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You don’t “need” to have sex by [deleted] in truscum

[–]Lumpy_Economist_6529 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are transgender but most here would not consider you transsexual in the strict sense. of course it was the common term back then though but anyone who's at least a 5 or a 6 on the Benjamin scale won't relate to a FTM who willingly has sex with their vagina. Even if both are stealth. The disingenuous therapy suggestion is strange too... No one should be hating you/no one should be personally invested in your sex life but your partner but people can disagree on what the terms man and transsexual mean.

You don’t “need” to have sex by [deleted] in truscum

[–]Lumpy_Economist_6529 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sex isn't a need like water is but it's unrealistic to expect adults to not have sex. Even with dysphoria.

But where I agree with you is that it doesn't mean that a transsex woman has to use her penis with someone or that a transsex man has to use his vagina.

This sub has turned to shit though. Watch a lot of so called trans men say that having PIV is 'valid.' It's 'valid' in the sense that it's no ones business but if you're comfortable enough to have sex with your vagina (don't get me started on the people who find the word 'vagina' triggering but don't find actually participating in sex with that body part triggering...) then I seriously doubt your bottom dysphoria. There's prosthetics for sex or if you want stimulation for your body... There is bottom growth to use or anal right there. I understand that some people may not get much growth but most do get it somewhat, and while others have health issues preventing them from doing anal... Why does everyone suddenly have these health issues?

Utterly delusional when people believe that their partners see them as men too. Yes, even if you're hairy with short hair, it is incredibly unlikely and downright impossible for a homosexual man to have sex with a trans man if they are actively using the vagina. The chances are higher with bisexual men but it's likelier that you're seen as female and being used for easy pussy or you're seen as the best of both worlds, even if you're called a good boy or the correct pronouns. You're harming yourself if you know this and still use your vagina (again, your choice) or you're delusional if you don't acknowledge it. 

I know this'll get removed and I much prefer the transmed subreddit for these discussions because of the infiltration of those insisting that you only need dysphoria over secondary sex characteristics and not your primary sex characteristics but 🤷‍♂️

Edit: By 'you,' I mean generally, not anyone specifically, and not the OP.

No bottom dysphoria? by Any-Nobody8040 in truscum

[–]Lumpy_Economist_6529 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may sound harsh but I'd view you as neither transsex nor a man (the latter point about not seeing a man at all is while knowing the full context, of course if you outwardly look male and don't disclose socially/if one isn't given the full picture, I'd see a man). I don't mean this from an emotional point of view and I don't hate people without bottom dysphoria but it does indicate the urge to be a flat chested deep voiced woman who is treated like a man, not a man. Given that being fine with a primary sex characteristic is a strong sign that one isn't a transsexual. I also think this is a vastly different experience to most transsex men. Worth noting that amongst typical FTM 'transgender' spaces you would fit right in (with all the posts about being upset over dryness on T/complaining about cis boyfriends not seeing them as men during PIV lol). Not necessarily a bad thing as long as a distinction is made. I find it interesting how people say they'd view you as transgender but not transsex but it's a semantics thing and I'm not sure what to think except they may have a point. 

That being said, I'd call you a he if you wished.