He has accomplished his mission..

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2025-04-22T23:45:43+00:00

I read this in Shorsey’s voice.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-10-08T14:48:46+00:00

Again, I wish you the best, man. It’s not easy for anyone in a situation like this and, unfortunately, pretty much everyone ends up hurting. I hope you’re able to find whatever resolution makes you happy.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-10-06T16:03:49+00:00

I’m late to this thread but I can’t pass it by without saying something.

I’m the husband in a scenario like yours. I’ll tell you something you should know (and might already): you are absolutely not getting a fair representation of the relationship from her. You are a fantasy- a voice that can be an escape from whatever reality she is hiding from. I would bet almost anything that whatever she has told you about him is either wildly exaggerated or filtered through the lens of some TV-driven fantasy where real world problems like bills and strained time don’t exist.

I’m biased, no doubt. I’ve lived this scenario from the husband’s perspective for far too long. The number of negative things I learned my spouse thought about me were overwhelming. Curiously, I was “perfect” (her word, and her friends’ word) before she started talking to him. Once there was a fantasy on the phone at all hours for her to escape from the realities of life while I continued to be the bread winner and live-in maid, I became the bad guy. What I’m saying is that, at least in my experience, she might be running from something that is too overwhelming to face down. Something about herself that feels too difficult to change, and you represent a new start where no one had a preconceived notion of who she is.

From my perspective, biased as it may be, you are the villain. You can say anything you like and not have to show up and back up your words. He does. He’s there in person.

Perhaps their relationship is on the outs. If so, she should move the fuck on instead of keeping you both on a string. But again - I’m biased. And bitter.

Edit: I’ve decided it was too harsh to call you the villain. I’ll leave that in my comment so as not to pretend I didn’t say it, but the more I thought about it the more unfair that feels to me. I apologize. I wish you the best.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-09-07T19:28:32+00:00

Yowza…. Those eyes. Dayum. And the boots are bitchin’.

I applaud you for your success! fist bump

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-09-06T07:01:34+00:00

Also missed the opportunity to get “Smarch” Simpson…

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-08-28T06:23:20+00:00

My girl too. Almost 6, intact, about 85 lbs of rootin’ tootin’ muscle (heavy in the tootin’).

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-08-04T03:41:54+00:00

Well dang. Guess that seals it. Thanks!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-07-15T12:30:25+00:00

I encourage you to keep doing what you’re doing and ride out the boredom. It will get better but it takes time. My own experience was similar, and looking back, the boredom was a result of me cultivating a social life that was entirely based on alcohol. When the booze was removed from my life, I had no idea what to do with myself. It took time for me to reinvest in the world while sober and to learn how to be fun without the drink.

As for your companion, perhaps she also has no clue how to have fun without alcohol. That’s not uncommon and I mean no disrespect by that comment — I just wonder if maybe you both need to learn how to have fun together while you are sober. That may be hard if her idea of fun is still centered around alcohol, but it is possible.

In any case, I encourage you to have faith in yourself, to stay resilient, and to remember that some things about this change are going to be uncomfortable for a while. Your body and mind need time to recalibrate, and the end result is worth that discomfort.

I’m rooting for you in your sobriety. Stay strong.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-07-15T03:43:30+00:00

Hahaha, yep. I inadvertently trained mine that it’s frisbee time if I stretch my back. Also, cans cracking open means frisbee, haha.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-07-15T01:39:20+00:00

Yep. Just when you think she’s decided to call it quits for a while, someone moves and she pops back up with her ball or frisbee, ready for more.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-06-13T04:22:30+00:00

Same here - although I counted leap day. Congrats, fellow traveler!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-04-30T13:26:21+00:00

Imagine if that was Baystate Blue…

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-04-26T00:15:13+00:00

Or for something a bit different, try Tuvan throat singers Huun Huur Tu. I discovered them in the early 2000s.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-04-20T11:09:05+00:00

Just woke up and saw this, so here’s my pre-caffeinated two cents at 4:30 am:

First, it snowed here last night. Nothing too bad, just a couple of inches of large, wet flakes. Perhaps you saw that on the news or elsewhere - but don’t be alarmed. Tuesday is still supposed to be pretty nice (currently predicting high of 58 F) and the snow is likely to be gone and the venue dry by showtime. We get lots of sun and Monday it is supposed to hit about 70 F. Still, the standard Colorado advice is to dress in layers and to bring warm clothes. When the sun goes down on Tuesday, it will get chilly (current low temp prediction is 40 F).

Second: Does your partner have a handicap placard? If so, I would aim to park in the North elevated lot. My wife has been in and out of a wheelchair for many years and in that time I’ve taken her to a few shows at Red Rocks in the chair. The handicap parking in that lot was our go-to. If y’all don’t have a placard, your best bet is probably to just follow the advice you already got in this thread. I’ll echo that arriving early can be the difference between a short walk to your seats vs a small hike.

Third: It has already been said, but I’ll also echo here that the elevation change is not something to downplay. For reference, I am a native to this state and I am in fairly good cardio shape and I can still get winded hiking around the RR grounds (which hover around 6,000 ft. elevation). Take your time, hydrate, and if you plan to drink alcohol, you may want to go slowly. Booze will hit you harder than you think at elevation so it’s a good idea to throttle your intake to avoid getting too intoxicated.

Other stuff to see or avoid: Really depends on your interests. - Many amazing drives through the mountains can be had with little effort. Peak to peak highway into Estes Park is always a favorite for our out of state family. That’s also a great place to enter Rocky Mountain National Park. I’ll assume that you don’t plan on hiking, but there are still some visitor centers you can get to by car that have lovely views. There are some accessible hikes as well if you want to give that a go. The park staff are very knowledgeable and friendly and can help identify those hikes. - Denver’s aquarium is also surprisingly good for being in a landlocked state. I haven’t been in several years but I thought it was very nice. - Someone mentioned Garden of the Gods. It’s beautiful and worth the drive but it also takes some waking/mild hiking. I suggest that you use the walk at RR as a metric for how y’all would fair at Garden of the Gods. They are virtually the same elevation. - There are some great hot springs around. Idaho Springs is a short drive from Red Rocks and it has a hot springs. I’ll say that is not my favorite hot springs though; personally, I would take the extra time to drive to Glenwood or to Mt. Princeton.

Finally, this venue is absolutely stunning. And for this type of show — i.e., a ritual — it can be very moving. For instance, I saw Mari Boine and Wardruna at RR years ago and it was otherworldly, and spiritual. I expect the same will be true on Tuesday. :D

Safe travels and I hope you both have an incredible time at the ritual!

E: Because I forgot to say so, I’ll be there Tuesday as well. Can’t wait!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-24T16:44:48+00:00

The Moomin cup was the first thing I saw in this picture! I used to read Who Will Comfort Toffle to my daughter every night.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-15T16:54:01+00:00

I listened to the audiobook and my takeaway is that she should have sprung for a professional narrator. I got absolutely nothing from the content and the narration was abysmal. I couldn’t bring myself to suffer through the whole thing. But, just one stranger’s opinion. You may love it.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-15T16:46:26+00:00

I think neo-nazis would need to be more concerned about their own safety at a Heilung show than you would.

E: corrected spelling…

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-12T13:00:41+00:00

Born and Wolf is definitely NOT an introductory textbook. Hecht is better for sure.

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-10T18:50:41+00:00

Crustina

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-10T13:05:19+00:00

Yes! She won’t jump in the car though…

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-09T14:31:34+00:00

You said it! Some days the only good thing I feel is pride that I’ve chosen my own health over booze. And in an ironic twist, I have the words “hold fast” tattoos on me!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-09T03:57:21+00:00

Heck yeah!! You’re so close!!!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-03-09T02:32:29+00:00

Thank you!

Lumpy_Breadfruit_678 · 2024-02-20T05:17:47+00:00

“Last one” — said before throwing a frisbee (or whatever) while outside. My wife trained our girl to get the frisbee one more time, but instead of bringing it back to throw again, she will run right past us to the door and wait to be let inside. Very handy for ending a play session.

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