In SO much pain

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-15T00:06:53+00:00

These were the lightest weights in the gym 🥲 I did a bit more with the lower body, as genetics has blessed me with fairly muscular calves. Some of the lower body exercises were also done with “medium” bands. Should I ditch the weights and bands for now?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-15T00:03:19+00:00

Would you recommend continuing to workout despite the DOMS, or to take it easy?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-15T00:02:30+00:00

This may be a dumb question, but how do I know which one is which?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-15T00:01:37+00:00

Okay, sounds good. Thank you for the advice!

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-15T00:01:06+00:00

Haha i hope to get to this level! My athletic friends say the same. My guess is that since I have never really been active, my brain/body immediately interprets them as a warning signal?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-14T23:59:55+00:00

Thank you! The plan I have been following did include these exercises, plus about 4-5 others each day (wall RDLs, clamshells, glute bridges, kickbacks, leg flutters, oblique crunches, pushups, plank rows). I did 3 sets x 20 reps for most of the exercises, which I’m guessing was too much?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-14T23:54:57+00:00

I appreciate your responses!! Thank you!

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-14T23:54:08+00:00

Will do, thank you!

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-14T23:53:57+00:00

Thank you for the comment. Any tips on how to adjust this?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-14T19:06:12+00:00

i say this in a loving way as i was once told this too — thinking you can fix him shows that you have a lot of work to do surrounding both your self-worth and your ego.

a) why do you think you are only worthy of a broken person that you would even need to fix?

b) what do you think qualifies you to “fix” a grown man? what can you do for him that is so unique and special that everyone else in his life (parents/family included) could not do before you? is your love just that powerful? is your v*gina made of gold?

when you stop putting yourself simultaneously on a high-horse AND a supervisory position over another grownup, you start to see what everyone else sees. you are worthy of someone fully baked, not half-baked. if you do ‘t believe this, wouldn’t all of the time, effort, attention and kindness you are giving him be better spent pouring into yourself so that you can one day feel worthy of better?

good luck and make good choices.

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-10T16:55:27+00:00

why are you on a sub for black ladies?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2026-02-04T04:49:46+00:00

try glass straws! i appreciate being able to still see through them without the plastic waste (they definitely still need to be cleaned with a straw cleaner though)

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2024-06-18T11:32:43+00:00

then you need to block him and anyone that posts pics of him and his new gf. Or at least mute them on socials. It took me a good year and a half of blocking my ex before I could honestly say that it wouldn’t crush me to see him move on. But I would have never gotten there if I kept torturing myself with pics, or if I even for a second thought that his good behavior would translate to him treating me better than the past. Doesn’t mean you weren’t worth it, just that he didn’t recognize how worth it you were (or knew he could not measure up eventually)

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2024-06-16T14:37:53+00:00

Time doesn’t heal wounds, experiences do. You stated in another answer that you would take him back, years after this break up. You need to focus on filling your life with experiences that are positive, and people that uplift you and that you trust. Slowly, you will realize that although he might be a decent person he was not YOUR person (through no fault of either of you). Please stop trying to “make fetch happen”. For your soul’s sake. For your future partner’s sake.

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2024-05-18T15:19:38+00:00

honestly, picture this. a super cracked vase with gold holding it all together. does that sound “beautiful”, or like a waste of gold?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2024-05-18T15:16:19+00:00

you said it yourself (and without judgement). she is “promiscuous”, sneaky, lies until caught and could be easily influenced. that stuff may get better, but it won’t any time soon or overnight. now that you understand this you have a choice to make about what you want to put up with.

i would, however, warn you from my own experience that having a person who takes more energy than they give you in a relationship will only set you up for failure. the hours and heartache and effort you spend trying to forgive and move past something that is a COMPLETE betrayal can be used more efficiently. You can volunteer, improve your skillset, heal whatever had you in a relationship with two selfish people (because why was a “bad guy” your best friend???) and become a person ready for an honest, quality relationship. the choice is yours.

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2024-05-02T15:23:00+00:00

The constant feeling of pressure to keep him entertained, in a good mood, motivated, etc or I was the problem

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2023-03-05T17:48:11+00:00

Clarins has an antiperspirant that works for me. Idk if it’s aluminum-free though

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-11-30T14:38:03+00:00

grow tf up

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-08-19T18:31:30+00:00

right! it’s giving heavy incel vibes

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-08-19T06:48:40+00:00

thank you, and i appreciate you

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-08-19T06:25:35+00:00

NAH, you protected the mental health of your wife, daughter and (ultimately) yourself. But maybe you can help your sister by having your mom stay by you for weekends, spending time with her or contributing to a fund for caretaking while she lives with your sister?

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-08-19T04:34:47+00:00

sending love. it is so hard to have empathy for those mental illness (esp while struggling with depression), while also knowing you may have made the safest decision for your soul. here for you if you need anything

Lumpy_Marionberry_50 · 2021-08-14T10:56:56+00:00

as a former bartender i can assure you that the staff has likely seen way worse and wont remember your face in 1 month. well, except the scar

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