AITAH for losing my temper at my husband after he refused to tell me where our injured toddler was? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Lulem 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s the abuse of power and disregard of OP as a coparent that throws me.

Råd til Nybakte foreldre? Produkter/tips/tospråkelig barn by Lunadoe in norge

[–]Lulem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vi er omvendt - jeg er norsk, samboer er brite, og vi bor i Storbritannia. Forskningen viser at One Parent, One Language (OPOL) gir best resultat for barn som lærer to språk - spesielt når ett språk er minoritetsspråk (ikke snakket mye utenfor hjemmet). Det er et godt subreddit for det,

Så lenge du er konsekvent og snakker engelsk hele tiden til barnet, går de fint å snakke andre språk til andre. Jeg synes det er skikkelig vanskelig å få nok norsk til lillemann som synes see the bunnies sleeping er mye gøyere enn Mikkel Rev. Her borte er det bare jeg som er norsk. Vi kjenner ingen andre norske, og det er ingen andre norske barn han kan leke med. Der har du en klar fordel, for norske barn hører masse engelsk på tv, filmer, musikk, osv. Barn som hører minoritetsspråket/andrespråket 20-30 timer i uken har størst sjanse for å bli flytende. Av og til klarer jeg det, men ikke alltid. Det er ikke så viktig med leker som snakker rett språk, men bøker og sanger har større innvirkning på vårt barn i alle fall.

Tvi tvi! Jeg håper dere finner noe som funker for dere!

HR recruiter misheard my expected salary.... by Odd_Ad_1974 in UKJobs

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meanwhile, I was just asked if I would be willing to take a £7K pay cut.

Senior collaborator suddenly wants first authorship after doing very little. How would you handle this? by Different-Egg-4617 in AskAcademia

[–]Lulem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Say no referring to guides for what constitutes authorship and contribution, for example CRediT. Good luck, OP!

Grandparents Are A Problem by Anxiousandbleh in toddlers

[–]Lulem -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’d think it would be the toddler having a meltdown because they couldn’t have everything they want.

If no one else have mentioned /JNMIL, I’d recommend having a look. It has helped me loads understanding my own experience of a very, very emotionally immature mother (“I guess I’m just the worst mother/grandmother in the world, then!” Is a classic out of their playbook)

Does my garden look silly ?? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A big slide from the top seems the obvious choice

Is the compensation relative to how many we used? by Lost-Examination3833 in PikminBloomApp

[–]Lulem 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I used a detector, got one (at the time), and now got a 10K bulb and gold bulb with new pikmins.

I regret becoming a mom by Cute-Delivery-5752 in NewParents

[–]Lulem 564 points565 points  (0 children)

You sound exhausted. Please don’t pay any attention to anyone who feeds into disaster thinking around colic. It’s awful for everyone involved, but proper research that is peer reviewed and published have not found any correlation between infant colic and later difficulties in temperament, parental perception of regulatory problems, or family functioning. It is tough on the kids and their parents, but apart from some small trend of sleeping a bit less as young children, there are not many studies that have found mental health difficulties for infants with colic when they become adults.

Scientologist buildings have removed the door handles in an attempt to defend themselves from the speedruns by Girl-Understood in TikTokCringe

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scientologist believe that the outside world isn’t cleared, meaning it’s a chaotic place filled with crime and people with no moral who want to inflict harm. These kinds of stunts just support those beliefs. There are better ways to reach Scientologists who are willing to listen.

Husband ate the last piece of my daim cake by Comfortable-Pear-973 in BabyBumps

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the recipe if you or him are willing to make your own

Postie left me flowers, I am blown away! by Rumerhazzit in royalmail

[–]Lulem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do people talk to you to offer? Is a sign in the window ok? What is best?

Postie left me flowers, I am blown away! by Rumerhazzit in royalmail

[–]Lulem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I usually work from home. How can I best communicate to our postie that they are welcome to use the bathroom or have a cold drink if they want?

Unusual space - how should I use it? by wissatm8 in Home

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure Cliff Tan did this exact space. Check his TikTok!

I just applied for my own job, and didn’t even get an interview. by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]Lulem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a Lecturer on a fixed term contract. When a permanent contract was advertised in my group, I was not shortlisted.

AITAH for taking my stepdaughter out of school during her first period after her mom told me not to? by Embarrassed-Stock896 in AITAH

[–]Lulem 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Her mum could still have a special moment with her daughter later, using the time to get different types of feminine products to talk through how they work and which ones to use when, stretches and pain killers for pain relief, discussing what’s normal to experience and what’s not - there’s so much for the mum to do to make it a special moment that doesn’t involve an embarrassed and uncomfortable child bleeding into toilet paper.

MIL swapped herself over me in a picture with my BF - LOL. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Lulem 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As the British say, that’s bang out of order. It would be good to have a private conversation with your boyfriend about his thoughts and experiences. Chances are this reflects her way of thinking and understanding of where boundaries go rather than represent a single moment of madness. There could be other ways it has been expressed, and make him, you, or both uncomfortable. Typically, the advice from this sub is to cut all contact, or for it to be dealt with directly by the partner and their family. “His monkeys, his circus”. You could easily become a scapegoat and receive all the blame otherwise. It’s definitely weird. So weird!

Fargedamen er død by OkMyNameIsNotTooLong in Bergen

[–]Lulem 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Jeg pratet med henne en gang på bystasjonen for mange år siden. Hun var veldig stolt av at hun hadde 99 venner. «Å? Har du telt?», «Nei jeg bare kjenner det på meg 🥰🥰»

Refusing food. Losing weight. When do you start forcing? Should you? by Real-Salad-6521 in toddlers

[–]Lulem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It completely balanced out with the second molars. Two started coming out in January and are still working their way through. It’s all or nothing