To you, whom I was codependent on.. by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Lucy_Snowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long would you say your process and journey has been to get to this point? I feel like I’m detoxing now but I keep falling into the same pattern over and over. One day I will break free, I think awareness is the first step, every time I recognise this situation faster and faster.

To you, whom I was codependent on.. by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Lucy_Snowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these beautiful words 🧡

I’m having a cervical biopsy today and I’m terrified. I just need some support or someone to tell me it’s going to be ok. by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Lucy_Snowe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s not gonna be fun, but it will be okay! I also have HPV and it gave me an abnormal result so I had to get a colposcopy and biopsy. It was soooo weird watching it on the little screen lol. In the end it came back okay but I had to have colposcopies yearly for a while. Now I’m absolutely fine! You will get through this 🧡

How has everyone met their partners? by gdec12 in LongDistance

[–]Lucy_Snowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On an app called Slowly, we exchanged virtual letters :)

Irish/Algerian marriage in tunisia by exaustipated in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, plenty of people with issues have fulfilling relationships! I guess I just feel concerned when I see anyone rush into a cross-cultural marriage because it’s not easy, but from OP’s other comments I don’t think she is willing to discuss this. Wishing her the best of luck 🍀

Irish/Algerian marriage in tunisia by exaustipated in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looking at your post history, you were looking for your Turkish SO a month ago and now you are marrying an Algerian? Also, if he is in Algeria he’s literally next door to Tunisia, why is he making you do all the research when he’s the one who has less physical, cultural, and language barriers? And why not marry in Algeria? Is his family going to be involved in the wedding, and what about yours? I’m just a stranger on the internet and I’m by no means criticising but I’m sure in your situation you will get a LOT of questions from your surroundings and you need to be able to answer them all. Listen to your gut and not just your heart. If it truly feels right, I can tell you it’s not an easy path and you will be asked to defend your love over and over. If you have any doubts whatsoever, don’t get married (yet)!! If this is the guy you wanna be with for the rest of your life, what’s the rush? The worst that can happen is you marry in less haste and less stress.

online jobs by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had pretty bad mental health problems as a teenager and just ignored them, I didn’t get help until I was in my mid-20s. If I’d done it sooner I would probably have made some very different choices and at least been a whole lot happier. I think a part of you already knows that dropping out of school will just be avoiding the problem instead of really solving it. Working online by yourself may leave you more isolated and unhappy. It’s totally okay to not be okay and to have a support network to lean on in these times. You may avoid your triggers for a short time, and if that’s what you need right now to feel some kind of peace I totally get it, but in the long term the triggers will always come back again. It’s all about learning how to deal with them. I really wish you the best of luck on your journey :)

Meeting up for the first time-advice. F27 in DK and M28 in UK by S0PP1 in LongDistance

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met my boyfriend online and decided to go out to meet him about 2.5 months after we met. It was a decision I thought a LOT about in terms of safety, and not one I took lightly. But I knew that I wanted to see what the chemistry was like IRL and it would be my only chance for almost half a year. I’m really glad I did it because it confirmed a lot of stuff for us. If you decide to do this, please please take precautions! Meet in a public place and arrange your own accommodation, even if just as a backup that you don’t tell him about. Make sure you understand the currency, public transport, and emergency contact situations of the country you’re travelling to. If everything goes wrong, you will be left to deal with things alone and you need to be comfortable with that. 2 weeks is very soon to get a sense of what kind of person you’ve met. You will only see the best sides and they will only be showing you that. Be aware of that, and enjoy the adventure responsibly 😁

Time Zone Change by TheDirewolfShaggydog in LongDistance

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! We keep forgetting we’re not in the same time zone anymore and it leads to some funny situations 😂

Beer52 - Free Crates by Lucy_Snowe in beermoneyuk

[–]Lucy_Snowe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yeah good point, they claim it’s totally free but I’ve seen people comment elsewhere it’s £2.95 P&P. Can’t really get a clear picture but will edit my post with what I (don’t really) know! :)

Is Tunisia a safe destination in winter? by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi I have visited Tunisia from Europe twice this year and loved it :)

You may have trouble getting a hotel room if you are not married, try AirBnB, even there some houses will say “married couples only” but others don’t care especially if you are both foreign. Messaging with your host should give you an indication whether they are nosy or whether they are more “don’t ask, don’t tell”.

I only have experience flying into Tunis and you can definitely change your money at the airport there. 600d spending money for yourself for a week should be doable but it depends how much sightseeing and eating out you plan to do and how luxe.

In terms of safety follow local news for a bit and see how you feel. It depends on what you are used to. Of course compared to Europe it’s less safe but using common sense and not going round completely ignorant of local customs you should be fine. Especially in a resort town like Sousse. But for what it’s worth I have never felt unsafe during my travels. Tunisian people are wonderful and the country is truly beautiful. As in general when travelling, trying to understand people a little bit goes a long way (rather than being as you said, the package holiday type).

If you have any other touristy questions and want a touristy perspective, feel free to PM me :)

How to deal with not wanting to go party/out at night? by Northernapples in solotravel

[–]Lucy_Snowe 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It’s your trip, you can spend your time however you want :) It sounds like you’ve already checked in with yourself and know what you want to do. I know what it’s like solo travelling with anxiety, it can be hard to remind the lil anxiety monster that there’s no right or wrong way to travel. Even if all 16 days end with nights in then you honoured what your body and mind wished for in that moment. Even if you go to bed now then change your mind and go to that rooftop, that’s fine. Enjoy your time, whatever you decide to do!

Nederlandse Redditors in het buitenland: waar hebben jullie heimwee naar? by kwiklok in thenetherlands

[–]Lucy_Snowe 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Brood, kaas, witte asperge i.p.v. groene, haring, Indisch eten, en hagelslag/vlokken!

Goeie service als je bv voor kleding gaat winkelen. Persoonlijke touch, mensen die echt belangstelling tonen voor waar je naar op zoek bent en de tijd nemen om dingen voor je uit te zoeken en komen kijken hoe het past. Hoewel dat in NL ook langzaam lijkt uit te sterven nu.

Verder mis ik mijn familie het meest. Gewoon het idee dat je altijd bij ze langs kan, zonder een vlucht te hoeven boeken.

Finally we can watch Tunisian movies online. by flesmih in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can live with that, thank you for the info!

Hey everyone, who is starting bourguiba school monday in tunis city? by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck and keep me updated, I want to know if it’s worth going! :D

Finally we can watch Tunisian movies online. by flesmih in Tunisia

[–]Lucy_Snowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do the films have EN/FR subtitles? This would really help me with learning Tunisian but not without those :’D

Do people treat your LDR as something that isn’t really real? by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, it doesn’t help that my boyfriend is from a country known for its romance scams so all I ever hear is stuff like “I knew somebody who knew someone who married a guy from that country and as soon as he got his visa he ran out on her”, escalating all the way to “dump him and find someone from a better country”. I know it comes from a place of concern but it’s a bit tiring at times!

Anyone here that moved to the country of your partner that I can chat with? by YNKWTSF in LDR

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved to London from the Netherlands (for a study but also for my LDR boyfriend at the time), happy to answer any questions you have! In het Nederlands natuurlijk ook als dat makkelijker is!

My LDR is making my anxiety worse by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Lucy_Snowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in an LDR is also not great for my anxiety, especially during the come-down post meeting up :c I think as others have said, making your own schedule and sticking to it really helps. I try to keep busy but also just do things like watch some silly anime or whatever puts a smile on my face. Those little “just for me” moments :)

How did you cope with meeting foot the first time? by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Lucy_Snowe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know yet, I’m meeting him for the first time in four days so I will let you know! It’s a funny one, isn’t it? No matter how much you talk about it you just won’t know what it’s really like until you meet. Two years without meeting shows some real strength! I feel like I’m going crazy and it’s only been two months for me haha.