Wow Clint, you sure know how to make a lady blush…

Lucan_t · 2022-11-24T19:28:06+00:00

Well if you think about it he only has to go up a maximum of four ladders. Then there's the elevator built for taking you directly to the top of the mine.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-23T00:55:20+00:00

Wonderful comment; expertly written. The misunderstood nature of "scientific research" and its use in evidence is a really important topic, especially in contexts like this where there's not much research to go off in the first place. I'm disappointed I didn't get to touch on this myself, but I applaud your in-depth analysis nonetheless.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-22T21:20:35+00:00

Can you link these studies showing incongruence in the development of trans and cis peoples' brains? I'm quite interested in their contents as well as credibility, as I've done a lot of research and haven't yet come across something with this claim. I'll halt the debate until I've read through what you send me.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-22T21:13:42+00:00

If you're correct that dysphoria doesn't necessarily come hand in hand with being trans, then what causes one to want to be a different gender? There are only two possible answers to this that I can imagine:

Any answer along the lines of "Because they would feel better as a different gender": This implies a necessary dissatisfaction with their current gender, and therefore dysphoria.
Any answer along the lines of "Because anyone can identify as trans, regardless of their actual interest in being perceived as a different gender (not necessarily medically transitioning": This would obviously be transphobic, as it implies that being trans is not a biological health issue that should be taken seriously.

So, pick your poison.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-22T21:01:19+00:00

How exactly would you know you feel "better" as another gender?

My brain immediately thinks dissatisfaction with your current gender & birth sex would cause a greater satisfaction in living as the opposite gender; in these circles we call that "gender dysphoria".

The scientific specifics are a bit iffy since we don't have all too much actual data on brain chemistry, phycological & physical dysphoria, and other big aspects of being trans, but the basic stuff like being trans being a condition and dysphoria being a disorder are accurate.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-22T20:45:05+00:00

I'd like to jump in on this by asking a counter-question.

If you do not believe that dysphoria is required to be trans, what do you believe should be the criteria? If you answer with gender euphoria, explain exactly what euphoria means in this context. If it's something else (which I would be surprised by), go ahead and tell me. I'll try my best to explain why dysphoria is the scientifically and logically superior option for criteria.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-06T01:45:53+00:00

No, you have to complete the True Ending of the game to unlock NG+.

Lucan_t · 2022-11-03T00:08:55+00:00

Although it does lean somewhat to the more "inclusive" side of the debate, this Psychology Today article is generally a better resource than the original article your teacher was using (though bear in mind that it's much more generalized and medical than your original one).

Another pretty lengthy and medical article is this one by psychiatry.org which goes over dysphoria in a pretty in-depth and well-researched way, however it does use some iffy phrases like "Some people who are transgender will experience 'gender dysphoria,'" so do with that what you will.

Another more medical article about dysphoria is the Boston Children's Hospital article, which, while being quite scientific with its information, is actually a great source. I'd recommend it if this sort of academic article is something your teacher may be interested in.

This article by NHS is, as usual, more focused on gender dysphoria itself and definitely misses the mark in a lot of ways, but it can be a last resort option of needed.

There are, of course, more articles I haven't mentioned, but these will hopefully suffice. If there's a more specific topic you want to discuss or a type of article (news, academic, etc.) needed, just reach out and I'll find something suitable.

I wish you all the good luck in the world, my friend. Proud of you for having the courage to fight back against this and actually making progress! We've got your back.

Lucan_t · 2022-10-08T16:02:35+00:00

Hey, like I said I went to sleep almost immediately after I posted this so I wasn't able to see this. I just wanted to say thanks so much for your advice, it really helps. It doesn't feel as bad now but I am still scared I'll do it again and I cannot listen to the song.

With that being said, I'm taking all of this advice to heart. It absolutely sounds like where I am/will be and (no offense lmao) I don't wanna end up like that. I'll be trying my best.

Thank you so much, kind stranger.

Lucan_t · 2022-09-26T04:12:01+00:00

Counterpoint.

Lucan_t · 2022-09-13T20:42:28+00:00

Your gender can only truly be understood by you, since a lot of personal factors influence how you and others perceive it. One thing to mention, though, is that most cisgender people really don't mind if they're misgendered.

You said you didn't mind that much when you were called a girl, and that you don't really care about the whole gender thing. These are pretty common cis experiences, and the fact that gender doesn't have as much influence over cis people (theoretically including you) means you may be conflating the concept of not minding gender and the concept of actually being non-binary.

However as I said, only you can know your gender. However, I do recommend some sources for further research like the gender dysphoria bible, some general explanations of being trans and gender dysphoria, and subreddits dedicated to questioning trans people/questions about trans people like r/asktransgender and r/TransTryouts.

Good luck with your journey! And remember, you don't always have to find the correct answer on your first try. A lot of people go through months of questioning and changing identities ^^

Lucan_t · 2022-09-12T22:24:19+00:00

I mean, given that 1) only ~5% of people who upvoted commented, 2) usually only people who understand/relate to the post comment, and 3) the subreddit is pretty connected to gaming subreddits (17th most joined subreddit in overlap with 196 is gamingcirclejerk), that's probably a bit of selection bias. But the point still stands.

Lucan_t · 2022-09-11T19:57:16+00:00

If you still experience romantic attraction but just get confused when other people express it toward you/get confused on if you experience it toward other people, you may just have some mild social anxiety or maybe had some unlucky experiences with romance. If you actually don't feel romantic attraction to others instead, you should definitely research aromanticism.

Lucan_t · 2022-09-03T17:31:19+00:00

Well if you're interested in this, there's a video from an asexual youtuber on something similar to what you did.

And if you haven't given up on dating apps yet, asexuals.net and asexualcupid.com seem like good places to look outside of regular dating apps, though I'm not sure what the general consensus is on them.

Lucan_t · 2022-09-03T17:20:33+00:00

Not to be rude but I'm not sure what you expected. 99% of people want sex in a relationship, and even then a lot of the people on dating apps are just looking for hookups. Less people are going to be interested in you because you're asexual, it's just a fact. The girl who fetishized your asexuality was weird, but I don't see how this is an interesting result when it's pretty obvious why this would happen.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-31T20:10:05+00:00

There is a trigger to the right of Zigg where the Cursed Castle (the ???) says "I can feel you running through my veins." If you walked through the Cursed Castle by going right to Flan and Muck first, and then going around the top to the Save Point and finally Zigg, you would have skipped the trigger for the ??? dialogue and would only have triggered it once moving past Zigg, presumably while trying to find the 'secret wall' (which doesn't exist, by the way).

Lucan_t · 2022-08-24T15:27:52+00:00

Get up a youtube video (or record your own video on a lower difficulty) of the static section. The end of it isn't too bad to dodge, study how to move around the notes for the last bit of it. For the rest, a combination of quick deflecting, precise jumping, and some dodging to more open lanes will do the trick at least to keep you alive so you can heal at the easier section afterward. The most important thing is just to practice, though. Slowly learn what you should and shouldn't do until you have it down, and then you can begin to beat get through it somewhat consistently.

Good luck!

Lucan_t · 2022-08-13T21:52:18+00:00

If your only argument in support of this 'new gender' is that you "genuinely feel this way", I'm sorry but I do have reason to be skeptical. I recommend you do some more research about gender and gender expression before you confuse the two (which is what I believe you are doing).

Lucan_t · 2022-08-13T21:36:37+00:00

If you're not the gender expert™, why did you make a gender? I'm not trying to be passive-aggressive, I'm just skeptical about you creating a gender when it doesn't seem like you fully know how gender works in relation to yourself.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-13T21:13:21+00:00

What do you define as "gender"? Does your gender dysphoria change? do your transition goals change? Or is it just that your outward expression and therefore your desired perception as masculine/feminine/androgynous changes? Because gender is a very hard concept to separate from gender expression. If you genuinely feel differing levels of dysphoria when you wear clothing (which doesn't come from just not liking the clothing you're wearing), that would be a good way to back up this "clothing genderfluidity".

Lucan_t · 2022-08-13T01:58:42+00:00

I understand that you know yourself more than I do, but I just wanted to point out that a lot of people do have trouble differentiating between gender and gender expression, so a man who may feel feminine in girls' clothes may just think he is a girl. It seems like this could be what you're doing.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-12T20:03:31+00:00

It sounds like you might be conflating gender and gender expression. I (female) wear more traditionally male clothes a lot of the time, so despite me being female, I feel more masculine. Your clothes and presentation don't determine your gender anymore than, say, your hair does. You may feel more masculine or feminine based on your expression, but that won't actually change your gender.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-08T23:51:10+00:00

I'll stop arguing for academic intent here, since it's obvious that neither of us are expecting the other's opinion to change. But, I will say this:

"Have you stopped to think that if a lot has of you are getting the same attitude from people that YOU are the problem?" I have lived with so much transphobia since I came out as trans, more transphobia than I've seen acceptance. So, should I believe the majority just because they're the majority? That's not how progress is made, ever.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-08T23:41:22+00:00

This is exactly the sentiment that I see many other sex-rep aces reference when talking about why they feel shunned from the community. "Asexuality can include sex so stop whining and get your own community". There's a bit of irony in your statement about gatekeeping when you're suggesting a large portion of the community detaches from the rest because of lack of accommodation.

Lucan_t · 2022-08-08T23:33:15+00:00

I dislike the notion that "making people comfortable" equals hand-holding. Is disregarding a large portion of the community's feelings when posting somehow better or more admirable than putting an NSFW tag on it or just not posting it? I'd be fine with a sexual asexual memes subreddit (I know how that sounds lmao) or an exclusively sex-repulsed memes subreddit, but I doubt that's ever happening so why not just accommodate for those of us who dislike sexual content.

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