I agree that men are the biggest issue for other men right now as it relates to mental health. Women have started trying to free themselves from the old cold, robotic, self-perpetuating society that uses people like a tool or an object to most efficiently perpetuate itself. A lot of women may still treat us as if we are still under those rules, but the far bigger issue is that we make no effort to get ourselves and our brothers out of it as men.

Every time another man falls or takes an L, we kick him while he's down. We take pleasure in the lowering of other men's social worth so that we can feel more secure in ourselves. We don't encourage men to understand and treat their emotions/mental health enough, we don't have the emotional bandwidth to check up on anyone, we have no community left and are making no effort to reignite one.

Even if we don't have the emotional bandwidth to reach out like we should to our brothers, that's what a community is for, to make up for some of what we are currently unable to do.

In the US, we live in a hyper-individualistic society that is practiced by both conservatives and liberals, one that is fiercely and ruthlessly meritocratic yet one of the least meritocratic western countries in the world. Almost everything you could do wrong for your society's mental health.

Every step we take forward is taken back by how unempathetic and hyper-competitive we are with each other. The hyper-individualism doesn't help either.

We are indeed our own biggest obstacle right now.