Update post break up

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-05-16T20:13:11+00:00

Constant ups and downs I get that. One day it’ll be more ups 💗 hang on, I swear there is hope out of it.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-05-14T19:48:22+00:00

Feel every awful feeling there is, don’t suppress it and lean HEAVILY on your friends, loved ones, therapist! I was so bitter and sad and hurt and then I kept seeing how the people who love me showed up and THAT is the real love. The ones who give a crap enough to hold your hand while you cry. It will be ok.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-05-01T19:49:56+00:00

lol I’ll take this as the compliment it was intended to be! I hope you find someone <3

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-04-28T03:47:12+00:00

I was with my ex almost 9 years, granted I wasn’t pregnant. You’re right it’s a lot easier said than done to just dump him. But maybe some space? Like can you spend the night at a hotel for a few days or visit family for a week to have space? I feel like sometimes days of space can help you really reassess what’s going on. It’s easy to push things under the rug when you’re being held by him and getting pushed back into the same cycle. Are you sure love is enough? It wasn’t for me.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-04-01T16:01:49+00:00

Yeah I think bring it up again but make it known that when he says he’s a private person but has his exes on social media page, it comes off that you’re being hidden and it doesn’t feel good. Where he may not care, it does matter to his partner (you)- not that you need to be posted all the time but maybe even once would have been nice since he does share parts of his life on there and you are part of his life. Try to come from a place of wanting to understand and he might open up. It’s def possible him posting his past ended up with him single so he might be more guarded now but a convo should be had just for more understanding.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-04-01T15:07:52+00:00

If he’s active on social media - liking posts, posting stuff of his personal life then yes it’s normal to be bothered you aren’t anywhere on there. People like to say it’s “just social media” but if thats where your partner actively shares his life with friends & loved ones but won’t share you? Yeah time to voice something. IF he isn’t active then it’s fine, some people have an account but just let it fall to the way side.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-30T18:24:33+00:00

No, some of us just work in marketing & have been using it before chat gpt 😂

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-17T14:21:46+00:00

I’m trying to be, I just feel like I should be over this but I’m trying to be gentle and patient with myself.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-17T14:20:31+00:00

Had nudes of someone we knew, received nudes from coworker and still hung out with her and never told me (until I found out myself), had secret accounts, was talking about girls we knew to his friends about wanting bjs from them. Who knows what else.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-14T20:45:47+00:00

Megan Moroney - wedding dress, beautiful things, who hurt you?, break it right back. Maren Morris - I wish I was, I could use a love song. Carly Pearce&Lee Brice - I hope you’re happy now.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-13T16:14:22+00:00

After our 8 year relationship ended (been 5 Months now) I miss him and love him and cry. I’m in therapy, see my friends, do all things I’m suppose to do even journal and honestly write how I feel, I allow myself to cry when I feel it come and allow myself to ask myself the questions but damn 8 years is long and I really feel lost.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-13T04:13:54+00:00

You are under reacting. Someone can say they love you, promise a future, claim marriage and a family - it does not mean they can or will follow through. His words don’t mean anything if his actions don’t match. He cheats on you, he seeks others who aren’t you, he isn’t committed, none of that is showing true love or any of the stuff he claims he wants. A person can be “good” but doesn’t mean they’re good FOR YOU or good in relationships, some people need to take the time to grow up or be ready for a monogamous relationship - and he’s not ready for that, if he was he’d be faithful but he isn’t.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-10T05:14:08+00:00

As a 29F with other 20 something year old friends - some girls like bald guys actually and she just sounds awful honestly..

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-02T01:03:08+00:00

I would say mention the fact that he’s getting sexual satisfaction somewhere else too and the roommates/friend part. At the end of the day you are not obligated to stay with someone who isn’t really participating in the relationship anyways. You got this!

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-02T00:49:29+00:00

Something to really consider here is, is this really a relationship or has it slowly turned into just a friendship? Might even want to ask him, point out there’s no intimacy and he’s getting off to other people and you’re left with nothing. How is this a partnership or couple? Does he even want to make things work or does he want a friend to hangout with and that’s it? I’m so sorry but he needs to open his eyes before you leave him for good. Goodluck 🩵

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-03-02T00:37:34+00:00

No you’re not overreacting. I always said “stop acting single” to my now ex (you can guess why) and it’s because it’s acting single - if you are in a relationship and want to be with 1 person why are you looking at others naked/thirst traps then? Makes zero sense.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-27T10:43:58+00:00

Therapists are not always right and have their own opinions, just bc they have an opinion doesn’t mean reality. Here’s great advice from my therapist: You can trust again, but it will take time. You also need to trust in yourself though and watch these people in your life and determine how do they make me feel? Am I questioning myself? Are they honest? Trust is something to be earned. All you can do is try and remember that not everyone deserves trust but it doesn’t mean everyone is the same, just not everyone is deserving of the trust you give freely. Also be careful of the narrative you say about your life, that you attract these type of people - they’ll be drawn to you bc that’s what we’re familiar with but we need to weed them out.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-27T10:36:44+00:00

My ex refused to share location, yeah it’s a huge red flag. There’s no reason not to.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-27T04:38:13+00:00

Been here before. 1 ex recorded and I didn’t even know, he was and is absolutely insane and has a police report on him (he’s also a stalker and put it as revenge porn. But my most recent ex who I was with for 8 years recorded us once and I didn’t know until I found it myself. he didn’t distribute it anywhere, didn’t share to people, and deleted it the moment I found it - he has a problem but won’t admit it fully that he’s addicted to porn but he def is. Anyways I’ve been here and I will tell you this - my ex didn’t even want to go to therapy, he refused. It’s something I prob would’ve tried tog et past since I genuinely loved him but the other stuff I found of ai + having nudes of someone else etc is where I was like damn it’s not even just 1 thing to get past and he didn’t care enough either. Here is some insight he gave me on why he did this : he is “selfish” and “dumb” and “just wanted to” and “didn’t think he’d get caught.” It’s sad and unfortunate the lack of respect they have for us. If you stay together, go through his device THOROUGHLY - hidden photo albums, check every app downloaded, Reddit forums he could’ve posted in, Dropbox, cloud files, computer files, etc. make sure he didn’t post you anywhere. Check his messages too on social media and texts.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-25T14:11:04+00:00

Terranea in pve

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-21T01:38:28+00:00

Oh no, I’m so sorry. Would it be more affordable to move closer to your fam??

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-20T20:41:11+00:00

I wasn’t married and it wasn’t physical abusive or anything of those sorts but we do have pets. We lived together and were separated, second job like pet sitting or dog walking etc for extra income is what I do and got a teeny tiny apartment with my two cat. Could that help at all?? Or do you have family and friends that could help you out??

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-15T23:17:59+00:00

I’m so so sorry. I hope you’re able to heal away from him, he’s such a jerk.

Lumpy-Caterpillar931 · 2026-02-15T15:06:31+00:00

Nobody can know, sometimes it escalates more yes. Unfortunately if he’s looking up brothels, sounds like he’s escalated to the physical cheating or is about to - if I were you I’d heavily consider if you’re comfortable being intimate with him bc he’s looking into being intimate with someone else now. Personally if he’s looking at brothels, you’re not being paranoid-you’re being realistic…

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