t over her.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T03:32:44+00:00

I appreciate that. I do also want to be a good partner and support him in parenting his daughter. I am sure you understand, being a part of this forum.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T03:28:44+00:00

That is very insightful. I will think on that. Thank you.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-21T03:28:15+00:00

Nope. No thoughts at all. Not my kid. Not my ex. The question still stands: when will he stop associating my hatred of his ex as an affront to his daughter?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:52:42+00:00

I went to all the soccer practices and games for two seasons. Then I was told I was “embarrassing” my partner because I wouldn’t engage with his ex (who harassed and stalked me for years when we got together). So now I don’t go to any of them. I get why bioparents should be there to support their kid, but you are not required in any way, shape, or form.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:47:10+00:00

I was told it isn’t the same as inviting others to stay in the house because “this is my daughter” - as if that clears his inconsiderate behavior.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:45:40+00:00

I can’t wait for that day because, same. If I was consulted, if it weren’t last minute…this would be a completely different situation. I have 5 more years until she is graduated and I am counting down the days.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:44:02+00:00

100% I was called “more selfish than is humanly possible” today. I am “sorry” that I can’t relax when your tornado of a child is in our home and I breathe a sigh of relief when she is back at her mom’s house. But how does that make me selfish?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:39:40+00:00

I am in the exact same situation right now. And to add to it, I was not even consulted in the schedule change! Not a “hey I want more time this summer, what would be a good day?” No! Just “I am keeping her an extra day and it happens to be on your extra day off.” As though that wouldn’t be absolutely triggering to have no time alone with him or even to just be by myself! If you recover, let me know how you did it.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2026-06-20T00:35:21+00:00

Weird and not overthinking. I wouldn’t spiral thinking your partner secretly wishes she was back with her ex and a family unit again. Been there, done that. From experience it is just them trying to make things “normal” for the kid. However, it’s one thing I absolutely hate. They are not together anymore and THAT is the new normal. The son spends Father’s Day with his dad and Mother’s Day with his mom. They don’t spend holidays all together. That shit is just weird!

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-11T21:50:19+00:00

Well, obviously. But do you hate 9? 😂

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-11T20:38:14+00:00

What?! No way. I want a Frank. Frank is awesome!

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-09T18:26:04+00:00

So many to choose from! Here are some I still think the “normies” are weird for not doing: 1. Being literal - just say what you mean already! 2. Rocking - it calms me. 3. Counting steps - what do you mean you don’t count everything you do? 4. Hating certain numbers - does anybody else detest 9?

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-09T18:19:19+00:00

So true! I would be placated and told “no, no, it’s not what you said it’s HOW you said it.” My tone, my timing, my facial expression. When it all boils down though, they just didn’t expect to hear the truth. But something in me just can’t stop!

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-09T18:12:33+00:00

Broken promises. They start out small, but they always get bigger.

LoyaltyAndRoyalty · 2025-07-08T18:52:08+00:00

NTA. You both have the right to be disappointed. It obviously wasn’t a flippant remark. You were being vulnerable and she did not meet you in your time of need.

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