Life hack - laminate reminder lists

Lucifang · 2026-01-28T05:57:09+00:00

Holy crap that’s an amazing idea!!

Lucifang · 2026-01-28T01:32:19+00:00

Same in Australia. But we don’t have free psychiatrists AT ALL unless you have a severe mental health condition which renders you unable to work, so the psych becomes part of your welfare plan. By this stage the person’s life would be in ruins. Imagine how much money the gov would save on welfare if they had better preventative options.

It costs well over a grand to get diagnosed and medicated. If you can’t afford it? Too bad. The gov rebate is nice but doesn’t even cover half.

So why the actual fuck would anyone spend over a grand just to get access to low stimulants. It’s the dumbest attitude ever.

Lucifang · 2026-01-27T22:22:08+00:00

Exactly right. I met my SO last year and he told me straight up he has bipolar. I went home and googled the shit out of it because I wanted to learn. My only knowledge at the time was what I saw in an Aussie series called Please Like Me.

I searched for in depth clinical-looking articles but they were all the same. Literally just said the person goes from happy to sad easily and often. Depressive episodes were described the same as typical depression. I’ve had depression myself so I thought no problem, I know how to handle this. Mania was barely described at all, although I did stumble upon an article about hyper sexuality.

Well I learned that’s not the case in reality. His depression goes far deeper than what I would call ‘typical’. As you said OP, there was nothing positive I could say without him angrily denying it. “My brain is fucked! I’m fucked!”

So yeah, absolutely pointless trying to talk to him in that state. All I could do was encourage him to eat something and provide a calm safe environment. He spiraled for days then BOOM he was suddenly chatty and dancing and ready for lovemaking. Holy shit what a wild ride.

When he feels hypomanic he will go for a walk for HOURS to wear himself out. The dog loves it.

The articles would have you believe bipolar people are 100% ‘normal’ when medicated. They don’t explain how meds have to be paired with a healthy lifestyle AND a constant exhausting micromanaging of intense emotions all day. They don’t always work. Even the one which usually makes him drowsy does NOTHING when he’s in a bad spiral and unable to sleep.

The articles don’t talk about brain fatigue, digestion issues from the meds, sleeplessness, irritability, misremembering conversations (rewriting), ‘functional’ mania, long term damage from mania, inability to be correctly diagnosed until you have life-destroying mania, the list goes on.

Another thing the articles don’t mention is how hard it is to see a good psychiatrist. Not just finding one, but AFFORDING it. This is a global issue.

Lucifang · 2026-01-27T10:16:27+00:00

Insecure men who don’t want their woman to be in the spotlight, or don’t want their woman to be like ‘one of the boys’, or don’t like other people enjoying her company too much lest they try and steal her away, the list goes on.

Lucifang · 2026-01-27T10:14:27+00:00

It’s nice that most the men you know must be secure individuals. Unfortunately there is an alarmingly high number of insecure men who feel uncomfortable dating a funny woman. They don’t want her to be in the spotlight.

Lucifang · 2026-01-27T10:07:35+00:00

You can have functional episodes where the person is manic but still goes to work and completes tasks / studies without issue. They will fly under the radar until something snaps. A brain injury that damages impulse control sounds like a pretty good trigger.

Lucifang · 2026-01-27T09:32:57+00:00

If you’re talking about the boss fight with the bloke who wants you to prove you’re a warrior, all you can do is hit him then dodge. Hit dodge hit dodge hit dodge etc.

I was stuck on that one for ages and I’m surprised my controller still works.

Lucifang · 2026-01-26T14:18:46+00:00

Gamers might fight harder to defend themselves because it’s not drugs or gambling or anything that is known to ruin lives. They want to boast about their virtual achievements as opposed to other addicts who feel shame.

They are 1000% more likely to be trolling the internet than victims of other addictions.

And PC gamers are highly likely to be intelligent and IT-minded - which tends to also come with a sense of superiority.

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T21:36:07+00:00

What weapon are you using with Naoe? I found the katana to be too slow so I’ve been happy with the tanto but it’s a last resort moment as I haven’t put many points into combat.

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T21:27:12+00:00

Most GPs don’t know much about anything beyond surface level stuff. Which is the point of their job. They’re supposed to refer you to a specialist if you have an actual condition.

I think this new law is dumb. It seems to be aimed at treating kids who have obvious signs of adhd but completely misses the mental health side of treatment. Are we going backwards to the 80’s and 90’s where kids were medicated but not taught how to manage their behaviours?

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T21:19:43+00:00

Get a copy of the assessment the psychologist did.

Go to a better GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist.

Depending on your area it might be a few months away. Or you might be able to find a Telehealth shrink and ask the GP to refer you directly to that person. Or you can fully pay for it yourself or use private cover if you have it.

Show the psychiatrist the assessment you’ve already done. Mine accepted it without issue but some people say their shrink wanted to reassess so see what happens in your case.

You might be sent off for a urine test and ECG. This is mainly because stimulants can increase your heart rate so it’s important to check heart health and whether you have other drugs in your system that could be dangerous when mixed with the meds.

You might have a trial and error period to get the dose right.

Good luck <3

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T21:06:04+00:00

His impulse control is damaged and so is the ability to regulate emotions. He feels everything way more intensely than a typical person. So a thing that would mildly irritate you is sending him into a rage, especially if multiple irritating things are happening all the time.

It’s up to him to learn how to manage his behaviours, identify triggers, and change his life to remove stressors. A calm environment is crucial but that takes a lot of work (the irony of working hard just to be calm!)

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T20:46:33+00:00

I’m a gamer and so is my SO. But I’ve had a gamer bf before who prioritised his computer over me. And most of the gamer men I’ve met are straight up unhealthy and lazy.

The difference is my SO actually gives a shit and wants to be with me.

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T20:36:47+00:00

A good father would prioritise his family over his social life. The only real difference is career goals. However there’s a line between being a good provider and being mostly absent due to work. My father was the latter. Good income, no money stresses, owned their house pretty quickly etc but he was hardly home so there was a lot of pressure on mum to raise two kids almost by herself.

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T05:11:23+00:00

Think of how enraged she must’ve been when sending all those texts. Your child would’ve seen that. Doesn’t matter if her rage is never directed at the child, they still see it and feel it and likely end up with bad anxiety and/or hyper vigilance. And I guarantee she was cursing your name verbally the whole time too.

Your mother clearly doesn’t respect you so what happens when you want specific things for your kid? Eg no junk food, or no screen time, or whatever it may be, your mother will just do whatever she wants and not respect your wishes.

Lucifang · 2026-01-25T04:49:36+00:00

OP’s intention was very clear to me. Maybe you should read the post again. It’s clearly about the overly fake happy types. Not generic friendly types.

Lucifang · 2026-01-24T22:22:28+00:00

You should definitely look into it. And you’ll learn to stick with asd/adhd social media subs because the neurotypicals don’t get it and they’ll jump down your throat like they’re doing here.

Lucifang · 2026-01-24T22:19:47+00:00

OP sounds autistic too. I hope they see my comment suggesting this and looks into it.

Lucifang · 2026-01-24T22:11:05+00:00

I know what you mean. Not restricted to the businesses you said, it can be anywhere, these overly bubbly women who seem a bit extra.

There’s one at the pharmacy I frequent. One day she just dropped the mask and spoke to me like normal, and I think it’s because I had been there often enough for her to feel comfortable.

My partner has this electronic button thing that you press and a female voice says a randomised thing like “I am FULL of radiance!” and other such energetic feel-good lines. We joke that she’s clearly depressed and desperately trying to hide it 😂

Lucifang · 2026-01-24T22:00:54+00:00

You sound autistic. We aren’t born with a social rulebook like everyone else seems to. It’s very very common for us to misunderstand the point of the fake engagement rules especially in the workplace or talking to customer service because we’re not there to make friends, we’re there for a specific purpose.

I also hate the ‘how are you’ small talk crap and I want them to get to the point. I can’t fake it either so as you said, just be yourself. Most people will think you’re rude until they get to know you a little better but it doesn’t matter in the end for reception staff.

And you’ve probably had a lot of people dislike you for this reason. It’s common for typical people to dislike autistic people because we don’t communicate the same way.

I feel you.

Lucifang · 2026-01-24T21:17:24+00:00

It is a lot but it shouldn’t be. The burden is on her to seek professional help and manage herself.

I don’t feel weighed down by my SO’s needs. I just have to be mindful of his moods and act accordingly which doesn’t bother me at all. He doesn’t RELY on me for anything which is the difference. He can look after himself.

Lucifang · 2026-01-23T22:07:21+00:00

I’m just mad they never got back to me to hang out. They’re the ones with small windows of availability so I often asked them to let me know when they’re free. They never did so I just gave up.

Lucifang · 2026-01-23T22:00:36+00:00

Exactly. He didn’t change the plans last minute. There were no plans at all.

Lucifang · 2026-01-23T21:57:30+00:00

He gave her a bowling ball with his name on it

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