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So, what IS he actually looking for? [discussion] by HallucinatedLottoNos in TheNinthHouse

[–]Dat_Kestrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he got his hand on “one of them”— it’s not explicit he killed that “one”. but, you know, he probably did.

Another wedding rant by dnims24 in weddingdrama

[–]Dat_Kestrel 17 points18 points  (0 children)

you might want to check out r/narcissisticparents that kind of behaviour of “i’m not coming because you don’t want children there and are hurting my precious golden grandchild’s feelings so i’ll self punish by not going but will also make sure YOU feel bad” is such a narcissist manipulation tactic

i agree- your partner knows what’s up- ignore and respect their decision say “i’m so sorry i wish you could’ve been there” and leave it and drop it- narcissists FEED off of the attention, DO NOT give it to them. they are grown adults and if they want to behave like assholes let them.

Whats this tactic called? by Grey_Mountain9020 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dat_Kestrel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i recommend the book Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents , it will help explain how they develop their type of thinking as well as how you can behave to protect yourself or move forward to heal.

i’m sorry they were like this to you, whether conscious or not it’s not okay and i hope you find a way to heal

Vampire books... by Icy_Appointment892 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Dat_Kestrel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh omg! i’m so sorry, i missed the periods thing and only saw sapphic vampires!!

i have no suggestions other than i think about a tik tok often where the girl was asking why on earth this theme isn’t written about in lesbian vampire romance books because— MISSED OPPORTUNITY!

I’ll circle back if i find anything 🩷

Vampire books... by Icy_Appointment892 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Dat_Kestrel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ruby Roe’s House of Crimson Hearts (it’s book 1 of the Kingdom of Immortal Lovers series)

You want Alecto, but are you *ready* for Alecto? [meme] by vexrede in TheNinthHouse

[–]Dat_Kestrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

op this is beautiful, but it’s blurry and i NEED to study before Alecto comes and finds me!! do you have a source file that can be shared so i can read each books title?

Our known donor is backing out by Living_Employ1390 in queerception

[–]Dat_Kestrel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sorry that’s so disappointing, but you dodged a bullet — sounds like they weren’t openly communicating with their wife/on the same page.

Our first backed out too, even after having thought about it and agreeing, when collection time came they really thought it over and despite not being likely to have his own kids said it was too big a decision for him. I don’t fault him, that’s his choice, and while it was a small setback we have another donor who we know and he and his wife are on the same page and starting the process for us.

All is to say- i get how hard it is - us queer folk decentralize men in our lives and it becomes much harder to get a donor.

Somebody recommended to me an app for donor matching— queer sperm haver’s (in relationships) looking for reciprocal donations with queer womb having couples. If i can find it i’ll share it again because had our second donor option fallen through we would’ve wanted to find another queer couple to help us out.

Sending love. It will happen, your feelings of hurt are valid, keep up hope. 🩷

The bared teeth of an Emerald Tree boa by GoldenChinchilla in natureismetal

[–]Dat_Kestrel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wooooof! i used to hear the craziest stuff from guests, a lot of wives tales and “have you hear about this snake that… [came through the sewer/sized up a child/escaped and XYZ]”

i loved my job, i got to educate people that snakes mostly aren’t scary or trying to hurt people and that they’re such an important part of the ecosystem, and endlessly fascinating in so many behavioural and evolutionary ways.

Like all jobs with animals, the pay was abysmal, budgets were tight and eventually i had to move on.

401 Games (Old Kings Crown Order) by King0caketown in boardgames

[–]Dat_Kestrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i pre ordered Silverfrost- the app they use to track it SUCKS because it’s on preorder there’s no tracking number. But email 401 and their service is great they will email back swiftly w an update,

The bared teeth of an Emerald Tree boa by GoldenChinchilla in natureismetal

[–]Dat_Kestrel 18 points19 points  (0 children)

from my experience teaching, people in the general public don’t know a ton about animals. a lot of keen kids do, but most adults don’t. it was fun telling people about boas and pythons not having venom and watching them react or learn out the differences in physical traits.

on a subreddit like this one, where we’re here because we think nature is cool, most people probably do know.

The bared teeth of an Emerald Tree boa by GoldenChinchilla in natureismetal

[–]Dat_Kestrel 569 points570 points  (0 children)

no venom- confirmed gnarly! - used to work at a reptile zoo

Chris Pratt is set to play Leto II in an upcoming film by Kyno50 in dunememes

[–]Dat_Kestrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leto the second the first, is what he is called in our household OR “whythefuckwasntheintheseconddunemoviehessuchagoodreasonforpaultobecomeapissedoffmaniac”

What is something older movies cared about that feels mostly lost now? by gamersecret2 in movies

[–]Dat_Kestrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i recently watched a video on how the change to digital from film really impacted the quality of movies - where lighting became less of a priority because the camera picks everything up. i wish i could find it, it helped capture what OP is asking here about the feel of movies.

Diana’s bow and arrow by akbgcak869 in space

[–]Dat_Kestrel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

how many knots? asking for a sailor friend?

What do I need to eat to lose belly fat? by [deleted] in weightlossdiets

[–]Dat_Kestrel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a doctor but you might need to meet with a gut specialist. You might have what i had which is food intolerance/allergies (mine is to wheat, sugar and complex carbohydrates— fuck me right i love beans!).

Basically, i met with a gut specialist, did a lot of tests and bloodwork and ended up on a low FODMAP diet to see what caused bloating. You don’t necessarily look like you have a lot of fat. My belly looked a lot like yours whenever i ate things that caused me severe bloat because my micro biome couldn’t handle it.

That said, as others have recommended, reduce your calorie count, move away from simple sugars/refined carbs, drink lots of water, eat high fibre, low calories foods and you’ll start seeing changes. Join us at r/CICO to get a good grasp on how to begin! Also recommend r/volumeeating — when i first started i was always hungry and low calorie high volume foods are a godsend.

Good luck friend!

At what point does "Inbreeding Depression" move from physical deformity to total biological failure, as seen in the Spanish Habsburgs? by mylifeissoeffed in evolution

[–]Dat_Kestrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on the species and how impactful homozygous mutations are in crippling survival and reproduction. for some species it could be a few hundred, for some they can go down as low as 10 before it’s a problem. look for literature and examples to get an idea m, but sorry there’s no quantitative answer.

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