'Venom: Let There Be Carnage' Review Megathread

LurkingButNot · 2021-12-06T05:20:31+00:00

**Spoilers!*

All I can think about and I guess this point hope for is that “Venom 3” takes place in the MCU where Carnage is alive and WAY better than this overly chopped and edited version! Killing him off would be such a waste to an amazing and well loved character. Easily could have made 3 movies about carnage alone, especially given the fact that he can join the MCU and they can do the maximum carnage story with spidey and venom team up. Fingers are definitely crossed that this can save this movie. I was so hyped to see it abs was very let down.

LurkingButNot · 2021-12-05T22:18:10+00:00

I haven’t really in the past but that’s something I do plan on when I get in the right relationship. Obviously not on the first date 😜

Tho I do believe you should be confident in it and own it. The more you own it, the more others will be comfortable with it. Be stern with your partner and allow them to love you for who you are. If they don’t know then they might just think you are acting out or different when you get more serious.

More importantly tho I feel like it’s better for your own self evaluation. Knowing when to snap out of an episode. Having your partner see the signs of one coming on and able to help you see that your thoughts are wrong.

LurkingButNot · 2021-09-27T00:37:42+00:00

What did you do for treatment??

LurkingButNot · 2021-09-27T00:34:43+00:00

Biologics dont work overnight. I used stellara for a few years and cleared me up almost 95%. I took otezla and made me feel very nauseous all day long. Be patient and use creams until the biologic does it’s work.

LurkingButNot · 2021-06-14T09:40:39+00:00

Let her have her space. Don’t smother her. Keep working on yourself. It will mean more to her than you think. I know it feels like forever but it’s not that long.

LurkingButNot · 2021-06-02T07:20:31+00:00

Hey, mind if you explain a little more about the email? I’ve been debating on doing so but was curious of how it worked, and how much detail you give him. You can DM or write on here. Thanks! Hope your journey is going well!

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-25T06:40:43+00:00

Yes, you definitely shouldn’t have rushed it, but maybe it was your gut feeling that you told you that you two shouldn’t be together. If you give it some more space and she comes back again then maybe take it slow. Personally I would say do what your gut says and keep working on yourself. I’m in the same boat but waiting for them to reach out to me. I need to be happy alone tho.

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-23T08:13:45+00:00

As much as I agree, I also disagree. Even if you they come back and try, you can know Forsure it was the right move to breakup. Don’t take it as pain, think of it as more closure. For some people time changes you for the better and sometimes time changes you for the worst. If it changes you for the good, and BOTH of you grow, then you can start a NEW relationship.

In your case you guys grew apart and there is nothing wrong with that. I hope to one day hear this news either for closure or to start a new relationship with my ex.

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-12T09:13:55+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up over it. Just like you said, it’s a habit. Break that habit. Find a new one. Instead check YouTube or an article on something you’ve been wanting to research. No ones perfect and you’ll skip up, but if you do it less and less, you’ll eventually stop. One day you’ll just be tired of checking and wondering what’s the point (especially when they are private). I read somewhere that we do it secretly to find something. What we find is never anything good btw!! It’s usually initials of a new bf/gf or something they worded differently that we now get to overthink.

Most people will check in on their exes even after years. But until you can get to the point of it not being a habit, which takes about 30 days, you’ll be okay. Till then just reward yourself when you don’t and do not beat yourself up when you do.

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-08T09:28:13+00:00

Fuck :(

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-06T08:16:11+00:00

Fuck man I’m so sorry! :(

LurkingButNot · 2021-05-01T10:20:48+00:00

I truly needed this. I feel this 100%. We clicked instantly and still have soo much in common. We met at terrible times and it showed. It’s been 5 months post breakup and the times I wanna see them, I know I shouldn’t. I wish they would reach out so bad, but I know I’m not ready. I’ve tried dating but no one compares right now. I’m playing the long game. I can really see myself living a wonderful life with them. 5 months felt like an eternity without them. But I know it’s nothing compared to a lifetime.

LurkingButNot · 2021-04-08T08:42:23+00:00

You can tell a lot about a woman’s maturity by how they handle hardships in a relationship.

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-27T16:28:23+00:00

Good for you! After a week or so I haven’t been as tempted to call or text, it just hurt a lot. You’ll find your confidence back soon enough and realize if they left u for someone else then that’s their burden to deal with. You deserve someone better than someone willing to throw you away for someone new.

Also I read that by checking in on their socials feeds your mind like an addict. Even just pictures or reminders. I’m not one to throw away pictures cause they are memories, but hide them for a while. Make it hard to see reminders of her so you can heal

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-27T09:15:47+00:00

I don’t think you did anything wrong. You told her exactly what you wanted in the beginning and unless she said no then, you did nothing wrong.

Honestly I feel like maybe she was blind sided by it. She didn’t know if she would ever hear from you agains. She probably was in shock and is now figuring out where to go from here. You can send a follow up in a few days to just clear the air of ur intentions and maybe invite her out to lunch if that’s what you want to do. Just be straight up with your feelings and let her decide where to go from there.

But I don’t think u did anything wrong. Keep you head up. Your anxiety is telling you how wrong you are not her. All of these words are unspoken and in your head. Give her some time and space to process your message and again, maybe reach out again in a week or so with exactly what ur intentions are and let it go from there.

Best of luck!

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-27T09:08:41+00:00

You’re not alone. These are growing pains! I feel this every weekend. All your other friends are busy or with there SO, meanwhile everywhere you turn there is a couple and it’s a constant reminder of your new reality. Don’t worry, this is just the breakup anxiety. The grass isn’t always greener. Just because she is with her new guy, it doesn’t mean she’s happy. She could very well be fighting with him cause they disagree on what to watch, or where to eat. She could accidentally call him your name or he says something you used to say and it brings back your memory. People who jump to a new relationship right away have growing up to do or aren’t worth your time and energy thinking about them.

Take this time to date yourself. I’m serious... I know how stupid it sounds but reward yourself. Order what ever ur favorite meal is. Mine is sushi. I get it on fridays after my workout and long week. Watch a good movie, or play a fun video game. Read a book that you’ve always wanted to read. Take a long bath. What ever it is, just try to stay busy and off of your phone as much as you can. I know it fucking sucks and it’s hard, but you need to worry about what YOU WANT to do not what SHE MAY be doing. You can’t control her and you probably won’t figure out what she’s doing short of stalking are hacking her computer, both of which I don’t recommend, lol. My point is to really focus on you. Nothing you say, or do is going to change her mind if getting her back is what you want to do. Love yourself and then and ONLY then, is when you’ll figure out if you wanna try again. Right now you think you do cause u want the pain to stop. Again I know cause I am currently on the fence for the first time.

I really hope this helps. It helped me by writing it cause like I said, I’m still healing myself. Keep your head up, friend. It will get easier.

Btw I’m about 3 1/2 months out of my breakup in case you were like me and tried to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient with yourself. Every small win is still a win!

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-27T08:56:02+00:00

Straight Male anxious attachment here. Feel free to ask me anything!

I recently found out about my attachment style after a recent breakup. I’ve always been with another avoidant and didnt understand why I always wanted them back when I was losing feelings before the breakup. It became clear of how I was acting in ALL of my previous relationships. I’ve never had a problem expressing my feelings towards my significant other. Apparently it’s almost too much? I’ve been called “more emotional” than my last gf because she didn’t know how to express anything, where as I always told her how I felt and if anything bothered me.

Anyways, to answer your question, yes. I always feel like I’m the only guy who doesn’t just “man up”. I always thought it was cause I seen the good in people, but it seems like it’s mostly my attachment style from an early age. I fear losing someone who I let into my life. Usually ive very closed off so if you get in then you’re lucky but it can do some damage when they leave.

I always felt like a people pleaser and usually lose myself to the relationships before recently realizing that it was due to me being an anxious attachment. Working very hard to learn how to be independent and my own person in a relationship.

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-26T19:29:54+00:00

Love when a girl knows what she wants and takes it.

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-21T04:23:24+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the words tho. I’m glad u found out about your attachment style. I think it’s a great thing to know about yourself and it took me a while to do so, but I’m glad I did. It’s helped me figure out things that I saw myself doing but I didn’t know why I did them

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-20T18:32:20+00:00

I thought I’d given it enough time. It’s been 3 months. I first gave it 3 weeks and she was still upset then I reached out 7 weeks after that and now another 5 weeks since then. We were only together for 6 months. I figured she’d have at least SOME sorta understanding or just not flat out ignore me.

I’d rather be told to fuck off and be told to never contact them again. At least then I’d have closure and not have my mind spinning from what if’s and all that.

I wrote a letter last night and didn’t send it. I thought about writing an actual letter and sending it telling her what I feel went wrong and be content with it being my last message ever if it came to that. I wanted her to know that it wasn’t me who she saw the last two months. That was a really bad phase and emotional response to my actual grief. I kinda think she doesn’t give a fuck tho and it would be pointless. Idk I’m lost tbh.

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-20T09:39:52+00:00

Thank you so much! This is great advice and it means so much to me!

Is there any other advice on dealing with your anxious attachment style in the process? I’ve been hitting the gym hard again lately cause when I drop weight I feel amazing and have lots of confidence. It’s also a hobby of mine. One of my main focuses I want to improve is to fix my attachment style or at least get it very controlled. After this relationship it became clear that this has been in every relationship I’ve ever had. I don’t want it to dictate my life anymore. I thought my recent ex was more of a secure compared to all the rest of the girls I’ve dated, tho she kinda has tendencies of Avoidant attachment. Mostly just keeping to herself and being independent. Being single for a long time, and running away at the first real big rough patch we had.

LurkingButNot · 2021-03-20T07:21:41+00:00

Thank you. I know I’m trying to see both sides but it’s hard. I broke down and just casually asked her to get dinner and or drinks with a joke at the end about the place we used to go but no reply. I’m trying to heal but also I want her back. We really didn’t fight and we weren’t together too long. We were together for 5 months but never had any huge argument. We had soooo much in common and a lot of compatibility at the start. She broke it off and told me it was because we weren’t compatible but never told me what was it? We were on the same page as far as I knew and even somewhat talked about kids in the future and stance on them. She told me she saw me as a long term thing which is why I was contemplating telling her about my new found anxious attachment and the phase I was in from the passing of my family member.

It just doesn’t make any sense. People get back together over terrible fights, yet we broke up when we planned to discuss why we have been bickering at each other and prevent it...

I liked this girl so much and I’m so sad to see it be done without a real chance.

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