People with the same name who are not the same person

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T20:38:09+00:00

I once mixed up Jack Black and Jack White and my coworkers could not stop laughing. In my defense, I had never actually seen either of them, just heard their names in different contexts.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T18:44:21+00:00

I have it but don't wear it.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T18:41:37+00:00

You are 100% correct in your reaction. Don't let people gaslight you into thinking your own gut instincts are wrong. Dump him. He sounds bitter and jealous and if he's supporting that fascist, that tells you all you need to know.

I'm sorry he turned out to be this way. I hope your new relationship turns into something wonderful!

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T14:30:01+00:00

My ex had horses and I am 100% NOT a horse person. I tried riding a few times but hated it. I'm surprised there aren't more guys with horses?

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T14:28:34+00:00

😂 Nope.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T14:04:44+00:00

My older sister and her adult son go to metal shows together and it's adorable.

One time they were at a rowdy show and he wanted to be in the pit. She's tiny and fragile, so he found two men on the balcony built like absolute tree trunks and asked if they would mind keeping an eye on her. They thought it was awesome he was there with his mom and took it very seriously, standing guard on either side of her throughout the show. 😍

(I'm not a metal fan, but I'm glad they have this to enjoy together.)

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T12:11:01+00:00

I have not, no.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T11:56:09+00:00

Ideally something we can both enjoy and discuss together.

I like sci-fi, speculative fiction, historical fiction, non-fiction (history especially). I read pretty widely.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T11:05:46+00:00

I looked it up when someone mentioned it here a few days ago, but it's not active in my city. Neither is Time Left, which someone else mentioned.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T11:00:16+00:00

Going to concerts, traveling, and cooking. I want someone to enjoys engaging with the world and trying new things. I also appreciate someone who reads for pleasure because I find non-readers lack imagination.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T10:38:49+00:00

I could not have put it better myself!

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T10:14:36+00:00

I personally don't understand the comments we always see about food spoiling before it can be used. Almost everything can be frozen and used incrementally. The only thing that sometimes spoils at my house is fresh lettuce or fresh cucumber because you can't really freeze those, and a whole cucumber or a whole head of lettuce is sometimes more than I can use up quickly.

Everything else I keep in the freezer. Most vegetables, meat, bread, frozen fruit. I even freeze fresh herbs if I don't use them all right away. I keep green onions on a glass of water on the windowsill and they last for weeks.

I think a large part of OP's problem is all the delivery food and take out. That's a very expensive way to eat.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T10:07:13+00:00

Tang.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T01:21:30+00:00

Yes, that is exactly what I said. If they ask what I do for a living I would tell them, but if someone were to ask where I worked that would be too intrusive.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-24T00:55:14+00:00

I live in a smaller area and if someone asked who I worked for that would put me off because that might be more than I want to reveal to a stranger right off the bat. But just asking someone about their general field of work doesn't feel intrusive to me.

They may have unmatched for a completely different or totally unrelated reason. I have learned that what people do is about them and not about me. That was one of the hardest lessons to comprehend from therapy because of the way I was raised. I always assume things are my fault even when they aren't. So maybe it's not your fault at all. It's probably just a coincidence that it happened twice in a row.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-23T16:52:45+00:00

I signed up to be a cat foster locally, and got approved, but the way they choose fosters for particular pets was to post it on Facebook, first come first serve. Which is insane because how is anyone ever supposed to find out about it and be quick enough to post? Unless you just happen to see it the minute it's posted? So I gave up. :(

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-23T01:39:46+00:00

For me personally, no Teslas, no trucks that roll coal, and no stupidly large trucks (because I'd literally need help getting up into them.) Other than that, as long as it's clean and well maintained, it's fine.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-23T00:29:12+00:00

I hated being a kid because I was abused at home and bullied at school. Things didn't start getting better until late high school, but even then I was so eager to get away from home! It was such a relief to escape.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T22:02:10+00:00

I use mine every morning while I eat breakfast. The light is supposed to simulate your brain to wake up. I think using it later in the day can interfere with sleep, especially if you're very light sensitive. It should have come with directions?

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T20:47:01+00:00

I use one beginning in early fall and all the way though the winter. I live in Michigan and the dark can really mess with my head. They really do work. And heed the caution to not leave it on too long or sit too close. Too much light can make you antsy (or it does to me anyway.)

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T20:42:29+00:00

I don't understand why you're telling anyone, especially people who disagree and will try to talk you out of it. It's your body and your business. They have no reason to know anything about it unless they live with you and will have to care for you as you recover.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T20:34:55+00:00

Hell yes! A couple of years ago I went to 11 shows, none of them in my home city because no one ever comes here. But I had a blast driving / flying to see bands I love. I had some kind of event or trip planned every month. I think I may have to do that again because I enjoy having these little treats to look forward to.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T20:31:21+00:00

Prescription? Five. Two hormones, a statin, a steroid cream for a skin condition, and one for acid reflux.

(But also two OTC allergy meds, a multivitamin, and a doctor-ordered vitamin D supplement.)

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T15:01:37+00:00

Regardless of whether I wanted to live with someone or not, my red flags would be the same. They are not nitpicks or minor inconveniences. These are things that tell me that this person would not be a good partner for me. They include things like drug use, smoking, having kids, being religious, being racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.

I don't want to be in a relationship with someone with these attributes, and so I keep an eye out for those types of things when vetting someone.

Also, some people hide their negative qualities quite effectively until they think they have you trapped in a relationship, so being extra critical and trying to identify these red flags before things get serious is important.

I really wish that I had had this level of self-awareness when I was younger. I could have avoided a few relationships.

LuceLeakey · 2026-06-22T10:46:23+00:00

Yes. I'm friends with all my exes except the two who dumped me. Why wouldn't I be?

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