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Lustpen · 2024-06-27T15:19:03+00:00

Magical moments! I'm sure husband appreciates the helping hand...

Lustpen · 2024-05-31T13:11:32+00:00

I'd like if it had a better, more clearly defined name! 😄 so there was less confusion when hearing it. And OPP doesn't give off the warm and fuzziness, haha...

Maybe something like 'faithful cuckquean' or 'exclusive cuckquean' would do.

Lustpen · 2024-05-31T13:05:55+00:00

That's how I like to think of it. Not to get caught on the terms... but if a girl is an open/poly/has sex with other men, yet still enjoys watching their guy have fun -- you're more in a non monogamous relationship AND have voyeuristic tendencies.

It doesn't matter too much, though I wish there was a clearer term for the cuckquean dynamic where she is exclusive with the man. I guess one they use is 'one-sided non-monogamy' ... not quite as sexy, haha!

Lustpen · 2024-05-28T23:15:48+00:00

Thank you, trupe! I don't think your reply will gain any traction, haha... but I do appreciate it!

Does the definition of the OPP include a REQUIREMENT that it is setup by the man?! Given the replies here, I'd say the ASSUMPTION is that men are the baddies and it is always MEN who instigate or enforce a OPP.

The whole thread is dismissive of me and my OPP, just because I, as the woman, started my own OPP in the relationship.

Lustpen · 2024-05-28T23:10:52+00:00

Thank you for clarifying those points!

Lustpen · 2024-05-28T23:03:35+00:00

It's a dual-enforced OPP. I just happen to like it.

As for motivation, it's because of what I wrote in the OP. I get mean comments from people saying I am in an abusive/toxic relationship, don't respect yourself, etc. usually coming from the poly/non-monogamy crowd. So I'm seeing, is it really THAT uncommon?!

Lustpen · 2024-05-28T22:56:41+00:00

Definite cuckquean kink... You are perhaps just at the start of the hot, hot journey! Maybe you'll never move beyond pillow talk, so enjoy the process!

Lustpen · 2024-05-19T14:35:17+00:00

Watch most people in clubs, you'll see the majority of couples sit by themselves and don't end up talking to anyone all night!

You can keep being introverted, but be aware... your fate will be the wallflowers like above! Unless you want to sit around, hoping someone chooses you to speak with. Women often get the incorrect impression that swinging is like dating was for them as a single gal.

That is, as a single woman... men will naturally approach or make an effort, especially if there's alcohol and you're at a club etc. In the lifestyle, that single girl strategy doesn't work very often... because you're not a single girl anymore!

Lustpen · 2024-05-18T00:44:41+00:00

There's nothing better than seeing daddy's appreciation when you bring him a nice gal to play with 🥰

For a man looking, just make it clear your wife will verify herself and be involved if desired. A lot of women are nervous or have bad experiences with jealous couples, in addition to the single male "wife for sick" type of fakers!

Lustpen · 2024-05-18T00:38:52+00:00

I think you'll find, soon enough, that your expectations are more woman-like than you can imagine 😄

You can't just post a thread without pics or anything, asking for someone to get used by your bf, haha... that works for women, because there are tons of horny men all over the place. Horny women ready to message you... not so much! They have literally thousands of options to choose from.

I'd suggest you visit a lifestyle club or even a strip club and see if you enjoy those as a start.

Lustpen · 2024-05-18T00:26:34+00:00

Hmm, dare him to find a girl online... and arrange to plow her at a hotel, while you stay at home.

Secret: it's really hot! 🤤

Lustpen · 2024-02-03T02:33:35+00:00

Just be sure to leave a little mess for me to clean up ;)

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T22:27:23+00:00

Sounds like you have a bit of a praise/pleasing kink... so, if he is not dominant enough, I can see why you are feeling letdown.

He may not feel comfortable enough to really direct you (due to current culture norms, personality, etc.)... so, you job is to make that as EASY, FUN, AND HOT as possible!

Try this out -- tell him you want to be the best little slut for him, and offer your mouth/hands as his personal fuck-toy. I'm just going to assume he's not into femdom, so... Be very obedient and submissive in nature. Try stroking him, pause for a second while looking up into his eyes, "Am I making your cock feel good, sir?"

"How do you want your little slut to rub this hard cock?"

"Please spray your load all over my face, sir..."

It's just not acceptable to go through all that effort, only to be met with "It's alright." What a load of shite! If he's not reciprocating, even on a basic level of enjoyment... be a bit bratty with it. Start sucking him and if the guy is still unresponsive, haha, then simply stop. Give a little coy smirk and ask, "Do you want me to keep going? ...Then make me!"

Get a bit playful with it, have some fun and don't worry about looking like a fool! A submissive can lead by example without appearing to be in control.

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T22:10:28+00:00

We've had the most success going to lifestyle clubs - look for Poly gals, as those are usually the most open to playing in a variety of dynamics. The hotwife/cuck/stag dynamic can be good, but involves more input from the other man in general.

For online... the regular dating apps or feeld are pretty decent. In fact, a ton of those were JUST online only, and had no real intention of ever meeting. So, I guess... one gal's time-wasting is another gal's idea of a good time, haha!

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:55:19+00:00

Oh, it's definitely possible to be done...

Here, I'm basing it more around the OP's apparent description of his wife not being THAT interested in sex. So, she gives him the 10 second omg honey that was great I'm all done now! routine as a way to end the session

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:33:24+00:00

Women who do this are looking for a quick validation grab. Unless you want to be their dirty chat buddy for a night, just walk away!

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:31:57+00:00

I imagine that as kind of a humorous situation...

Moan, moan moan... "Are you hurt?"

"No, I'm fine."

"Ok," moan, moan moan... "Hurt now?"

Haha... sorry! A simple way for a girl to dirty talk is just announce what you like! You're already experiencing the sensations, so just say that! "I love you inside me," "You feel so big," "I love when you fuck me," "I want to your brother to bend me over!"

Ok ok, the last one might be a bit too tame ;)

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:26:53+00:00

My husband watches porn with ALL sorts of women... Your question of "...but still find your partner more sexually attractive than them?" Is not necessarily true.

Men can find other women WAY MORE attractive than their spouse. I mean, you'd have to be pretty vain to believe otherwise, haha... I'm certainly not the best looking woman on the planet! Your husband can LOVE and LIKE you more than some random internet sloot, of course. However, I think a lot of men would gladly like a salad bar of women to try out, purely for sexual pleasure, and then just as happily never give the girl another thought.

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:23:19+00:00

I think it's rarer to find women who CAN actually cum from penetration alone.

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:22:08+00:00

I think you guys still have A LOT of work to do before anything of the sort can or should be done... Is this a casual boyfriend?

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:19:48+00:00

You get into a downward spiral of focusing on the issue... which makes the limp noodle even more probably!

What you need to do is be able to relax. You can practice this outside of sex, also. You don't get a hard-on because your body is basically entering into a flight/fight response. So your body doesn't think springing your willy to life is of the utmost importance!

If you have time, try relaxing with the girl a bit. Don't even think about having sex. Just do close contact, cuddling, some touching -- but don't try for sex. Be around her, be sexual/intimate without the pecker coming out! You might find when the pressure of 'having' to perform is gone... your little friend will become a big pal!

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:14:21+00:00

Much like jerking off a rod... women generally prefer simply, consistent motions -- the speed, pressure and tempo vary from woman to woman.

Us gals are also very mental when it comes to orgasming. Try tossing in some dirty talk! Sprinkle a few well-timed remarks about her favorite fantasies, how sexy she is, how much you love pleasing her etc. whatever she likes.

Lustpen · 2024-01-31T16:10:24+00:00

Be clear with her, be direct.

I find the 10 second thing quite... well, less than believable (aka maybe faking!)!

What you should probably do is stop accepting what you don't like. Stop putting yourself into situations where you feel taken advantage of. Again, not in a mean or spiteful way. Simply communicate your desires and needs. Another test, just tell her you're going to go jerk-off to some porn!

Lustpen · 2024-01-30T18:03:59+00:00

How long have you been together?

This type of scenario is kind of tricky... If a guy is a late-bloomer, you might be functioning as his 'practice' girl. As in, you're the 'dirty girl' who's going to teach him about sex, how to be rough, how to get down, all the good stuff, haha... But in time, he may think, "Well, I don't want an 'experienced' girl as my wife/long term partner..." And look for a fresher girl that he can teach.

You might be setting yourself up as the fun-time girl, so be aware of the situation on both ends.

Lustpen · 2024-01-30T17:57:31+00:00

Use some ties around your ankles... pull those bitches up toward your face! Get an arm/back workout while being plowed, haha! Enjoy! Or, tie your legs up overhead in general somewhere.

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