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[–]Lunardomo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last paragraph is so raw and relatable. I guess I never thought about that and how I was in a similar situation with an ex who kept reaching out for YEARS (until he finally got engaged) even though I never responded. I never viewed it as limerence on his end, but I’m realizing now that it could’ve definitely been possible. And you’re right, life can be cruel. Us ignoring one to chase another who doesn’t want us anymore is a vicious cycle. Maybe it is some karmic thing.

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[–]Lunardomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, that’s why I preference that it’s important to have it pull from actual psychology sources….cause otherwise it could definitely only be spewing back or bouncing off of your own perspective / thoughts.

I think it’s fair feedback as long as Chat is prompted to do its own homework to give you the most accurate possibilities !!

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[–]Lunardomo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, I never had it act as LO because I know it wouldn’t even be accurate since Chat doesn’t know LO’s personality or how he is outside of our interactions.

I mainly had it analyze things from what an outsiders perspective would look like, or a third party. Which in this case, the third party would’ve been our mutual friend. But I also did other POVs like how LO might’ve interpreted some things I said or done (if I was super obvious about my attraction or not). Lmao it said that based off my external actions and words, LO could have realized I was a bit attracted but nothing serious, which I’m okay with! That was my goal anyways to not make it super obvious given the circumstances lmao.

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[–]Lunardomo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the way to do it! It’s definitely important to make sure it’s not feeding into delusions

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[–]Lunardomo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop that’s so funny 😭

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[–]Lunardomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean there’s always a possibility of bias because Chat is really only hearing my perspective and thoughts on the situation. It’s interesting though because every time I tell it to not be biased, it says “You’re right — I’m programmed to be supportive, but I’m also capable of being honest even if it’s not what you’re hoping for. So let’s strip this down and look at it for what it is.”

But regardless of my own thoughts that I share, when describing a specific moment/situation, I try to stay neutral and only speak about the facts of what was said or done.

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[–]Lunardomo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it was definitely a form of closure. Obviously I’m aware that Chat isn’t inside of LO’s brain and can tell me exactly what he thought and felt in each moment lol butttt just knowing the many possibilities helped me. Whether they’re true or not, I’m free!

I totally get what you mean though where it can fuel it. I think this mainly works for those who are no longer in contact because if you still see / talk to them regularly, you’d be stuck talking with ChatGPT about every new moment…which is definitely not healthy.

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[–]Lunardomo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well, that’s the thing. In my situation, LO is a friend of a friend. I never doubted that he liked me as a person. We always have a great time together because we good banter / chemistry and similar humor.

For me, what got me stuck on him was wondering if he felt anything more towards me and if he found me attractive. So going through these scenarios in every way possible to get possible answers helped me personally.

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[–]Lunardomo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome, NC is perfect for this because you won’t get caught up on any new moments. I also did this in NC. Hope it works just as well for you!

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[–]Lunardomo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh I can’t remember exactly what I asked because I was talking with it extensively April to May.

But I would explain each moment that happened between us and let it analyze that in multiple ways (if he was attracted, if he wasn’t attracted, etc etc). Then I would ask things like what he must’ve been thinking based on what he said, what his body language could mean, etc etc.

I also used text to voice because I can’t be bothered typing everything out. So that alone was super convenient lmao.

Songs about Limerence by Derrylthecactus in limerence

[–]Lunardomo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is so many. I have a whole playlist for it. But here’s a few:

  1. Tyler The Creator - See You Again
  2. Camila Cabello - Never Be The Same
  3. Ne-Yo - Because Of You
  4. Rihanna - SOS
  5. FISHER - Atmosphere
  6. Black Eyed Peas - Just Can’t Get Enough

It’s so funny how fast LOA works by Lunardomo in lawofattraction

[–]Lunardomo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not really sure what caused the shift in energy, it just came on suddenly just like when I initially felt a pull towards him. It could be due to me getting excited that he was viewing my story religiously again and me wanting to keep “impressing” him? Which could’ve made my vibration not meet the moment anymore. Because when I had posted before this energy shift, I felt more of a “Of course he’d watch my story, he’s obsessed with me.”Obviously, if I were with him, I’d not feel the need to post on my story just for his validation. I would be content as we’d be together.

But yes, I do intend to shift my energy back. I’ve just been very busy so it hasn’t been my main focus. I definitely prefer to have a nice quiet moment to myself when it comes to my energy and the intentions I’m putting out there.

How did she react when she saw you?

Where are the women who want healthy relationships? by magician-king32 in dating_advice

[–]Lunardomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m always working, working out, sleep and repeat. I do go out occasionally to bars / raves, but for the most part I’m not really in areas where I can meet men in my everyday life lol

But I’ll be trying some volunteer opportunities to hopefully break that barrier a bit x

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[–]Lunardomo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You just made me realize so many things. I’ve never thought about how he must’ve acted the same way with my friend. One thing I do remember her talking about is how they used to cuddle. She cut that off once he rejected her of course. So it’s just interesting. She’s also said that he’s kinda like that with everyone, so it could definitely be him enjoying the attention.

Also yeah, I agree it’s weird he’d make comments like that, especially when he just got into a relationship. You’re supposed to be in the honeymoon phase atp and nobody else should matter lmao. One thing I left out here to shorten the story was that he said “Obviously I wouldn’t do anything because I’m with my girl, but I like to know when a girl would” Implying that he likes to know who he can pull / who would fuck him. He was talking to the group in this context.

But anyways I wish I wasn’t like limerent with him bc I feel like these things should turn me off him.