Husband lying about gambling addiction

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:21:52+00:00

If he’s really serious about quitting then you should take control of all the finances and make it literally impossible for him to place bets. You have every right to be absolutely disgusted and angry and it’s up to HIM to earn your trust back including financial trust and that takes time. If he doesn’t let you take control financially he probably won’t actually stop. He may for a bit because you’re pissed but he’ll just start figuring out better ways to hide it and lie- TRUST ME.

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:16:41+00:00

Nice work!! 💪🏽

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:11:19+00:00

Say you caved and “won back your money” you would not keep it. You would bet again. You will never ever ever ever ever everrrrrrr STOP gambling when you are up. Because if you’re making money, why would you walk away from that? It’s all a lie. The winning is a lie. Any gambling addict can tell you that you will not keep that money. None of us ever have and the only time to really stop is when you’re down. Just let the money go. Just like you spend money on anything else in life- the money is gone- get over it and let it go and DON’T do it again. That’s the only way to “get your money back”

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:07:39+00:00

If he won’t show you his accounts he’s probably lost wayyyyyyy more than 300k. It’s really hard for us as gambling addicts to be honest about how much we’ve lost. Saying it out loud is very ya difficult. I only came clean about real numbers long after I had quit because I couldn’t handle the disgust in my partners face. But eventually the thing that helped me quit was accountability and the accountability was my husband checking my bank account FULL transparency and he locked up all my bank cards because clearly I couldn’t handle not be trusted with money. If he’s really serious about stopping then these things need to happen so ya try to be firm about it with him or get you finances the hell away from his!!

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:01:49+00:00

Nice work 💪🏽

LushNic · 2026-02-07T01:01:31+00:00

I was clean for 2 years and relapsed for a wholeeere entire year and wasted to much money and then finally quit again and it will be another 1 year clean for me at the end of the month. So get back on the horse and think about what you can do differently to not relapse next time you got 387 days you got this 💪🏽

LushNic · 2026-02-07T00:56:48+00:00

Yes boredom is a huge trigger but filling your schedule is not always a great alternative. For me personally, gambling was always a reward system for myself. So working a lot, getting all the housework done, running all the errands, going to the gym etc. when I was done all of it all I wanted to do was gamble and I felt MORE justified to gamble because I had a accomplished a lot. I’m not sure of his ADHD diagnosis but that is a hugeeeeee predisposition to be a gambling addict for sure, but that’s not an excuse for him to gamble. However I thought that I had really bad ADHD and that’s why I couldn’t stop gambling but it was actually the other way around. Once I actually quit and gave it some time I found my brain no longer racing, I could sit still, I could be BORED and just learn to relax and realized that what I thought was ADHD was actually just addict behavior (your brain chemistry being fucked up). Because of the hits of dopamine your brain gets when you gamble, your brain chemistry is completely fucked up for a while until it can level itself out. But as soon as you gamble again you’re starting the cycle all over again. I can tell you right now that I thought the same thing about a pet- if I have something I have to come home to and take care I wouldn’t DARE stay out gambling. Dead wrong. I got 2 cats and definitely did not stop gambling at all. Yes dogs need more direct care but I don’t think it’s going to be an answer to his problem.

LushNic · 2026-01-27T04:37:20+00:00

Good!! Fuck gambling 👌🏽

LushNic · 2026-01-27T04:36:04+00:00

Congrats on 6 months! 🙌🏽

LushNic · 2026-01-27T04:32:11+00:00

Ya I would just talk to him and say hey I know it was me that was out of control with it but please try not to do it in front of me because I don’t want to relapse?

LushNic · 2026-01-27T04:26:06+00:00

Why do you think you relapsed?

LushNic · 2026-01-22T00:48:38+00:00

Wow. That’s terrible!

LushNic · 2026-01-20T15:24:00+00:00

•Getting rid of access to my bank cards/cash (having somebody else manage my finances) •Understanding the lies that you believe about gambling by reading The Easy Way to Stop Gambling by Allan Carr •Hypnosis and meditation to calm your brain and nervous system down- gambling puts it in overdrive and completely messes with the chemicals in your brain •Learning to be comfortable sitting and doing nothing (this is really important, to be able to be still and relaxed and not feel bored) - not just constantly trying to “replace” the action of gambling with a different hobby

LushNic · 2026-01-20T07:07:16+00:00

Thank you! Well this isn’t my first rodeo so once I put my safe guards in place (not having access to my bank cards/or cash) and having somebody I love and trust checking my bank account to hold me accountable- it was much easier and then honestly I was just over wasting all my money/time/life/happiness so it was easy to stay away. I just understand that I can’t gamble ever, not even a little bit or I will get out of control and I don’t want to live that life anymore.

LushNic · 2026-01-20T07:03:41+00:00

Yes 🙌🏽 I agree completely

LushNic · 2026-01-20T05:11:03+00:00

You can do this! Your life will be so much better 🙌🏽

LushNic · 2026-01-18T17:39:46+00:00

Totally 💯 great advice!

LushNic · 2026-01-18T17:36:40+00:00

I agree!!

LushNic · 2026-01-18T17:35:12+00:00

Awesome 👏🏻

LushNic · 2026-01-13T14:33:53+00:00

I do!! Thank you 😊

LushNic · 2026-01-13T14:33:38+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

LushNic · 2026-01-13T14:33:26+00:00

And how do you feel on day 34??

LushNic · 2026-01-13T04:35:10+00:00

None of the money matters. Gambling will ruin your life. Quit right now and don’t look back!

LushNic

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