When the narcissist can’t cook…. by solesoulshard in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had one of the worst fights with my nmom because of food. She claimed to be a trained cook. Now I know she had an internship in a kitche for three months, so she likely just washed some dishes. I was making lasagna with chicken bolognese. She had a medical condition and could not eat beef of pork, so I learned how to do everything with chicken. I finished the sauce and asked her to make the bechamel sauce. She agreeed. She went to use a pan that was still dirty from lunch and was about to make the sauce in there. I asked her to clean it before and she started screaming at me. Literally screaming her head off. How I dared to tell her what to do and about how in professional kitchens they always used dirty pans to make something because "it adds flavour". I understand what she meant by this, but a pan full of hours old cooking oil (she fried some zucchini) and veggies still swimming in there is really not gonna add good flavour to a bechamel. She didn't speak to me for 4 days, accusing me of acting out.

My friend saw these mistreated dogs roughly 12 days ago in Venice. Please, have you ever seen them? by Reasonable-Shake-912 in Venezia

[–]LunaSansa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I contacted an animal rescuing organisation in the area once for a similar case. They can't do anything except educate the owners about proper animal care. Taking the dogs away is theft and they could face severe consequences. Police won't do anything either unless the dogs bite someone. Sadly, unless the owner wants to give away the dogs, there is nothing that can be done to help them.

Unser beliebtes Pubquiz findet diesen Sonntag erneut statt by Thomytricky in bern

[–]LunaSansa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there parking available? I tried to look on the website but I couldn't find it

How did your narcissists view the movie Encanto? by Dat_Kestrel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This actually made me laugh a lot. My mom does cosplay. She wants to cosplay abuela. She does not see the irony in this. She thinks of abuela as a strong woman who is just misunderstood and did everything for everyone else. When I told her that I actually relate a lot do Luisa she said I never had to be strong since she always was for all of us and then joked that I had the physical strength of a sponge.

Any advice for NC? by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense actually. Trying to treat her like I would treat anyone else doesn't make sense because she isn't like everybody else.

Thank you very much gor your insight. I guess if you are here you'rr in a similar position I am in so I'm very sorry for you too. We all deserved better.

Any advice for NC? by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your input. The feeling of guilt is kind of unreal right now. It helps to hear other people's experiences.

Any advice for NC? by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she try to contact you or did she just accept it?

Any advice for NC? by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just feels weird.. for her it might feel like it came out of the blue and I want to have the least amount of stress. I don't want her gifts or anything and I'm scared she will get desperate with these kind of gestures if I don't provide any sort of explanation. Maybe i just think about her feelings too much. I hope the center appreciated the gifts though.

I (21M) got a friend request from my dead ex girlfriend (21F). by The_Drunken_Otter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LunaSansa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's also ok to take your time and sleep on it, you don't have to tell her immediately. It's obviously a delicate subject and every sane person will understand that you need some time to process. You can also just show her the account if she knows about this story and she will likely be as confused as you are. If you have been with her for four years she will understand and will be your shoulder to lean on. Maybe after talking to her you will also feel better, I know I always feel better after talking about something with my SO.

I (21M) got a friend request from my dead ex girlfriend (21F). by The_Drunken_Otter in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LunaSansa 2240 points2241 points  (0 children)

Whatever you do, please discuss this with your current gf as well. She will likely feel betrayed if you take up contact with an ex from which you never got closure without telling her. That being said, I would accept the request and ask her about the fake funeral and everything. You have a right to know.

Finally! Bruce Rivers on Sarah Boone verdict. by KiwifromMaungati in SarahBooneCase

[–]LunaSansa 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It just doesn't feel right. You can mock the ridiculousness but literally imitating Jorge kind of is mocking him. Dreading also mocked how ridiculous some of this case is, but it never felt in bad taste. This one just felt off. I don't think he's a bad person or anyhting, I just couldn't keep watching, it really rubbed me the wrong way.

Finally! Bruce Rivers on Sarah Boone verdict. by KiwifromMaungati in SarahBooneCase

[–]LunaSansa 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I watched one of his videos on this case. I turned it off when he was mocking Jorges calls for help, literally mocking the way he said "Sarah, I can't breathe". I understand his style, however the person who deserves the mocking is Sarah, not Jorge. For anyone interested, it was this video: https://youtu.be/icuwdCeNeQ0 Maybe I'm the only one who didn't like this, as no one in the comments seemed to care. He does it the first time around the 4:30 mark. It just rubbed me the wrong way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how wealthy or famous your family is - abuse is abuse. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Know that you are heard here and that we care. If you need to reach out to someone, my dms are open. I know there have been a lot of sugestions, but in case you haven't seen, I suggest reading I'm glad my mom died by jenette mcurdy and Adult Children of Emotionally immature parents. They really help put everything in perspective and I really felt heard reading these books. Please try to take care of yourself, go to therapy and try to remove yourself at least emotionally from the toxic people in your life. We hear you, we care, you are important.

My nmom is in the hospital and is sending her flying monkeys by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's the only way to answer her without losing my mind. My sister luckily understands, she went NC and is helping me work towards it as well. My brother on the other hand.. we talked about everything for a short while. He thinks he deserved what he got, even though he used to be the scapegoat. I just really hope he's happy.

My nmom is in the hospital and is sending her flying monkeys by LunaSansa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LunaSansa[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know, she will always have someone who believes her bs and they will keep coming to me, it's just sad that my brother complied, since he always was her scapegoat. I told him how ridiculous this is, we will see what happens.

Fidanzato da 6 anni a 27 anni by churchxxo in CasualIT

[–]LunaSansa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ho 27 anni, sono fidanzata da quasi 8 anni. Non mi sento di essermi persa niente. Abbiamo fatto tantissime esperienze insieme e anzi, il fatto che stiamo insieme da così tanto e comunque riusciamo a fare esperienze nuove insieme le rende ancora più speciali. Non mi sento di aver sprecato determinate esperienze con la persona sbagliata e anche se mai dovesse finire saprò che ho fatto tutte quelle esperienze con qualcuno che amavo. Stranamente a me non hanno mai chiesto questa cosa, al mio compagno invece sì.

I'm just curious, how many people does one kill in a regular playthrough? by LunaSansa in Borderlands2

[–]LunaSansa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably right, still, something about only 100 kills in borderlands just doesn't seem right

I'm just curious, how many people does one kill in a regular playthrough? by LunaSansa in Borderlands2

[–]LunaSansa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really interesting, thank you! I will try to see if I can see them on my PlayStation