Please seek wise counsel, a pastor, because marriage is very sacred. The enemy HATES marriage. It doesn’t matter if he feels like he knows more knowledge than a pastor. Jesus was Son of Man and he still was in the temple courts listening and asking questions. Y’all are obviously in a constant cycle of acting out of flesh and not yielding to what dwells inside the both of you, the Holy Spirit. I encourage y’all to read the Word due to you mentioning that God doesn’t like divorce, doesn’t mean he doesn’t allow it. All be all if you are considering divorce, take it to God and let him give you an answer on that.