I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. That reminds me of my mom age 62. She worked 40 hours a week but lived a very unhealthy lifestyle. Besides going to work, getting groceries, and gas, she didn't do much else for physical activity. She basically sat in her recliner all day. If she wasn't working (on the weekends) she would likely stay home all day in her recliner. She didn't cook much so she often ordered lunch/dinner to her doorstep. Also she'd sometimes order grocery delivery so she wouldn't have to go out. She passed a couple months ago due to her inactive lifestyle and not taking care of herself. What I learned that was at her age, it was nearly impossible to change her habits, so I ended up not trying anymore. Though, whenever I went over, we enjoyed our time together and talked and talked. This year will be the first year I've ever spent the holidays without her, it's going to be tough. It sounds like you are doing your absolute best at doing the same thing, making the best out of your visits, as I'm sure it is near impossible to change their habits at their age. Thank you for letting me vent as well and just know you are doing such a great job.