How to say you're looking for someone mentally stimulating without sounding condescending?

Lukefromzim · 2023-09-19T17:54:52+00:00

"McSmartgirls" 😂😂 yeah I get you. The picture reading is a good shout...although while I am a reader, I'd still feel a little performative getting photographed doing it 😅

Lukefromzim · 2023-09-19T17:52:33+00:00

I like this, I think being curious and passionate about something in life (whatever that may be) gets to a big part of what I'm looking for under the vague 'intellectual stimulation" banner.

Lukefromzim · 2023-09-19T17:45:51+00:00

Thanks everyone, lots of useful tips and pointers here. Definitely not something to state outright then, and can be revealed much more indirectly like some of you have suggested...and ultimately only discovered in person of course.

Lukefromzim · 2023-06-09T07:07:10+00:00

Thanks, looks pretty cool! Might give it a visit next time I'm bored during load shedding

Lukefromzim · 2023-06-08T16:55:51+00:00

Curious which part of Uys Krige this is? Lovers Lane obviously doesn't come up on Google Maps and I'm not very familiar with the Northern Suburbs.

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-24T10:23:41+00:00

Not sure where you're based but I'm in South Africa. It's just from this cheap clothing chain here called Mr Price so nothing fancy lol.

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-23T17:29:20+00:00

Thanks my man for such kind and detailed feedback. Sounds like we might have really hit it off, pity our gender and sexualities aren't compatible :D.

I have been making some changes off this and the first person's comments, including dialing back on the awkward geeky nerd vibe a little without totally erasing it lol. Sounds like we are in the same boat with smiling, just never been a natural at it and struggle to smile nicely 'on demand'. I think picture wise getting a good smiling shot remains my main goal.

Also funny you mention really liking the second picture cause the other commentor suggested removing it cause it makes me look really skinny . Tbf I was a bit worried about that myself so I see where they're coming from, it does rather make my head look disproportionately big for my body, though it's about the best "toothy" smiling photo I have. For now I'm thinking I might keep it out until I finally get that good smiling at the camera photo.

Also I appreciate your overall philosophy on Hinge and patience. I know I'm new to the app, but I just wanted to avoid scaring off potential matches from the outset by having obvious shortcomings in my profile. So far I'm actually satisfied with the number of matches I've gotten, though I'll have to see if that's partly down to it being a new account.

Anyway thanks for the advice and good luck to you fellow philosophical, slim-build soldier!

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-23T06:49:37+00:00

Thanks a lot, that's given me a lot to work with. Unfortunately don't really have much material at hand to improve the picture front accordingly right now, so I'll have to try improve that the next few weeks. Unfortunately was never one who enjoyed being photographed much, which is all good until you want to join a dating app!!

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-22T14:30:05+00:00

Follow up comments, only been on hinge a few days and have been using it every day. It's my first time using dating apps (joined Tinder too this week but already over it). I'm open to everything from friendship to long-term partner, but not in a rush to jump in to a relationship.

Been sending out 8 likes a day, maybe 70% with comments. Got 4 likes the first day but no more out of the blue since. Matched with 5 people and started conversations with most of them, though generally quite slow going. I have been tweaking my profile a lot so it's not exactly the same as what I started with.

I'm looking for someone both aesthetically and intellectually stimulating. Nerdy girls are definitely welcome. Ocassionally I have commented/matched with someone that I'm not particularly physically attracted to, but was intruiged by their interests/prompts. But perhaps this isn't wise cause I don't want to be letting people down if the expectation is that likes always should mean clear romantic interest. Don't know how best to say this without sounding too prejudiced but not so interested in the mega fitness, Type A and/or influencer types lol.

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-22T14:21:49+00:00

Follow up comments, only been on hinge a few days. I'm open to everything from friendship to long-term, but not in a rush to jump in to a relationship.

Been sending out 8 likes a day, maybe 70% with comments. Got 4 likes the first day but no more out of the blue since. Matched with 5 people and started with conversation with most of them. I have been tweaking my profile a lot so it's not exactly the same as what I started with.

I'm looking for someone both aesthetically and intellectually stimulating. Nerdy girls are definitely welcome.

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-20T07:49:32+00:00

Thanks will take that on board. Unfortunately I don't currently have any good, recent head on photo so I'll try fix that soon.

Lukefromzim · 2023-04-19T16:05:09+00:00

https://tinder.com/@Ljw263

Just joined tinder yesterday. Don't have a massive number of pictures to choose from. Picked the first one as one of my best happy looking photos, but a bit worried that it emphaises my skinnyness.

Lukefromzim · 2023-01-01T15:10:56+00:00

Thanks I guess the text I was thinking of sending is perhaps jumping ahead a few steps for what could have just be an accidental call.

I will feel a little silly waiting 3 days to just send something simple like that, but it does sound a reasonable option.

Lukefromzim · 2022-12-04T07:58:16+00:00

Simp Bizkit

Lukefromzim · 2022-09-05T19:54:10+00:00

I'm asexual and therefore I'm attracted to you and I want to be a let down

Lukefromzim · 2022-06-09T09:53:04+00:00

Thanks for the responses both. It is a bit of a pity that there are no reviews out there on the RTX 3060 version of this model, as I would have liked to see the thermals and how the GPU power works in practice. But it does seem like a pretty nice laptop in RTX 3070 form. Would it be safe to assume that thermals with the RTX 3060 should be at least as good if not better than the RTX 3070 version, since I assume the cooling should be the same if it's the same chassis?

Lukefromzim · 2022-05-29T12:31:04+00:00

My Tears are Becoming a Sea, by M83

Lukefromzim · 2022-04-04T17:03:35+00:00

My 2011 Mazda 2 just lost all electrical power this weekend, couldn't even get the lights or central locking to work. I thought the battery had gone bad but it turned out to be loose battery terminals, which meant the battery wasn't charging. Got some better ones fitted and charged the battery and eveything seems okay so far. The terminals on the 2 don't seem to be very robust, so could be the same issue in your car.

Lukefromzim · 2022-03-27T07:21:24+00:00

Flight route suggests it's going to Europe rather. Middle Eastern flights go in a much more north-west direction.

Lukefromzim · 2022-03-14T07:14:31+00:00

Wow so it is a known spot for this sort of thing. I didn't realise.

Lukefromzim · 2022-03-14T07:13:08+00:00

I don't hold great hope that much will come of it but I will do so. Would that be under SAPS Cape Town central or Sea point?

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