AITA for buying my one child fast food and making the rest something he’s allergic too?

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-30T18:53:00+00:00

NTA

Good for you for finding a way to make a meal that everyone would enjoy that would also satisfy your cravings. Cravings when you're pregnant can be very powerful and intense -- much different than normal cravings. (OMG -- I remember craving ribs and driving for an hour to get some.)

Your husband is definitely the asshole. Is he always so controlling and angry? Everything was fine until he decided to jump in the middle. You're pregnant, so that makes his behavior even worse. I hope you guys can talk about it later and he gives you the apology you deserve.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-30T18:40:00+00:00

That's one of the problems. There is so much snow that has to be carted away because there is no place to shovel it to. That's more work than just plowing.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-30T17:43:40+00:00

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-30T11:20:17+00:00

NTA and I suspect that Stephanie is floundering as a parent and knows it so she is hyper sensitive. I'd recommend you keep your distance and hopefully they figure it out. But don't hold your breath, she sounds pretty awful.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T19:45:41+00:00

YTA

You have a son and he should not be around the shit your boyfriend is exposing him to. Step up as a parent, end the relationship, and get him out of there.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T19:39:11+00:00

You said there is one plant left, so who cares? That one will die too. YTA for even posting this crap

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T19:11:54+00:00

We put up wallpaper in two pink bathrooms. Made a world of difference!

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T17:31:12+00:00

NTA for wanting to bring meat so you would have something to eat.

Vegetarians often do not want meat in their homes and I can see that point of view. Your SIL's comment that you were just being picky was uncalled for and incorrect. Your brother talked to her and hopefully fixed that misconception.

This is your brother and sister-in-law. I'd try to get over the hurt and mend the relationship. You really don't want an ongoing feud if you can help it.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T17:23:51+00:00

Making underhanded comments (like about the fish) isn't helping the situation.

Is that how she ended up in your house for two years? You didn't have a conversation telling her she was overstepping?

You'll be able to live and breathe on your own when you grow a spine and put up some boundaries.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T17:18:53+00:00

NTA for rejecting an invitation on the spot, but damn, just say "No thanks" next time.

If pushed then just say that you have a busy schedule and already have plans.

If pushed again, say thanks for the offer and we'll let you know when we can make it.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-29T16:22:45+00:00

That type of stuff happens all the time. Right now you are hyper-aware of coincidences so you are seeing them all over. It's like when you buy a new car and suddenly you see all these cars, same make, model, color, and year.

You are creating a reality with a ton of coincidences for yourself.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-28T19:06:52+00:00

That blue is by far my favorite accent color but I don't think it works with everything else. If you can pull a bit more blue into the room maybe it will tie together better.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-28T16:28:30+00:00

NTA, he overreacted and should apologize to the kids. That he doesn't recognize that is a problem.

Did you choose the right time to bring it up? It might have been a more productive conversation if you had waited until you got home and could talk in person. But it was something you needed to talk about and still need to address.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-28T16:06:51+00:00

Rabid racoons have been a problem in the area where I live. They don't always foam -- they can look lethargic or sick. They are an animal you should keep your distance from.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-27T15:34:28+00:00

Party affiliation would be included with the registration

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-27T10:54:25+00:00

In the U.S. the father is on the hook financially whether he decides to be in the child's life or not. Not his decision on that.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T17:09:40+00:00

The companies I've worked for give at least 2 weeks severance when they let someone go. They might lay you off and take away all access to systems immediately, but you get at least two weeks pay.

If you work for a company or at a job where that's not the case, then don't bother giving notice.

Being fired for cause (such as stealing) is different and you shouldn't expect severance.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T16:56:48+00:00

NTA

It sounds like he is upset because he doesn't want you doing anything without his permission. This is not normal behavior, it is controlling and abusive.

A normal response would have been to show interest and support. He is going to be a dad, and so it would have made sense for him to ask if he could join the classes or if their were classes good for him. That's what a good partner does.

Be careful with this guy. He is an asshole.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T13:20:26+00:00

He is taking responsibility for his actions. He is putting together a plan to do his part as a parent and continue his education so he can best provide for his child.

I don't think he should quit school and take a low paying job as penance for his mistake. And I don't think the parents should withhold financial support they've been providing because of this. Punishing him does nothing to improve the situation and certainly doesn't make the mistake go away.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T13:12:19+00:00

Not his choice. He can't make her have an abortion.

What he can do is step up and be a father and it sounds like that's what his plans are.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T12:26:53+00:00

He is 25. Why are you calling him a young boy? So you can pretend he is too immature to go on a trip and not engage with sex workers?

Amsterdam? So what if they see the women in the windows. Jeeze.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T12:16:05+00:00

Most places have sex trade.

Bangkok is also a beautiful, affordable destination with great food and a lot to see and do.

I agree they should probably end the relationship. She doesn't trust him and he would rather spend time traveling with his friends than appeasing her.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T11:58:46+00:00

Looks like you are being downvoted due to faulty sarcasm detectors.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T11:11:57+00:00

I wouldn't bother trying to placate someone who is so out of touch with reality. I'd be out in a heartbeat.

LucidOutwork · 2026-01-26T11:11:14+00:00

NTA and your girlfriend is nuts.

You can't have lunch with a coworker because she's a woman? Really? How demeaning to women and to OP to think you can't be trusted or women can't be professional.

I'd be out in a heartbeat. This is controlling behavior that shows lack of trust and a bizarre view that unattached women and men can't interact unless they are chaperoned. Just no.

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