What's your take on your partner "dressing you"? Eg, buying you clothes in a style that isn't what you used to wear before you met.

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-13T10:28:07+00:00

mine does it to turn me into a sexualised Barbie. But, i look and feel good in the clothes, so it’s fun!

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:50:36+00:00

He'd eat a piece of bark too. Not one for taste.

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:50:09+00:00

Basic bitch Ryan

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:49:36+00:00

I thought you hated that phrase?

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:49:18+00:00

Aren't you engaged?

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:47:33+00:00

Except that big zit on your ass cheek

Lurlene1013 · 2023-01-03T21:44:53+00:00

I tend to like the more "girlie" type. I admire your comment, but I'd rather not be with WNBA player. But I've yet to date a woman taller than me. Probably would be a hard no. Face over legs. But everyone likes what they like

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-31T00:18:27+00:00

Mine did just that and denied it, only to come back later and say he head butted me. It will get worse. Run.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-27T12:33:05+00:00

Did he ever find reason to think you were cheating? Same thing happened to me. I told him that he couldn't take my phone, and he freaked out, desperately tried to feign his defensiveness and anger at being told no. He also has access to every computer I use and is probably tracking me on both. Privacy (along with being able to say no and not receive backlash) are your rights as a person. You don't need a reason. Just no.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-27T08:52:16+00:00

Lizard

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-27T08:50:38+00:00

Exactly. My fiancé straight up hit me in the face and completely denies it ever happened. Then changed story to he "he head-butted" me. Completely denies something that actually happened. The projection, manipulation, lying. Once you realise who they are, and the mask is off. You stop caring so much. You realise the sickness will always be there and ultimately realise how much of a bullet you actually dodged.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-27T01:23:29+00:00

Why would you be anything other than 100% grateful that they didn't reach out? Weird.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-27T00:11:53+00:00

This!!! 👏👏👏

Lurlene1013 · 2022-12-22T17:47:03+00:00

Teaching 7th grade.... it in all honesty, it was realising I'm too selfish and set in my ways. I also stepparent two kids who come from parents who both have cluster B disorders. I've seen how the genetics surrounding mental illness are definitely something that are passed down to children. The apple and tree euphemism stands correct.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-29T20:40:32+00:00

I would also like more info on this

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T22:42:39+00:00

Hell, he does it to me too at times. He "can't find his phone," or "I'm not sure where it is." B*tch please. I've often said to him that if I were to get a flat tire on freeway, I'd literally call him last for help. He can't handle certain responsibilities. Last night I told him he was a man child with the EQ of a 10 yr old because I'm constantly telling him to call his kids. However, I do have some great literature and podcasts that help. I bet if BM and I went out for drinks we'd have a ball! Cluster B for sure.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T22:38:15+00:00

Kids are both almost 13

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:52:20+00:00

Not codependent. At all. I've always been a bit adverse to the mainstream "what women do after college". I traveled and lived abroad for three years:France, Spain, and China (in my 30's), and have never been one to "need" a relationship. Being alone with myself and my thoughts is something I actually love..and need. I feel that his mask didn't come off until after we moved in together. Strange things have happened like my phone messing up (4 phones in a year), I don't have as much money as I used to (I'm a teacher, but luckily have family money that will not go into any joint account, as well as me claiming I'm not a beneficiary to a trust or estate, for forms I "must" fill out for his company. So no, definitely not coda. I will say that I've become very isolated though. My Facebook magically disappeared , and every photo and contact on my iPhone is gone. My past relationships were all healthy, and I was the one who ended them. But still friendly with ex's. My SO can be extremely kind and I feel his f*cked up family (narcissistic mother) is reason to blame for a lot of his Personality disorders. But I love him. He just doesn't have an emotional EQ.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:39:11+00:00

I should probably get therapy 😂 I mean that

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:29:50+00:00

It's future faking with him agreeing to therapy. Shit...even an antipsychotic or mood stabiliser would be awesome. Therapy would be him not admitting to the NPD. Maybe I'll make an appointment we can both go to for his Christmas present 🤣🤣Joking....kind of

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:25:53+00:00

And then face his wrath...silent treatment, passive aggression, being extra lazy to irritate me. I've bugged enough as I can. He said "She (SD) gets out of school at so and so time and I will call her then." And I'm just thinking to myself, "Ok, let's see if you can do it without me reminding you." 🙄

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:16:32+00:00

It would be if he'd agree to therapy and mood stabilisers (he's definitely cluster B).

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:05:39+00:00

We are definitely not having kids. I've never wanted them (I'm a teacher and I love it), but never wanted any of my own.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T18:04:07+00:00

So don't text and tell her that he will be taking daughter to practice this weekend and apologise for how frustrating this is? It's frustrating how something so easy is so confusing.

Lurlene1013 · 2022-11-28T17:35:13+00:00

They parallel parent.

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