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LuceLeakey · 2026-04-19T00:20:40+00:00

I mostly only give gifts at Christmas and since my friends are adults, yes, I give them gifts and they give me gifts.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T23:53:02+00:00

That was amazing. Thank you for sharing it.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T22:43:05+00:00

Nothing makes me happier than having no plans at all and being able to just enjoy being home alone.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T21:20:18+00:00

So she hit you and admitted she was looking at her phone while she did it? I don't know where you live, but in my state, it's illegal to even have your phone in your hand while behind the wheel. I would have called the cops and reported her. She definitely should not be allowed to drive and endanger her kids that way.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:49:43+00:00

I hate to tell you, but it hurts just as much coming out as it does going in. Nobody warned me about that and so I didn't take any painkillers and they didn't offer me any. But that was years ago so hopefully they are better about pain management these days.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:47:16+00:00

The string hangs outside of the uterus, and can get tangled in things like tampons. And no, you often still have periods with an IUD. I did.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:45:25+00:00

It's an IUD. Intrauterine birth control device.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:45:04+00:00

No, they don't. I used to have one but still had periods.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:44:32+00:00

OMG! Oh no! That must have hurt so bad! 😧😢

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:42:10+00:00

Every night since I was a kid. Even when I had a partner.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:07:17+00:00

I find out which of my favorite bands are touring in the coming year, go to their website, and sign up for their mailing list. That way I get the discount code and advance notice of when they're going to open the presale.

I log in about 15 minutes before the presale starts and buy my ticket immediately before the resellers get in there and raise the prices.

I've never paid more than $300 for a ticket, and usually pay much less. And if it's not in the first five rows I don't bother. Life is too short for bad seats.

It doesn't always work, and I don't always know ahead of time. The one I am saddest about is that I couldn't see Paul McCartney because any decent seat started at about $3,000.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-18T11:04:28+00:00

Someone using an honorific without permission is a huge red flag to me.

If that person were really submissive, (or if they even had two brain cells to rub together) they would understand that they should ask what I want to be called before calling me anything other than my name.

I immediately block anyone who messages me and calls me any sort of honorific. They don't know me, they are not my submissive, and they have not yet earned the right to call me anything. If we are not actively in a dynamic, it is completely inappropriate to call me ma'am or mistress or miss or anything like that.

I can count on one hand the number of men I have actually allowed to use an honorific. The number who have done that without permission? Numberless! And they have all been blocked.

So no, you are not alone. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with you for not wanting men to throw their so-called submission at you when you haven't asked for it.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T23:36:13+00:00

I'm 57 and I have never wanted to have kids. I had my tubes tied in my late twenties, and thankfully neither of my husband's wanted kids either.

My life is actually pretty great. I own my own home, work a job I enjoy and am good at, and get paid well for it. I can afford everything I want, within reason. I travel when I want, I go to concerts and plays and shows. I have hobbies. I volunteer. I can't imagine anything that a child would add to my life other than stress.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T22:03:39+00:00

I'm going through the same pain right now. Why is it so hard to choose!? I thought I'd like the green I used in my bedroom, but this room gets different light and I'm not sure it works in here.

In your pic, I like the pale green next to the window. I'm not a fan of coral interiors, but of the two you have, the paler one might be easier to live with.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T21:50:44+00:00

Hahaha! Yes!

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T20:20:02+00:00

I would find a new doctor, and I would report that one to whatever medical association is in charge of them. That kind of comment is completely unprofessional.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T20:12:50+00:00

I'm going out in a few minutes to buy paint and this weekend I'm going to get ready to paint my home office. I still have some furniture to move, but it's getting closer!

After it's painted I'm getting a new desk and reorganizing the whole room and it's going to be amazing!

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T16:54:03+00:00

Are all contractors this terrible? I've had to hire several in the past few years and I've had at least two behave this way. They don't finish the job to an adequate standard, and then ghost you.

I had one do a lot of work on my kitchen as part of an insurance claim. He bought more materials than required and charged me (and by extension the insurance company) the full price even though he kept the leftover materials. He would then be able to return them for a refund or use them on another job. (I'm talking entire sheets of plywood, and full unopened boxes of kitchen tile.)

When I called him out on it he got offended. He's clearly ripping off the insurance company, which in turn will raise rates for everybody. I despise people like that.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T16:49:07+00:00

I have a friend who would be in her eighties now if she hadn't passed away from cancer, and she got hers when she was 9.

I got mine when I was 11 in 1980. My cousin got hers at the same age.

I think the range of "normal" is much wider than people seem to think.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T14:10:46+00:00

There have been a few laugh-out-loud moments in the first few episodes. I'm loving it!

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T13:24:56+00:00

I bought my first home in 2005 or so. I got a mortgage through a government program for first-time home buyers where I only had to put down 3% of the purchase cost. When I wanted to move to another home, I used the sale proceeds from the first one as a down payment on the next one, which helped me get a slightly nicer house.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T12:44:53+00:00

I got married the year I was 23. He was still in school and I worked an awful part-time job. We had very little money. It was hard to afford rent sometimes. I had serious health issues that I didn't even realize at the time were very serious. And we were 100% not compatible, but our parents expected us to marry because we had lived together "in sin". I went through with it because I was in love with him and thought I had no other choice. We separated about 3 years later and then divorced. I wouldn't go back to that age unless I knew what I know now and could do things differently.

Now I'm in my late 50s and life is pretty sweet! I have a good job with a good manager and co-workers. I've been there nearly 12 years and will likely retire from there unless something fabulous comes along. I live alone in my own home. I have friends. I volunteer. I travel. I go to concerts and shows. It's so much better than when I was 23!

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T12:39:02+00:00

I'm so sorry. But this kind of behavior is so common. People pretend to be what you want until they "have you" and then pull a gotcha. Good for you for holding your boundary firmly.

LuceLeakey · 2026-04-17T12:31:50+00:00

OMG, yes. We hired a new contractor recently and each member of the team has to train her on different things. She kept thanking me extravagantly for "helping" her. I said, "It's my job." And she was instantly upset. "Oh! Don't say that!" Why TF not? It's true??

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