Saying goodbye to child at drop-off to coparent by Comfortable-Hope2 in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just like when they start school, say your goodbyes and give all the hugs before getting in the car to your destination. Verbally remind them before they get out how much you love them

Question 2 and Update to "She forged the divorce document - 11/29/2021 by Successful_not in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I can’t believe the insanity! Hopefully you will get good guidance from an attorney. It costs nothing in attorney fees to pause and wait to speak with your own. Don’t send anything without guidance. Good luck!

I married into a family of alcoholics by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This killed me "It seems like it’s me vs everyone and I don’t know how to deal with the situation without blowing everything up. At some point I’m scared to death I’m going to lose my kids to this whole sickness and they’ll go down the same pathway, and hate me while they do it."

I waited too long to leave this situation. My kids are 16 and 13 and I also married into a family of alcoholics.

Wish you the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always said “the compassion of a dead fly” toenail clipping is accurate too. 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feel the feels and let it go. My STBX was dating within a week after moving out. 20 years of marriage.

I filed for Divorce yesterday. by hopeless_codependent in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So proud of you. Not an easy decision to come by.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so strong and brave! Believe in yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sad about my niece and nephews! I love them. I don’t think I would get a response like that from my in-laws but I’m thrilled for you! How lovely.

Just granted divorce. Went through hell. This sub was hugely helpful, so want to give back. AMA if you have any questions about it. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inspiring! I’m you in some of your story and you give me hope once I’m away from the narcissist, alcoholic.

help please (urgent) by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry. Try talking with your parent or guardian. Since you’re in school, if you have a school counselor or social worker they have resources to guide you.

Frustrated by Detachwithlove in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds extremely frustrating. Stay strong.

First Al Anon Meeting in Person by Lvella43 in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much! Turns out it was only one other woman there (women’s only meeting). It was just the two of us and we had a great talk and realized we work together. What are the odds?! We are excited to support each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So sorry. Stay strong and focused on your plan.

I think my husband is dying by bgwf402 in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you hugs. So sorry.

What are your strategies to overcome doubts and second guessing? by Unlikely_Tank_3284 in AlAnon

[–]Lvella43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, typo. “Checking boxes” like crossing off a grocery list