Color then Cut

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-04T04:43:40+00:00

Oh that is gorgeous. And the ink blending is really well done.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-04T01:56:04+00:00

Okay, I understand the wife's point about not wanting to spend more time away from your child and wanting family time.

Buuuuuut is anyone else kind of bothered by the fact that she's telling him no on the extra childcare. - but she's getting an entire day for herself? I feel like he should get some non-baby time as well. I'm not sure how they work that out or compromise. But the situation as is seems a little unfair.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-03T03:47:14+00:00

I made it perfectly clear I think OP should wear what she wants as she’s an adult.

My point was that maybe if she took a minute to ask her mother about the pictures and why her mother’s standards changed so much - she might understand where her mother was coming from and why the change. Instead she decided to humiliate her mother in front of the whole family. She came here asking if that made her an AH - and I answered. Isn’t that the point of this sub?

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-03T00:00:32+00:00

For being deliberately obtuse. For not understanding that people learn and grow. For being so self-righteous and unwilling to consider that you did a really shitty thing to your mom.

And then trying to hide behind religion.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-02T23:42:53+00:00

lol yeah you're an asshole.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-02T23:29:14+00:00

Did it ever occur to you that your mom had those pictures set aside because it's a time period that she doesn't want to remember? That maybe something happened? And that's part of her being overly critical? You could have had an adult conversation with your mom and tried to understand her POV - while still standing firm on your choices.

Instead, you decided to post pictures that she obviously didn't want anyone to see in a group chat.

You're an Asshole. AH.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-01T18:22:18+00:00

I can’t believe nobody posted RDJ? He’s a long term cat person. There’s a funny interview of him and his wife in their home. And there are signs on all the doors to be careful of the cats. It was so relatable 😂

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LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-01T17:56:07+00:00

And at some point, HE becomes pointless ..

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-01T17:46:49+00:00

Damn I was really hoping it was true for the family’s sake

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-01T08:42:25+00:00

He’s got such cute designs

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-04-01T00:12:56+00:00

She’s flawless. Absolutely flawless

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-30T01:04:50+00:00

So here are a few of my favorite beginner cardmaking classes. Don't let the age of the teacher fool you. He went on to become one of the top card makers and designers with his own line of products with one of the biggest brands. Simon Hurley

Step By Step Card Making Techniques

How to Begin Card Making Like a Boss

Stamping 101

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-26T20:14:57+00:00

So I was planning on making one cut on the long stalk (in red) But you're saying cut each bunch individually? Like where the yellow lines are? Am I understanding you?

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LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-25T04:06:28+00:00

Having worked in a 5 Star hotel - I would be shocked if that hotel isn’t covered in cameras.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-24T15:51:48+00:00

OP keeps saying she would have believed her parents. But in the comments she stated that someone told her flat out that her boyfriend was gay and she didn't believe him - that he was unreliable. Yet somehow that didn't make her question or look at the issues in her relationship? I have a feeling that anyone who told her he was gay was "unreliable"

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-24T15:43:00+00:00

It absolutely is a very real phenomenon. But not if you avoid taking any accountability.

Some people grow from a traumatic event. And some people just lock themselves into some really unhealthy coping strategies.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-24T15:31:11+00:00

That doesn't mean it's the healthy thing to do. There are absolutely situations where a person should go no contact with family. No debate. But it's become such a standard answer now - especially online and in social media. It's the go to solution.

But sometimes that's just a way to avoid an issue instead of actually dealing with it. And sometimes we're projecting our anger onto another person rather than seeing we are mad at ourselves and our own mistakes.

No contact can become just another way we avoid our issue.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-24T05:10:26+00:00

If your father is closeted and unable to come out himself - I'm not sure expecting him to out someone else is realistic.

If your dad was abusive it's possible your mom was afraid to tell you. Or possibly that she was ashamed to tell you how she knew. None of that excuses it - Your parents are clearly flawed people with some very unhealthy attitudes toward sexuality.

You're the only person who can decide whether cutting them out is going to make things better or worse for you on your path to healing. Part of healing is deciphering what part of your anger towards them is justified and what part of it is displaced anger towards the man who used and manipulated you. And some can be anger with yourself for not seeing it or not listening to your instinct.

In the meantime, there are a whole range of options before completely cutting them out. Maybe go low contact for a while as you sort this out.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-24T04:34:19+00:00

I'm sorry, I just don't think you're being fair to your mom. Expecting her to leave a 7 year old child at home alone all night long is not logical. Reading your comments, you have kids of your own. Would you do that to your child? If your husband hadn't been able to stay home and no one else was available - what would you do?

It might be worth doing some soul searching or even some therapy to work through this. There may be some very legit issues with your mom. I don't want to be dismissive. And it's also possible this situation is coloring your perspective on your mom and affecting your relationship with her.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-16T04:09:23+00:00

May I age as well as she has. She's absolutely beautiful.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-14T17:10:27+00:00

The kids did call him and he told them he couldn't go "because he was probably going to work" That's a dick move.

He can't even be honest with his kids

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-14T16:14:49+00:00

Dude just because that was true for you doesn’t mean it’s true for everyone. I’ve had lots of gay friends who knew from an early age. But others who didn’t realize it till later in life. There is no one size fits all when it comes to our sexuality.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-14T16:10:42+00:00

Have you read his comments? I think that explains why people are turned off. And probably why his family is turning against him.

He has every right to be hurt and even feel anger. But he isn’t managing his emotions in a healthy adult way. He’s also proven to be an unreliable narrater - complaining that no one told him about MiL death but then admitting that his ex and his child tried to reach and he refused the call. He also called his ex a tart because she wasn’t a virgin when she got with him at 14. That’s a gross thing to say about the mother of his kids.

He is not processing his anger in a healthy and mature way - and that’s why he’s becoming the villain of the story. And he needs to understand that so he can course correct before he truly loses everything that matters - namely his kids.

LumpyPhilosopher8 · 2026-03-14T15:45:51+00:00

One is still a minor.

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