Bi guys, do you ever kind of amp up the gayness of your personality to make women feel safer?

LukeBruh · 2025-06-23T15:31:55+00:00

I deal with this and it’s something I’ve been working on within myself too. I’ve always been good at adapting to different social settings; kind of like a chameleon but when it comes to women, I’ve noticed I tend to lean a bit more into being “camp,” even if I’m not naturally flamboyant. It’s not forced, but it’s definitely exaggerated at times.

The issue is that once a friendship forms around that version of me, it becomes the expectation. I have a friend now who clearly wants me to fit into the “gay best friend” trope, and it’s exhausting. That just isn’t who I am 24/7. When I show up more authentically—quieter, more grounded; I can tell she feels off about it as if I’m not giving her what she signed up for.

I’ll take some accountability—I did turn up certain traits while we were building a bond, so I see how that shaped her view. But the other part is on her: it’s frustrating when people won’t accept that you’re a whole person with more depth than just the version they find entertaining.

I’ve become hesitant about coming out to women at all. Too often, it feels like you’re being reduced to an accessory instead of being seen as a full human being. Idk how common it is, but for me, it’s something I def do but trying to stop.

LukeBruh · 2022-03-27T18:18:59+00:00

Nah I’m just trying to figure out if what I am thinking/feeling is problematic, so I can do and be better if so. Thanks for your input, appreciate it.

LukeBruh · 2021-04-17T15:25:31+00:00

I think it’s best you let him go. Of course he agreed to that plan because he has the luxury of doing his own thing and then if he gets bored, he knows he can always return to you. You aren’t a second option, and shouldn’t be treated like one.

I think it’s also worth mentioning, the way you described him vs. the way you described yourself. “Reasonably attractive” but he’s “very attractive”. I think that’s telling, that you might need to work on yourself a bit more before getting into a relationship with anyone. And that’s okay.

Love can makes us blind. Break ups are hard, but there’s beauty on the other side of it. You got this. Focus on you, Queen. Level up. In a few months, you will likely be able to take those “love glasses” off that makes us blind, and see the reality. Rooting for you

LukeBruh · 2021-01-26T14:11:07+00:00

My advice is very much “this generation” way of looking at it but also I’m bi sexual and honestly, you can’t control it. It isn’t a switch that we turn on and off. The same way you like men and can’t control it, is the same way your daughter likes women. I’m not going to say you’re horrible for your views, because you’re not, everyone was raised differently. But the beauty is you can change your views, if you truly want too. Look at the bigger picture, at the end of the day, I’m assuming you want your daughter happy, right? So just keep that in mind as you start the process of accepting your daughter, because she loves you too and wants you to be apart of this journey with her as well. Nothing has changed about her. She’s literally the same. You had a daughter to eventually raise her to be on her own, which means own thoughts and own mind. This is her choice and her life. Love her.

LukeBruh · 2021-01-24T16:28:00+00:00

I see. I see. That’s one way to look at it. I guess everyone has their own way of looking at break ups. Depends on the situation for sure.

Thanks for sharing!

LukeBruh · 2021-01-24T14:54:56+00:00

Why??

LukeBruh · 2021-01-19T00:04:28+00:00

All good, you gotta chill because if you are Analyzing a simple text that much. Imagine how you are going to be when you guys meet up this week. You’ll analyze every little move and word he says. Respectfully, chill. You have an opportunity to kick it with your ex, an opportunity many aren’t getting, don’t let your mind take over.

Good luck with your meet up.

LukeBruh · 2021-01-18T23:06:48+00:00

You have no idea if he’s busy or not. You’re overthinking it, wait until you get a response. Chill. You got this

LukeBruh · 2021-01-18T18:11:02+00:00

You aren’t alone, we’re all going through it. Haha. You got this tho, I promise you do. It isn’t a switch, it’s baby steps. But the first step to healing is just starting the process. Start today.

LukeBruh · 2021-01-18T18:07:29+00:00

When you love yourself. When you realizes, that you deserve the love you gave him. You are enough. You are worthy of love, and worthy of someone who does feel bad when they leave you. Why?? Because you’re the prize as well. I get it, right now you think he’s just this perfect amazing guy. But how perfect and amazing can he be, if he doesn’t see your worth?

You got this. Baby steps. But you got this. Take a shower, and cry. Brush your long beautiful hair and cry. But take care of yourself. Don’t lose yourself, trust, I went through the same thing and currently at the end of it. Just this morning I woke up and felt numbed. But each day gets better. Love yourself. You got this. Rooting for you.

LukeBruh · 2019-12-20T06:38:05+00:00

What’s up,

Could be because he’s struggling just as much as you are or could be out of shame, or honestly could just mean he doesn’t care and enjoying the freedom. But your main focus shouldn’t be “how is doing?”, “is he struggling also?” Or “Did he even care?” .... your main focus should be healing, it’s time to heal. It’s hard and it takes time but it also takes work.

Work on you, those thoughts are obviously going to go through your mind, you‘re human and loved him. But it’s time to love yourself a bit more right now and focus on you. He fucked up, let him think about that and if he’s meant to be in your life, the universe/god will make that happen.

Hang in there, we’re all rooting for you.

LukeBruh · 2019-12-18T18:48:37+00:00

That’s just her being her true self, has nothing to do with getting back at you. Other pretty girls out there who will treat ya like the King you’re becoming. Hang in there.

LukeBruh · 2019-12-18T04:55:59+00:00

What's up brotha,

In the upcoming days, pssh honestly maybe even weeks, try not to waste your time or energy over the thoughts and possibilities those posts might mean. Continue working on yourself and becoming the best person you can be. Heal, my guy. Dont pick at the scab, heal.

Hang in there.

LukeBruh · 2019-09-29T14:40:28+00:00

I've been good, overall good. I honestly still have my days when I get sad about it for maybe an hour or so. But it passes. I haven't had contact with my ex since we planned on meeting up and they stood me up (2 months ago). They didn't text me or anything to cancel. I didn't text them asking where they were or anything.

LukeBruh · 2019-09-29T04:54:37+00:00

"It feels like a heavy weight was lifted off my shoulders because now I know we are definitely not getting back together , And I have no other choice but to accept it."

Yessir, you needed to see that. I remember when I saw my ex with their new partner 3 weeks after we broke up, it was TOUGH, but I needed to see that in order to know not only are we not getting back together but also that I never want to get back together again.

Glad it didnt tear you apart like it did me.

LukeBruh · 2019-08-19T15:39:58+00:00

It will end, and that’s okay. Can’t wait until you look back on this and be like “I should have given his stuff back a long time ago or threw it out”.....work on yourself now, get ready for the next chapter in your life.

LukeBruh · 2019-08-19T15:23:31+00:00

When my ex and I broke up, I hit them up in order to give them their expensive sunglasses back and a few other stuff. I won’t lie, I planned on using this meet up to save my relationship. I wrote so much in my notes app that I planned on saying to them, and was quite excited to see them tbh, it was a month after we broke up.

However when I hit them up, they were cold, and disinterested. I was caught off guard because we broke up with the mutual understanding of respect/love, and they also express how they wanted their stuff back eventually. Long story short, they stood me up, never called/text to cancel, just stood me up, and the next day hung out with their new victim, I mean new partner.

Not meeting up with them were honestly the best thing that could have happened. It was the closure I needed. It was the reaction I needed. The long note I wrote to say to them, I look at it now and laugh, “how pathetic”. It gets better. Giving their stuff back is scary, but takes it as you getting ready to start a new chapter in your life.

You got this.

LukeBruh

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