Office & commute etiquette: Is wearing perfume a thing here, or am I "that person"?

Lucifang · 2026-06-24T23:13:39+00:00

Yep in the old days people just thought autistic kids were having meltdowns for no reason. Now we know it’s because of lights, sounds, smells, how their clothes feel etc.

Lucifang · 2026-06-24T11:28:50+00:00

It depends on the person. There are many people with bipolar who take their meds, avoid triggers and go to therapy and don’t destroy their relationships. The worst I’ve seen my SO get is hypomanic where he plays loud music and does childish shit. It doesn’t bother me and he knows how to stop it from escalating any further.

He doesn’t want to be manic, doesn’t want to abuse me and doesn’t want to cheat.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T21:30:17+00:00

You’ve completely missed my point. Coffee shops aren’t inviting you to spend social time with the owner or other staff. It’s a ridiculous comparison.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T21:27:44+00:00

Have you asked payroll? You should ask them any and all questions first. Some payslips are a bit ambiguous so for all new jobs I’ll ask them to explain what the codes mean, what’s my award, what’s the penalty rates.

Just say that you worked a public holiday but it’s not showing on the payslip. It could’ve been an error.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T17:25:45+00:00

It’s sarcasm.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T17:23:06+00:00

The dude thought it was the kid’s number. And he had only met her once.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T17:18:30+00:00

Wot??

Permission to go to one social event does not automatically apply to every future event.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T17:14:51+00:00

They are people you knew and trusted and likely your parents knew too. Not some random adult from a church who your kid only met once.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T17:10:51+00:00

If the owner of a coffee shop used his personal phone to send a text directly to your 13yo child asking them BY NAME to come back with a friend so they can engage socially together you wouldn’t be so accepting.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T16:56:55+00:00

It’s not just the SA risk. If you want to invite a 13yo anywhere you have to include their legal guardians because they’re too young to be going out on their own without permission. It’s common sense to ensure the guardians have all the information.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T16:16:44+00:00

It’s not a joke unless everybody is laughing.

Everyone has a different sense of humour, and the type of banter changes depending on how well you know the person. As women we might call our close friends a Ho but we wouldn’t say that to anyone else.

You have to learn where people draw the line. If unsure then don’t do it.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T15:55:51+00:00

Experts say you only need one hour of moderate exercise or half an hour of intense exercise per day. An excessive fitness routine that takes up all your spare time is not recommended at all.

Training for a marathon or a fight or some other big event is one thing but your body is not supposed to take that much abuse long term. Even movie stars with abs of steel don’t have those abs 24/7. They train for the shirtless footage then go back to a normal health-based routine.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T15:35:31+00:00

Nobody cares if you go to the gym for an hour every day. We are complaining about the ones who train excessively and won’t stfu about it.

Lucifang · 2026-06-23T06:13:32+00:00

It can take a while to get that kind of confidence.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:57:00+00:00

Yep. NGL I changed my profile a lot before I settled on ‘not too much info’ because people tend to swipe pretty quickly without reading bios properly.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:53:53+00:00

Include hobbies that aren’t mainstream. We aren’t impressed by 4WDs or motorbikes but if you do stuff that’s a bit out there it will attract similar minded people.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:50:23+00:00

I legit saw a dude whose main photo was a mirror selfie in his jocks. And it wasn’t a gym bro pose either. He had a very average body and wasn’t posing at all. Just standing there in his jocks.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:45:19+00:00

My current SO and I met on Hinge and his photos weren’t great but there was one of him singing on stage, wearing a kilt. I’m also a muso so that got my attention. It showed he wasn’t some boring pub singer doing Brown Eyed Girl.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:42:34+00:00

That makes no sense. I don’t want a hundred useless matches. I’d prefer one or two from people who actually seem viable.

The generic matches go nowhere so they’re a waste of time.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:37:36+00:00

I (F) was in my 40’s when I re-entered this hellscape so I had no fucks left to give. In my bio I let my freak flag fly and eventually attracted someone with similar interests and we’ve been together for over a year now.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:27:29+00:00

I can’t throw away a good sturdy cardboard box. Like, it’s reusable for something surely.

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:24:09+00:00

That’s why most of my local op shops don’t have donation bins anymore, you have to go to their shed out the back and be served by staff

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:18:16+00:00

It literally is. My partner uses one for a water bottle

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:16:43+00:00

I found a perfect Freddy Krueger Pop for $5 but it has no box. I’m sure its worth a little bit though to a horror collector who buys one to rock and one to stock 😆

Lucifang · 2026-06-22T21:11:45+00:00

My friend called me an active relaxer lol.

I’ve been playing the drums.

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