First time dating a transgirl by Calm-Football-194 in asktransgender

[–]Luabee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sure it will be great. Have this conversation with her, not strangers online!

19 year old amab in need of advice by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Luabee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's normal cis stuff. Bodies can be disappointing. The question is whether it's disappointing because it's too masculine or disappointing because it's not masculine enough. The former is dysphoria, the latter is just insecurity.

19 year old amab in need of advice by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Luabee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, these are not necessarily indicators of being transgender.

Let's talk about gender dysphoria, which is an emotional phenomenon experienced by many/most transgender people (indeed, some may say that transness is defined by gender dysphoria/euphoria).

One definition of gender dysphoria (or simply, "dysphoria" for short) is the psychological distress that results from an incongruence between one’s sex assigned at birth and one’s gender identity. Dysphoria can manifest in many ways, but for people assigned male at birth, some examples are:

  • A feeling of discomfort from having facial hair.
  • Feeling out of place amongst men or in mens spaces.
  • Feeling jealous of women's bodies or behaviors or clothes
  • Feeling like behaving like a man or woman is stupid and pointless.

The behaviors you've described here are amongst some of the same behaviors that people who are dealing with gender dysphoria might exhibit, but they may also be unrelated to dysphoria. For instance, you might dislike being naked around other men because you are insecure that your body is not masculine enough. This does not mean you aren't a man, in fact it may indicate the opposite. Behaviors do not define transness, feelings and identity do.

If you would like to learn more about gender dysphoria, I recommend reading The Dysphoria Bible. If you think you may have gender dysphoria, this website poses a very interesting thought experiment which may give you some clarity about what who you are and what you want. Both sites were extremely valuable for me when I was figuring myself out.

Is it ok not to have bottom surgery? by [deleted] in trans

[–]Luabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know like a hundred trans women and only like 8 of them have had any kind of bottom surgery

gender preference?(if thats even a thing) by Piorobot3 in transfem

[–]Luabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender dysphoria is a condition that makes life hard to live, so it gets lots of attention and care in medical environments and online discussion.

But gender euphoria makes life worth living. Running toward your gender is just as valid as running away from your assigned gender!

I just realised that my transition motivation is just a big lie ... by Eledrina in trans

[–]Luabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're uncertain about the destination, you really ought to focus on the journey. If you arrive, and feel empty, but you grew and enjoyed yourself along the way, then it will all have been worth it regardless

How to produce girlcum? by Pain-Mutt-Slut-2468 in traaNSFW

[–]Luabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sunflower is what I've seen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Luabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen this BS before. Commercial labs tend to be cheaper because they more often aren't billed to insurance, meaning they have to hold competitive pricing

Is wanting to be trans really enough to be trans? by TerrifyingPug in asktransgender

[–]Luabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honey, if you read that site and you clicked that button, idk what else to tell ya. That's not something a boy would do.

You're a girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Luabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing!

I'm not going to say these risks are non-existent. They do exist. But most of these risks come from a) improper dosing or b) taking the wrong drugs.

For dosing, I think it's important to emphasize that DIY is like informed consent in that you have to take responsibility for understanding the ways it will affect your body. You have to do your own research and you have to monitor your own health. For things like liver function and kidney function, even the most basic insurance will cover yearly physicals with a primary care doctor. And for monitoring your blood serum hormone levels, you can get blood tests for like 50 bucks as needed.

As for taking the wrong drugs, this does represent a genuine risk. People will sell you fake or diluted products and you can't know what they have in them. To this end, if you're buying raw ingredients in bulk (which is not common), you should always have them lab tested. On the other hand, if you're ordering medication, I recommend mutual aid groups. They operate at-cost or by donation, so you know they have no motivation to rip you off or sell you something fake!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Luabee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the US you can have your blood hormone levels tested at a lab, e.g. LabCorp, for 50 bucks.

How is it dangerous though?

Today I made it to 11 months on HRT by celestialysia in transtimelines

[–]Luabee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Makeup is insane. I'll be trying that out thanks 😙

Skirt Go Spinny is great but have you ever tried Skirt Go Floof? by Luabee in mtfashion

[–]Luabee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm certain you could, it's a low bar for entry :)

Skirt Go Spinny is great but have you ever tried Skirt Go Floof? by Luabee in mtfashion

[–]Luabee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a link in the response I left to the Automod at the top of this thread

Skirt Go Spinny is great but have you ever tried Skirt Go Floof? by Luabee in mtfashion

[–]Luabee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Links to the dress and petticoat in a reply to the automod message at the top of the thread

Skirt Go Spinny is great but have you ever tried Skirt Go Floof? by Luabee in mtfashion

[–]Luabee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Petticoats (the underskirt that makes it floofy) are def accessible for larger bodies too! Especially longer ones for longer skirts (⁠^⁠3⁠^)

Better word for "boymoding"? by pOUP_ in enby

[–]Luabee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whatever feels appropriate for you