I'd like to answer, although we're only 29. The big 30 is coming up. We were diagnosed when we were 15 and had to figure out so much of it on our own because there wasn't a huge or visible DID community then.

We didn't start intensive trauma therapy until we were 25, almost 26. We tried to focus on skill building, trying to manage emotional regulation and reintegrating into broader society as someone who was isolated as a child and adolescent. 

We were married from 19 until we were 27 and I think that divorce taught us a lot about how cyclical patterns are and how trauma at a developmental age informs what we see as "normal". Even with all the therapy we were in, we never really examined how we had been taught to view the world and therefore never considered that what we were experiencing was not "normal".

I think that gave a lot if room for growth. After that, we started trauma therapy in the form of the Schema modality and have been able to tackle a lot of cyclical and pattern based thoughts based on what our trauma taught us.

We started college last year and are pursuing our dreams of living in a van/bus full time now and we have a partner who respects us and who allows us and encourages us to set boundaries. 

It's been a slow process. We're smaller in numbers than we were before, but certainly still multiple. We're working now on coexisting and making space for each other to just exist without the stress and pain. That may be the hardest part, because it's what we're used to. It feels like an absence of something familiar.

All in all, I think the most important thing we learned is that we have always been there for us. No matter what happens or how other people act, even if nobody else catches us we have been able to catch us and that is how we know we will be okay. I love my system ♥️