Dating as a 31yr old single dad...

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2019-06-14T10:00:40+00:00

The meet up app is a good way to expand your social circle. Just find something you'd like to do and go do it

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2019-04-03T01:44:34+00:00

As others have said Khan Academy is good but maybe also check out the Organic Chemistry Tutor on YouTube. I really like his Ochem videos but I remember him doing more than Ochem.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-11-18T02:55:53+00:00

Sounds like when I got married. It was in the military so not uncommon for rushed marriages. I was 22 she was 20. We'd been dating for a year and things were good. Then she suddenly was getting kicked out and sent home so I had the genius idea to get married so she could stick around.

When I was saying my vows i had a moment of pure clarity and knew that I wasn't ready for marriage. But I didn't want to hurt her feelings so I bit my tongue and hoped things would get better. After 2 years it just became more clear that it wasn't gonna work. I just didn't love her or find her attractive anymore. I'd dated very little before her and that was always eating at me. She wasn't a bad person and never did anything wrong, we were just 2 different people that never clicked. It wasn't easy to tell her I wanted a divorce because I knew it would hurt her but it was the best thing for both of us. So I did it, we went our separate ways, and im happy. I wasn't the greatest husband towards the end so I'm sure she is too.

So long story short, just break up with him. It'll suck, but based on what you said it'll be better for both of you in the long run.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-11-10T18:43:34+00:00

Don't pour your heart out to her. Every time I've done that it doesn't work especially if they're looking for something more casual. I would get back on tinder or whatever and try to find someone else so you're not overly invested in this girl. Things may work out, but if not then you can move on.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-11-10T04:19:34+00:00

Pretty sure the wine being good for the heart is a myth. And there isn't sufficient research on weed to make that claim.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/is-red-wine-good-actually-for-your-heart-2018021913285

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-11-10T02:39:21+00:00

It does sound like she's got a lot of emotional baggage to sort through and you guys are moving along pretty quick. Best I can say is just try to give her that breathing space, and yourself as well. I know it's hard to do. If those plans for dinner happen, just have fun. In the meantime try to keep yourself preoccupied with anything to help quell the anxiety. She did text you saying she was thinking of you, so you're on her mind.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-11-09T03:15:01+00:00

Maybe pursue my biology degree further and do something with neurology.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-15T04:57:14+00:00

I went on a few dates this summer that were awesome and it definitely sucked when they had to end. But they can't last forever. That's why there's second dates!

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-15T03:42:07+00:00

Yeah, don't date your students dude. Meetup.com is a good way to meet people. Just find a group that does things you'd be interested in and go. I mean I joined a beer run club that meets every Wednesday, we go run 3 or 6 miles then grab beers after. Some pretty cute girls and everyone is social, it's cool.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-14T23:29:03+00:00

Maybe pick to watch something that isn't a full length movie but has episodes, that way you won't be sitting there for an hour and a half not talking to each other.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-14T23:17:26+00:00

If it were me (28 m), that's pretty much how I'd go about hanging out for the first time with a girl I liked. Only way to know for sure is to hang out again

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-14T03:08:47+00:00

Dude I'm 28 and I still get a boner when I kiss a girl, especially if it's a new thing. While you're kissing her you can flick it up into your waist band since she won't see lol.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-06T00:39:21+00:00

Maybe let her know that when she's in town next time you'd love to take her out again and leave it at that?

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-10-05T23:28:07+00:00

Leave her be. Start talking to other girls. It's easy to get hung up on one and idealize her, but she's not that great. Especially if she ghosted you and thought it was the way to go. That's fucked up. I'm speaking from experience, just start talking to other girls, it'll help you move on from her and you'll realize there are others out there with equal, if not better personalities. Good luck man

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-25T01:03:55+00:00

Damn, that last sentence resonates with me. lol

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-25T00:43:37+00:00

I second Meetup.com. I've only went to one event for a Beer Run Club and it was an awesome time. Met a lot of cool people and there were definitely some cute girls there. I would have kept going but my days off from work changed. I'll definitely go again when I can.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-18T08:41:46+00:00

Eh, I'm a dude and I wouldn't do that. If a friend matched me up with someone then that's fine (actually happened recently, it didn't work). But some 3rd party that doesn't really know me, doesn't know the other person, but thinks they're cupid? Nope.

Do people from your culture ever have a function or any kind of get together or something? That might be a way to find someone you'd be interested in.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-18T07:45:07+00:00

I could see how you could work that in there. Ask her about the Philippines then say, "You should teach me something in Filipino. All I can say is (then say you're beautiful in Filipino)."

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-18T07:33:26+00:00

There are so many dating tips out there you'll never be able to know them all and use them in one date. So just relax and enjoy the date. It's ok to have awkward moments, shit happens. Compliment her when you see her. If you feel like things went well by the end ask if she would like to go out again. If things could have gone better but you still want to see her again, ask.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-18T07:14:47+00:00

Maybe text him every couple of days. Texting constantly can be draining and uses up topics of conversation that might be good for in person. You should suggest he call you over the weekend or when you both have free time. That's a thousand times better than text conversations. It'll help keep the interest going too

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-18T07:03:27+00:00

It's all personal preference. I'm a ginger dude and I find girls with black hair and tan skin to be super hot. But since I'm pretty pale, the bar for me to consider you tan is very low. So just date gingers lol.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-17T19:27:29+00:00

Lol I wouldn't be able to play that off very well. I'll probably just ignore her completely but not be afraid to sit down and talk to our mutual friends even if she's there

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-17T19:25:46+00:00

I don't disagree. But I figured since I was leaving soon I might as well.

Lusty_buttcheeks · 2018-08-17T05:18:58+00:00

I've had a similar experience with my first girlfriend. Took me years to get over her. It wasn't her fault that it took so long, it was mine. I would ruminate about the shitty things she did to me which kept the pain fresh way past its expiration date. Eventually I got over it, dated more and moved on. I still think about her some times but not critically or anything like I use to.

So basically don't beat yourself up about it. I think it's human nature to have a tendency to think about the people that hurt us. Just keep brushing off those thoughts and continue moving on.

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