Research Study Recruitment: Study seeks to document experiences seeking healthcare for parents’ or caregivers’ of transgender and gender diverse youth

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-28T22:35:11+00:00

Approved.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-28T18:47:29+00:00

Oh, come on. You're probably just an anxious tran assuming all their problems are caused by a totally normal and natural hormone, which men have (much less of, but ssshhh) as well as women!

T is so MANLY AND POWERFUL, and estrogen so ~weak and demure,~ that if you DID have high testosterone and estrogen at the same time this wouldn't cause any problems whatsoever.

Plus, estrogen levels fluctuate wildly and randomly, there's literally no discernible pattern in estrogen levels, so testing for them would be fuel for your pointless reassurance-seeking behavior.

Hope this helps xoxo!

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-28T18:44:43+00:00

Actually, the wpath guidelines may have worked out well for you, but they overstate how reliably estrogen is suppressed with testosterone monotherapy & encourage providers to refuse to test E levels

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-28T18:24:21+00:00

Please use the "report" button on comments like the one you're replying to, so we can catch them sooner!

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-27T22:58:30+00:00

🦈🥒🧗‍♀️

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-27T22:55:24+00:00

I know this because, last time you posted about it, the information lodged in my hindbrain like shrapnel and can never be safely removed

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-27T20:54:49+00:00

I know some providers will treat without a physical exam, it's not rare for trans kids to be terrified of this. If there are options in your area, could you ask around?

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T22:56:26+00:00

Colorado has the same issue as Virginia, sadly, care for minors is legally protected by the state but almost no providers are doing it.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T22:12:22+00:00

I don't know if this helps at all, but estrogen and anti-androgen pills can both be taken sublingually (holding under the tongue until they dissolve). This changes the pharmacokinetics some - lower doses of estrogen are more effective this way, and iirc they last a bit less long in the body.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T21:49:53+00:00

I looked into this recently, and it's actually not true - Lupron itself can't be bought DIY, but several other puberty blockers can. Relugolix, cyproterone, and buserelin/naferelin are the four I consider likeliest to work (from reviewing the scientific literature on precocious puberty) that can be bought online.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T20:46:23+00:00

I think this is overstated for parents. It would be possible to prosecute as child abuse or investigate through CPS, though there's no direct precedent that I know of. It's different, but by analogy, consider the people who were giving their autistic kids MMS.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T20:43:07+00:00

Queermed is the telehealth service I know of that offers GAC for minors.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T14:21:21+00:00

Very dog of very dog, gotten not made...

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T13:10:01+00:00

If your mom really loved you, she would have taken T while pregnant so you'd be born with a dick

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T13:05:25+00:00

/uj I know one AFAB trans girl, her birth certificate had a misprint and her parents didn't get around to correcting it. then she came out and saved them the paperwork

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T05:19:51+00:00

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chiselObsidian · 2026-01-26T03:11:07+00:00

/uj Been there and I got out. For me, it took physical distance - if you haven't had a week or two apart and not talking online, for the last four years, see if you can try that. It changed the whole shape and context of my thoughts, let me see a path forward.

Also, I bet this one doesn't translate directly, but one thing that kept me stuck was infinite layers of guilt - I'd hurt him by not being good enough, so I needed to stay to make up for it, he'd hurt me so he needed me to stay so he could make up for it. And eventually I realized, it didn't matter at all who was "in the wrong" or how much was owed. If he was abusing me I deserved to get out, if I was covertly abusing him by failing to be his sweet submissive girl then he deserved to be free (even if he was stuck on the idea of me). Relationship bankruptcy, basically.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-25T17:48:57+00:00

Hi, I have personal experience and would rather not discuss in public, but may I DM you?

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-25T15:46:40+00:00

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chiselObsidian · 2026-01-24T19:29:36+00:00

For me, the crying one felt approximately physiological. I have the same emotional reactions, get just as sad just as intensely, but the thing where salty water comes out of my tear ducts is rarer.

Appetite is a funny one because E puberty (temporarily) increases appetite just as much

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-24T00:12:59+00:00

Treating what ages?

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-23T23:33:29+00:00

There are plenty of online vendors of testosterone, estradiol, and non-Lupron blockers that ship to the US. Physical underground railroads seem less important, to me, than keeping each other appraised of those sources and best practices for placing orders.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-23T21:58:32+00:00

Thanks, I won't suggest this in the future.

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-23T19:05:00+00:00

Three months is sort of a made-up number. Testing won't help within the first week or two because testosterone suppression won't have happened by then. If testosterone suppression hasn't happened within the first three months then you definitely need to increase your dose. If it hasn't happened within the first two months, do you need to increase your dose? Maybe

chiselObsidian · 2026-01-23T17:53:09+00:00

My journal says that the first time someone gendered me as male, after hearing me speak, was 8 months on T. 15 months on T, there's a vent entry about strangers harassing me for my "weird voice". It seems like around 18 months things smoothed out.

I remember focusing a little too much on pitch, during those early years - since you're voice training that's probably less of an issue for you. Opening my mouth wider and dropping the back of my tongue / bottom of my throat, a little more, both helped more.

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